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NCSF Newsletter: 4th Quarter 2015

NCSF Newsletter
4th Quarter, 2015
edited by Julian Wolf

In this Issue

Save the Date for the NCSF Coalition Partner Meeting!

Message from the Chair

Save the Date for the NCSF Consent Summit!

Incident Reporting & Response

NCSF sponsors BDSM Writers Con

Results of Mental & Emotional Health Study

NCSF Thanks!

Daily Flogger Satire

Media Updates

Representing on FetLife

Save the Date for the NCSF Coalition Partner Meeting!

NCSF's Annual Coalition Partner Meeting will take place March 4-6, 2016, in San Jose, CA.

"The annual meeting gives NCSF's Coalition Partners the opportunity to tell the board where our focus should be in the coming year," says Chairman Kevin Carlson. "It's also their time to give us feedback on how we're conducting the day-to-day business of NCSF. The Board and staff are looking forward to gathering in Silicon Valley with our Coalition Partners to continue the good work of NCSF."

Friday, March 4th - Coalition Partner representatives Meet & Greet - 7-9 pm
Saturday, March 5th - Annual Coalition Partner's Meeting - 9-5pm
Sunday, March 6th - Annual Coalition Partner's Meeting - 9-noon
Sunday, March 6th - Consent Counts Discussion - 1-3pm


Fairfield Inn & Suites San Jose Airport
1755 North First Street San Jose, CA 95112

You may make reservations by calling the reservation line at 1-800-228-2800 or make online reservations: Book your group rate for NCSF

$104 - $124 on March 4-5
$220 for additional nights on March 3 or March 6 (15% off of the published rate)

NCSF staff, Board members and Coalition Partner reps are also invited to San Francisco's Leather Alliance Weekend events taking place throughout the weekend. Saturday evening is the Mr. SF Leather Contest - let us know if you're interested in attending. San Francisco is about an hour away from San Jose.

Message from the Chair
By Kevin Carlson

It's been a positive year for the NCSF. We have crossed several items off our list, including a membership database system that works great! (If you're not a member or need to renew, go to today.) Our latest survey was published which you can view here:, and we started working with the American Law Institute to revise the Model Penal Code on sexual assault. Read more on this exciting project here ALI Article. This are just a few of our accomplishments. GO TEAM!

Looking around the corner, we have our NCSF Annual Business Meeting with our Coalition Partners on March 5-6 in San Jose. Our Coalition Partner, smOdyssey, will sponsor the meeting where our CPs come together to outline our course and direction for the next year and beyond. If you have something you want to suggest, This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..

We are also hosting, in conjunction with the Center for Sex Positive Culture and the Seattle Erotic Arts Festival, our first ever all day long Consent Summit with a Keynote lunch and a variety of classes to select from on April 23rd.

And don't forget about Consent Month in September! Ask your group to plan a workshop to take place in September and let us know so we'll put it on our Consent Month Calendar.

Look for us around the country this year at an event near you. You're always invited to stop by our table and say "Hi!" If you want to book us for your event, just contact us and we will work to make it happen.

We are looking forward to another year of positive growth and achievements. See you soon!

Kevin Carlson
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Save the Date for the NCSF Consent Summit!
April 23rd at the Center for Sex Positive Culture in Seattle, WA
in association with the Erotic Arts Festival
The Consent Summit is an all-day event of workshops and discussions on consent

Incident Reporting & Response - 4th Quarter 2015 report
By Susan Wright
Director of IRR

NCSF's Incident Reporting & Response received 28 requests for assistance from individuals, groups and businesses in October, November and December. NCSF maintains the confidentiality of those who come to us for help. However we balance that need with the need to report the services we are providing and to provide the community with a record of where the need is the greatest.

Here is a breakdown of the cases we dealt with in the 4th quarter of 2015:


There were 9 requests for resources and information involving kink and criminal law. 5 of those requests came from people complaining about a kink-related assault/sexual assault who needed assistance in connecting with kink-aware victim services, and resources to educate law enforcement, investigators and prosecutors. There were 3 requests for resources and for referrals for kink aware expert professionals from people accused of consent violations. 1 request involved photographs taken from FetLife.


There were 8 requests for help involving BDSM and Lifestyle groups. 4 groups asked for advice on dealing with consent violations: 2 were dealing with members who committed consent violations and 2 were getting advice on how to deal with any violations that may occur. 2 groups asked for assistance in setting up a club, dealing with zoning and local authorities and insurance. 2 groups faced media harassment.

Child Custody/Divorce

There were 5 child custody cases in the last three months. 2 requests involved a professional dominatrix fighting a Child Protective Services investigation. 1 request involved polyamory and 1 involved both polyamory and BDSM. 1 case involved photos taken from FetLife that were brought into family court to expose the parent's involvement with kink.


4 professionals asked NCSF for information and resources to assist in them in providing their services. These included therapists, teachers and graduate students.


Like last quarter, there were only 2 cases of discrimination this quarter. There was a probate case involving kink, and another person was discriminated against by her doctor when she tried to get a rape kit done.

If you need NCSF's help because of discrimination or to remove kink as a barrier to service, please contact our Incident Reporting & Response today! Email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

Please join now or donate to support NCSF's direct services!



NCSF sponsors BDSM Writers Con 
March 31-April 3
Everett, Washington
NCSF has sponsored and presented at the BDSM Writers Con in New York for two years.  Now in its fourth year, this spring the conference is expanding to the West Coast. On March 31st through April 3rd, the conference is being held in Everett, Washington. The conference educates writers and readers about the reality of BDSM and how our communities function, including the importance of consent. If you are an author, want to be an author or are an avid reader of BDSM, you should attend. We've seen a change in how many of the authors treat BDSM in their fictions since attending this conference. Joey W. Hill, a bestselling award-winning author, included NCSF in her recent book acknowledgement for Soul Rest. NCSF believes this is an important way for us to influence public opinion in a positive way. And, the writers always do fundraising for NCSF to support our important work.
This is a very fun and interesting conference and we highly encourage our supporters to attend. In addition to a weekend package, they have day passes for $99, a great dungeon party/ball on Saturday night open to non-conference attendees, and a book signing and meet the authors that are free and open to the public on Sunday. The dungeon party will be held at the conference hotel and the hotel is offering a special room rate of $65 for those who want to attend and stay the night
Check it out at We hope to see you there!

Results of NCSF Mental & Emotional Health Study

University of Alabama and University of Central Florida researchers surveyed over 800 kinky people recruited by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) and found they were mentally and emotionally healthy. Click here to see the study.
"I was curious about the stereotypes from a mental health standpoint and we found that these kinky people are well functioning, with little mental health concerns," says Tess M. Gemberling, M.A., Co-Principal Investigator, University of Alabama. "They also have healthy romantic relationships."
The study, "Psychological Functioning and Violence Victimization and Perpetration in BDSM Practitioners from the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom," also investigated people's preferences for BDSM activities and fantasies, and explored whether violence is perpetuated against kinky people. It joins a growing body of research that refutes the stereotype that people who are kinky are inherently dangerous to themselves and others, which is at the root of the discrimination and persecution that kinky people experience.
"I wanted to explore more about how the stereotypes interface with reality," says Matt R. Nobles, Ph.D., Co-Principal Investigator, University of Central Florida. "Although more than half of the people in this study have been victims of violence or aggression, extremely few had perpetrated such themselves."
In the study, 7.7% of participants reported they had been victims of a BDSM-based hate crime, while 10.2% of participants reported they had been victims of an LGBT-based hate crime.
"Parallel to my work with sexual minorities, my interest is in looking at the nature of identity and mental health in a vulnerable group of people," says Robert J. Cramer, Ph.D., Co-Principal Investigator, University of Alabama. "Contrary to popular perceptions, our study shows kinky persons are largely mentally healthy when it comes to conditions such as depression, anxiety and suicide."
The study also confirms that for these kinksters it's primarily about consensual power exchange, with 98% preferring to take a specific power exchange role during BDSM. The most commonly reported practices were spanking, slapping and biting, and the use of sexual toys and equipment.
"Lawmakers can help by legally recognizing informed consent as the basis of healthy BDSM behavior," says Susan Wright, spokesperson for NCSF. "BDSM is intended to be a mutually beneficial experience that is done by consenting adults."

NCSF Thanks!

Coalition Partner, The Mark - CPI, donated $1,000 in October to NCSF.

Coalition Partner, House of Two Wolves, donated $900 to NCSF from their fundraiser.

Coalition Partner, Kink LINCS/ GLPW donated $819 to NCSF in December as their annual fundraiser.

Dick Cunningham and Judy Guerin raised $652 for the NCSF Foundation at their annual Dark Odyssey Halloween party.

T3WD held a fundraiser on behalf of the House of Decorum to raise funds for the Coalition Partner donation. They raised over $600 for the NCSF membership group.

Coalition Partner, the DC Sub Club, raised $639 at the DC Sub Club Holiday Party to donate to NCSF.

Coalition Partner, The New Mexico Leather League, donated $500 to NCSF in early January as their annual CP fundraiser.

The winner of the 50/50 NCSF Fund Raiser was a first-time guest to F.L.O.G. in St. Louis named Kevin, who immediately donated his 50% prize ($160) back to the fund, giving NCSF a donation of $320.

Coalition Partner, The Red Chair, donated $377 from their fundraiser in October.

Coalition Partner, Foundation for Sex Positive Culture, raised $303.54 on September 25thin a combination workshop and play party, called "Consent On The Edge" with the tagline: "Be bold! Ask for what you want! An event celebrating Consent Month presented jointly by the Center and Foundation for Sex Positive Culture to benefit the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom."

Thank you to Henry Reynolds for donating $100 to the NCSF.

And thank you to Patrick Mulcahey for donating $100 to the NCSF Foundation!

Numbers count when we advocate for you, and the bigger we are, the harder our voice is to ignore. There is no other group that fights for kink and nonmonogamy like NCSF does. We help people in need, groups under siege, and businesses opposed by sex-negative bureaucracy.
We can't do it without your support. Thank you for donating to NCSF!

BDSMers Create First Kinky SuperPAC
The Daily Flogger

A group of enterprising kinksters have created KINKPAC, the worlds first BDSM themed political action committee.

According to Master Sven, the PAC leader and spokesperson, the group will lobby for rights for kinksters, as well as provide funding for candidates who are BDSM-positive and promote "rights for sexual minorities."

The response to KINKPAC from the BDSM community has been varied.  Almost immediately a second group formed KINKIERPAC, claiming that KINKPAC was "not edgy enough" and "needed to support more than just traditional kinks."

Within a week, 3 other PACs were formed, including a PAC to eliminate all "kink-based" PACs based on the belief that "working inside the system is impossible for true sexual outlaws."

According to Master Sven, the whole issue may actually be moot.  "Unfortunately no one in the community really has any money to donate.  We have received multiple offers from people for couches to sleep on if we are ever in their town and a donation of a dream catcher made of sticks and packing twine which was crafted at a class on pain and aura cleansing by a BDSM Shaman."

According to one insider, KINKPAC faces internal struggles as well, as they have been unable to decide on an agenda for the upcoming election cycle.
Read more at the Daily Flogger website.

Media Updates and Web Features

NCSF Media Updates are a sampling of recent stories printed in US newspapers, magazines, and selected websites containing significant mention of BDSM-leather-fetish, polyamory, or swing issues and topics. These stories may be positive, negative, accurate, inaccurate or anywhere in between.

Here's a sample of three of our recent featured stories:

85 Year Old French Dominatrix from Bedford & Bowery
Why Some Powerful Men Like Getting Tied Up from NY Mag
My Journey To Polyamory from PopSugar

NCSF publishes the Updates to provide readers with a comprehensive look at what media outlets are writing about these topics and to urge everyone to make comments that dispute stereotypes about alternative sexuality. NCSF permits and encourages readers to forward these Updates where appropriate.

You can sign up to receive our emails here or check our blog at our website here.


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