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NCSF Newsletter: 4th Quarter 2012

NCSF Newsletter
4th Quarter, 2012

In this issue

NCSF 2013 Coalition Partner Meeting in Phoenix

Scholarships Available for Annual Meeting

Support from a Leather Bar

Meet Your Board: Candidates for Reelection

Foundation Liaison to Present at Poly Living

Coalition Corner

Representing on FetLife

 NCSF 2013 Coalition Partner Meeting in Phoenix, Arizona, on February 8-10


Please mark this date in your calendars.


In order to make reservations at the Drury Inn & Suites Phoenix Airport and get the group rate of $109, please reference group #2151272 when you call 800-325-0720 or go online at


Join us for our summit on the proposed NCSF Statement on Consent on Friday evening, 7-9pm at the Drury Inn. All CP reps who can't make it to the meeting may participate via video conferencing. The Consent Statement will be released in advance of the meeting, but this will be the time to give a final yeah or nay to it before our official launch.


There will be a big party at Arizona Power Exchange (APEX) on Saturday evening that attendees of the CPmeeting may attend, however APEX requires that you become a member at least 24 hours in advance. We can sign up everyone who wants to attend on Friday evening before 8pm. APEX provides a New Member 30-day all access pass for $20.00 for 30 days which would include the party admission (which is $15.00 alone). APEX also extends reciprocal membership privileges to members of Desert Dominion, Lair De Sade North, Ohio SMART, Denver Sanctuary, Society of Janus and Threshold.


APEX has also invited everyone to their monthly BBQ on Sunday starting at noon. It's a great way to meet the local community and relax after the annual meeting.  


February in Arizona is a beautiful time for golf, swimming, sight-seeing and shopping. If you're coming in on Thursday and want to get involved in some fun on Friday during the day, please contact Susan to discuss the options we'll be organizing: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.


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Scholarships Available for Annual Meeting


Each year, the NCSF offers limited scholarships money that is available to active coalition parter representatives and key volunteers. If you are interested in applying for a scholarship, or contributing to the scholarship fund, please contact us via This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.


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Support from a Leather Bar


On November 30th, the Dallas Eagle proudly held a fundraiser to show it's support
for NCSF.
The fundraiser, entitled 7 Deadly Sins was held in conjunction with the Mr and Ms
Texas Leather 2013 meet and greet held at the Dallas Eagle.

Over 30 items were donated by various individuals, groups and local businesses
with themed items of a "deadly sin."

Although the fundraiser only lasted 2 hours, it raised awareness to those who attended and
resulted in $1000.00 raised via a silent auction.

Did you have a fundraiser for the NCSF that you'd like to share? Let us know! Email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..

Meet Your Board: Candidates for Reelection 
Jim Fleckenstein is a polyamory/non-exclusive relationships educator, researcher and activist.  He co-founded the Institute for 21st Century Relationships, now the Foundation of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF), in 2000.  A founder and former board chair of the Chesapeake Polyamory Network, he has been a polyamory and open lifestyles activist since 1998, has spoken extensively, including many Poly Living conferences and at the annual Poly Pride event in New York City, and has been interviewed by The Chicago Tribune, the Guardian(UK), and on TV and radio.
He holds a bachelor's degree with honors in Mass Communications and Politics and Public Affairs (double major) from the University of Miami, and is pursuing a Master of Public Health degree at the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality.  He is a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), and the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS).
A recognized expert, Jim has been chosen to present on poly-related topics at six AASECT and SSSS conferences, and was invited to author the Polyamory section of the U.S. chapter of theContinuum Complete International Encyclopedia of Sexuality.  He is a current member of the NCSF Board, and served as co-editor of their booklet, What Psychology Professionals Should Know About Polyamory.  He is collaborating with sociologist and author Dr. Curtis Bergstrand on research into the polyamorous community, currently working on an analysis of the largest survey ever conducted among self-identified relationally non-exclusive.persons.
Before entering his work as an activist, educator and researcher in non-traditional relationships, Jim enjoyed a very successful 28 year career as an executive in the non-profit sector, and held the prestigious Certified Association Executive credential for 24 years.
Why are you running for reelection?
I want to continue my NCSF Board service in order to continue working on the DSM Project, ongoing outreach to the therapeutic and sexuality education communities, and to work on increased outreach to the polyamorous and swinging communities within NCSF's constituencies.
At the turn of the century, Julian Wolf discovered and quickly became involved with the alternative community. Participating and performing at her first event, she quickly found her passion for service. 
In 2003 she co-founded New Mexico: the Next Generation (NM:TNG) and ran the business of the group as Chairman for seven years before stepping down before her 30th birthday. Julian served as the first Ms. Rio Grande Leather (2004) and has assisted with every annual conference in various capacities. In 2005, the New Mexico Leather League (NMLL) was formed. A charter, and still current member, Julian served on the board for five consecutive terms. In 2006, she won Albuquerque Pride's title of "Ms New Mexico Pride" and met or exceeded the goals for that year. In 2008, Julian took a position as Administrative Assistant with Equality New Mexico (EQNM), New Mexico's statewide LGBT advocacy organization and served full time until she left in good standing.
As a wordsmith, Julian wrote Carnal Conundrums, a Sex Positive Advice Column for New Mexico launched online in early 2009, is a freelance writer, and is contributes both a column (the Hedonist Dandy) and the occasional article for Fearless Press. In 2010, she also started working on-call for the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF). Julian is also a educator; offering classes and workshops locally, internationally, and as a member of the Kink Academy faculty, virtually. 
An egalitarian sadomasochistic dandy, Julian is a heavy switch who loves to play and has a particular affinity for impact in addition to fetishes for feet and hair. Julian looks to surround herself with fun loving, intelligent people who know how to ask for what they want and are serious about their passions. Please feel free to peruse to learn more.
Why are you running for reelection?
I feel that I have much more to do. My first term on the NCSF board was greatly training, and I was recently given the go ahead to spearhead several projects, and I look forward to managing these. In the upcoming term, I am hoping to expand our newsletter, maintain a regular schedule for media updates utilizing volunteers, broaden our base of contributing writers, and continue outreach to NCSF constituents, and potential members. 
Professionally, Kevin Carlson owned and ran a multi state property management company for 10 years with 200 plus employees.  He worked with the company for over 20 years and sold the company due to the nature of the industry trends at that point in time. 
He started a contracting business, doing a mix of residential and commercial renovations. 
During one of those contracts he was working for a private school and they offered me the facility management position to run the buildings, computers, major remodeling as owners rep working to keep contracts on schedule and on budget with the general contractors. He also managed four servers and over 200 workstations, including WAN connectivity for them.  
After leaving them, Kevin went back into contracting, still working with residential and small commercial jobs.
In addition to the above, from the age of 20, he has consulted and assisted small businesses with computer management and planning. This included simple maintenance, long term planning, and server installation. 

Kevin's Non Profit History

  • Idaho Retriever Club. Active member for over 25 years, doing jobs from bird steward, grounds management, scheduling and Treasurer.
  • Involved with several Fair Housing agencies while employed with the property management company.
  • Ducks Unlimited. Active for over 10 years, supportive member, assisted with one of the ladies chapters from a background standpoint in their annual event. This event turned out to be one of the largest fund raisers for DU that year. I was also Treasurer for one of the larger local chapters for 2 years.
  • BBDSMS, Inc. (Boise BDSM Society). Member since 2002, a founding member. I have held several offices and positions over the years. This included Secretary, Events Coordinator for over 4 years, instructor and general support.  I am involved with both short term and long term management. 
  • Boise Pride. Providing background support to the management. Grounds planning, safety concerns, set up, tear down, long term planning. Currently, on the board of directors and holds the position of Events Coordinator.
  • The Community Center (TCC). Joined the Board of Directors in December 2008, assisted with rewriting of their bylaws
  • NCSF - Board Member for 4 years, currently running the KAP program and IT Director, focusing on timely responses and expansion to both the professional that may want to list on the data base and also to the end user. Worked with Laura Carlson and Leigha Fleming drafting the revisions of the 501c (4) bylaws. Always willing to do more to make NCSF even better.


Why are you running for reelection?

Generally, I consider myself a well rounded person. I enjoy what I do. My focus in the communities is on acceptance and bringing the voice of acceptance to all. A big part of what is going to provide acceptance is education to those who may not be aware. Without education, tolerance is out of the question. We are just people like anyone else, with jobs, families, friends and all those bills. I believe in the voice of the NCSF and its activities to further acceptance for all.
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Foundation Liaison to Present at Poly Living Conference 

Although he'd love to be in Phoenix for the Annual CP Meeting, NCSF board member and NCSF Foundation liaison Jim Fleckenstein will be in Philadelphia that weekend instead.  Jim will be presenting at the annual Poly Living Conference, sponsored by the Loving More nonprofit, and representing NCSF at this major annual gathering of the polyamory community.  Jim will be presenting on the results of the largest ever survey of the non-exclusive relationship community, an effort sponsored by Loving More and endorsed by NCSF.  NCSF's outreach to the polyamory community is an essential part of our overall mission to support all of our constituencies, and unfortunately, the revised dates of the CP meeting coincided with this major polyamory community event.  "I regret having to miss the CP meeting this year, " Fleckenstein noted, "but this continuing commitment to reach out to the polyamory community is a very important priority for NCSF and for me personally."


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Coalition Corner  

Are you or your group a Coalition Partner of the NCSF? We'd love to feature you in our newsletter! Coalition Corner is designed as a both a thank you and a way to introduce our constituents to the voting members of our organization. 
The interview process is simple. Our newsletter organizer Julian Wolf sends your CP Representative an email with four questions, and once answered, you're all set! Our newsletter reaches thousands of inboxes and can be read anytime on our website; it's a great way to get the word out about your organization.  
Would you like to have your organization featured? Please contact Julian viaThis email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..
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Representing on FetLife 


Find the NCSF on the world's most popular free social network for the BDSM, Fetish & Kinky communities!

NCSF - National Coalition For Sexual Freedom News
NCSF Volunteers
Consent Counts

and members can even list the NCSF as a Fetish on their profiles!

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