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Poly Expecting Mother Wanted by Discovery Channel

on Tuesday, 02 June 2009. Posted in Media Updates

Discovery is producing a new documentary series for Discovery Health Channel that explores pregnancy through the eyes of various expecting mothers. For this installment, we would like to feature a woman in a poly family, due to give birth between June and August of this year. The goal of this episode is to illustrate a nurturing, alternative family group as they welcome in a new life.

$1500.00 will be awarded to each of our expecting mothers for their participation, which consists of five, non-consecutive days of filming. It is my hope that you will present this opportunity to the members of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.

Interested parties may contact me directly via phone or email. If you have any questions, I'd be happy to answer them. Sirens Media produces award-winning series for Discovery, Bravo, TruTV and Animal Planet. For more information please visit

Warm Regards,

Nikki Dosedel

Sirens Media


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May Tickler:Annual Meeting and more!

on Tuesday, 02 June 2009. Posted in Media Updates

Hello All!

It looks like some of the information about the annual meeting got truncated! Here's ALL of the information you need about the annual meeting:

Our annual meeting is just around the corner, June 6 and 7th in Dallas, TX.

Lots of information is packed in this email. Please read all of it! Please email Leigha at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. if you have any questions. Alternatively, you can call her cell phone at 443-280-0457.

Here is what you will find in this update:

1- hotel info

2- tentative annual meeting agenda

The annual report and committee reports will be available after the meeting.


We will have the annual meeting in Dallas, TX at the Marriott Residence Inn at the DFW Airport. The address is:

Marriott Residence Inn

8600 Esters Blvd

Irving, TX 75063

Ph: 972.871.1331

Ph: 972 574 8888 for airport shuttle pick up

The hotel url is:

We’ve gotten a terrific deal - $89 a night plus tax for either a one bedroom or a studio suite.

Studio Suites: use code: NCSNCSB

One Bedroom Suites: use code: NCSNCSA

The hotel serves a complimentary hot buffet breakfast 7 days per week. There is shuttle service between the hotel and the DFW airport.

Dallas/Fort Worth - DFW

1- Hotel direction: 3 miles N

2- Driving Directions from DFW: Take the North airport exit. Look for exit Hwy 114 East. Proceed on Hwy 114 East Exit Esters Blvd. Turn left. Hotel is on your right about 1 mile. Complimentary Shuttle hours are 8AM-10PM Monday through Friday; Weekend courtesy shuttle is limited; call hotel for more information on weekend shuttle services.

3- Airport shuttle service, on request, complimentary (call Phone: 1 972 574 8888)

If anyone experiences a message that they can not book online, have them contact the hotel directly and we will identify the problem on this end. If you plan to stay Thursday and/or Sunday nights as well, please contact the hotel directly to book as they will not be able to book it online.


Friday June 5th –

BBQ Cookout poolside at 8pm at the hotel!

Saturday June 6th

9:30am-9:45am – Welcome

9:45am-10:30am – Ice Breaker & Introductions

10:30am-12:30am – Year in Review Reports

- Message from the Chair

- KAP Report

- Media Report

- Communications Report

- Marketing (CP Stewardship is here)

- Membership

- Outreach

12:30pm-1:30pm – We will provide a working lunch.

We will have speakers in from various Dallas metro area groups and the new IML will stop by!

1:30pm-1:45pm – Break

1:45pm-3:00pm– Year in Review Reports (continued)

- IT Report (including Salesforce)

- Marketing & CP Stewardship

- Incident Response

- Development Report

- 2008 Financial Review and 2009 to date.

3:00-4:15pm - Break Out Groups – Where are we going??

4:15pm-5:00pm – Wrap up break out groups & adjourn

Saturday Evening-


7pm -9pm

Munch invite by the DFW Power Exchange

Invite to Hardy Haberman’s demo


Invite to Sanctuary party

You and any guests MUST RSVP and wear your NCSF badges to attend these optional events.

The munch begins at 7pm and is off site. The party is also off site and begins at 9pm. If you are not attending the munch, should plan to arrive *no earlier than* 9pm. Doors close to the party at 10:00pm.

Sunday – June 7, 2009

9:15am-9:30am – Welcome

9:30am – 9:45am – NCSF’s Volunteer of the Year

9:45am - 10:15am – Elections

10:15am – 11:00am – The union of the two (c)3 and (c)4

11:00am-12:00pm – More Committee Reports

- Bylaws Amendments

- 2010 Budget

12:000pm – 12:15pm – Take aways

1:00pm – 3:00pm – NCSF & You Workshop by Susan Wright

Rebecca Standley
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

PRESS RELEASE: “Erotic Services” Denied: Craigslist and Attorneys General Are Putting Sex Workers At Risk

on Thursday, 14 May 2009. Posted in Media Updates

This is a collaborative press release - please distribute and repost widely!


Dylan WolAdd New Post ‹ Ncsf’s Blog — WordPressfe - Sex Workers Action New York (SWANK), This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

Will Rockwell - $pread Magazine, This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

Audacia Ray - Sex Work Awareness (SWA), This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

Susan Blake - Prostitutes of New York (PONY), This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

Michael Bottoms - Sex Workers Outreach Project - New York City (SWOP-NYC), This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

With Craigslist’s recent announcement that its Erotic Services category will be discontinued within the week, hundreds of thousands of erotic service providers will become more vulnerable to dangerous predators. Eliminating erotic listings as Connecticut Attorney General Richard Blumenthal and others propose will only drive us further underground.

Policing the masseuses, phone workers, pro-dominants, and escorts using Craigslist fails to protect those of us who are coerced into the sex industry. Preventing the use of Craigslist advertisements also eliminates the advantage of screening clients online, which makes for a safer work experience by filtering out potentially dangerous individuals. Furthermore, keeping us offline hinders police investigations of violent crime. In the Boston murder of Julissa Brisman, it was online tracking that enabled the police to identify the suspect. One has to wonder: are the Attorneys General examining the evidence or simply enforcing their moral values?

“Removing the erotic services category from Craigslist does not help prevent violence against escorts and other sex workers. It only pushes me and people like me out of the places where advertising is available,” said Jessica Bloom, a sex worker from Sex Workers Action New York (SWANK). In the face of increasing criminalization, we insist upon respect. As mothers, daughters, brothers, and members of your community, we claim that sex work is real work, work that we are entitled to conduct in safety. As such, we must be accorded the human right of full protection under the law.

**EDIT** an addendum. I just typed this up in response to a Facebook friend asking what he could do to help. Here are some suggestions:

You can totally help, mostly by speaking up and jumping into the fray!

Legislation about consensual adult sex work (not trafficking, coercion, or child prostitution) mostly happens on the state level - since you’re in NY, you can find your assembly person here: - write to him or her and tell them how you feel about the risks created and perpetuated by continued criminalizing of sex work and cracking down on advertising

Write letters to the editor of newspapers that publish misguided pieces about how the elimination of craigslist erotic services will “help” women

Comment on blog posts and online articles (if you’ve got the stomach for it!)

And check out the very excellent and thorough reports on research done by the Sex Workers Project to arm yourself with statistics

(original post: HERE)


on Wednesday, 13 May 2009. Posted in NCSF News

Lolita has all the characteristics of a great teacher; vivacious, quick to laughter, earnest and forthright, and possesses a delicate patience. She is the author of two books, one on spanking, another on cock-and-ball torture (CBT); and is a charismatic activist in the BDSM community. Friday, as she drove to DC for her upcoming Whole DC-sponsored seminar, I had the pleasure to discuss with her the role of kink in sex, and in life. For more about Lolita, see the full interview below or check out her blog. (Warning, the blog is definitely not work-appropriate.)

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NCSF Spring Newsletter: Catalina, TNG, Retreat and Tabu!

on Tuesday, 05 May 2009. Posted in NCSF News

In this issue:

Catalina Loves The NCSF

NCSF Board Retreat: Change, the Time Is Now

Darian Il Re on Baltimore's TNG

Tabu Social Club: Swing Fundraiser for thr NCSF


This Quarter's Newsletter was the most fun to write.  It features several different community perspectives, inclduing an article by Catalina Loves, talking about how the NCSF helped her in a critical moment in her life; a youth group in Baltimore that serves to help newcomers find their second skin, Tabu Social Club a success story for the NCSF Incident Response Program and a lively swing community space, and the new changes the NCSF is facing to better serve you resultant from our first ever joint board retreat.  This issue is indicative of the new communications you should expect to see from the NCSF, highlighting not just the critical threats facing us, but the joy our community has and the beauty we aim to share with the world--and now with color pictures and more content!

I hope you enjoy, and don't forget that now your stories, your opinions and your writing can be featured in the NCSF blog and newsletter so submit yours to: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

-Klawdya Rothschild


on Monday, 04 May 2009. Posted in Media Updates

Want to know what we've been working on at the NCSF?  Here are the summaries from our departments!

INCLUDED: Vivienne - Treasurer, Tim Murray - Marketing, Klawdya Rothschild - Membership,Klawdya Rothschild - Newsletter/Web 2.0, Levi – Office,Vicki Ballinger - Outreach Coordinator,Susan Wright – Media Outreach

Vivienne- Treasurer

NCSF participated in an evening discussion at Leather Leadership Conference in Atlanta. Spearheaded by Richard Sprott, Executive Director of CARAS, representatives from LA&M, LLC National and NSCF joined Richard for an early dinner. The four organizations shared their current and future projects, issues of the day and explored the possibility of working together on a joint event.

Vivienne Kramer, Board Member, and Vicki B. Outreach Coordinator, spoke for NCSF and will continue to participate in any joint committee work. It was a productive discussion and was very encouraging to have all parties present and cooperative.

Our annual Coalition Partner meeting will be held in Dallas on June 6th and 7th of 2009.We will be at a hotel close to DFW to enable easy in and out transportation; the name will be disclosed as soon as the contract is signed. Room night rates are $89 plus tax and include hot breakfast both Saturday and Sunday. Please talk to your group about sponsoring your trip to Dallas. It is truly an amazing meeting that leaves activists renewed and re-energized for the coming year. The agenda for the weekend will be developed shortly but we typically meet 9:30-4:30 on Saturday and 9:30 am to 12 on Sunday. We are also trying to make arrangements with the local club for a Saturday evening entertainment option. NCSF has a working board that tries hard all year to keep the organization running but it's YOU - the Coalition Partners - that hold the power. There will be elections, budget review and many reports on activities. Please join us.

Tim Murray - Marketing

NCSF Fundraiser-In-A-Box:

Coming soon to the CP's will be a fundraiser template. A collection of best practices, resources and concepts complete with professionally designed flyers, posters & more for the CP's to easily throw fundraisers of various sizes. We want being a Coalition Partner to feel easy and beneficial to all parties involved. So let us take off some of the stress. Watch for it soon.

Klawdya Rothschild - Membership

In an ongoing effort to increase communications efficiency and maximize funds, the NCSF Memberships are going Paper Free! Not only with this increase membership process time, and save the NCSF thousands of dollars, but is also much more eco friendly! Following in the footsteps of the ACLU and AASECT, who converted to paper free memberships and renewals years ago, we will also link our paper-free membership system to Salesforce, which will help us organize and maintain better email lists, keeping our constituents better informed!

Klawdya Rothschild - Newsletter/Web 2.0

The Newsletter has been changed from bi-annual to quarterly and increased from 2 to 4 pages in an attempt to deliver more information, and serve the community better and more frequently. With that in mind, the NCSF has also embraced Web 2.0 with such things as the blog: http://ncsf.wordpress.comand keep you up to date on news, both good and bag, that pertains to our mission and related communities! We aim to show the positive and strong aspects of our community as well as inform when tragedy strikes and alert when action is needed—with this in mind we have decided to accept article submissions from all members of our communities for both our blog and website. Email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. submit articles on events, books, art, news and more of interest to our communities and affiliate communities!

Levi – Office

It’s spring, and lots of change is in the air at our national office!

We have received our t-shirts from the printer – same great design, now with the NCSF logo on the front (so you can wear our colors proudly, even under a bar vest or jacket!). Please email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. to place your order.

If you have not yet emailed the office to confirm your contact info, alternate rep (and their contact info), please do! We still have many question marks on our contact list, and want to make sure that all of your information is going to the right place.

Levi will be moving to California later this summer, and NCSF is looking to hire a new part-time Office Manager to run the Baltimore office. Please contact This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. to request a copy of our advertisement for the position if you or someone you know would be interested. Note: the office manager must be local or within reasonable driving distance of Baltimore, MD.

Vicki Ballinger - Outreach Coordinator

There are several events happening across the country worth mentioning

May 1-2

Kinko De Mayo - Ohio

May 1-3

Seattle Erotic Art Festival - Washington

May 1-3

Tribal Fire - Oklahoma

May 7-10

Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality Western Region Conference - California

May 13-17

ASSECT Annual Conference - Arizona

May 21-26

Camp Crucible - Pennsylvania

May 22-25

International Mr Leather, Illinois

May 22-25

Shibaricon - Illinois

If you are having an event, please consider including the NCSF in your event. The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is the only national organization devoted to creating a political, legal, and social environment in the United States that advances the rights of consenting adults who practice forms of alternative sexual expression. We depend on support from events like yours to operate, so that we may continue to serve our constituents - like you! As a grassroots, volunteer driven organization primarily focused on the rights of consenting adults in the SM-leather-fetish, swing, and polyamory communities, we are always looking for ways to increase awareness of our projects and funds to continue operating. There are a number of ways that we can work together to make this happen. Write This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. if you would like NCSF info at your event!

Thank you for considering adding the NCSF to your plans!

Susan Wright – Media Outreach

Susan worked with NY Times reporter Jennifer Mascio on an article about the false arrests of professional Dominatrices for prostitution in NYC, arranging and sitting in on the interviews with several pro-Dommes, as well as getting a statement from one pro-Domme who was arrested. Jennifer says the article will be published at the end of April. So far, Susan has received over 20 inquiries about the pro-Domme arrests. This month she wrote to Police Commissioner Kelly asking for a meeting to discuss the issue.

Along with the interview to the NY Times, Susan gave 6 interviews to reporters with The New York Times Magazine (DSM and the paraphilias), Boston Phoenix (about the persecution of the BDSM community in Boston), NY Blade (regarding the murder of WABC host George Webber), Hustler (about Dressing for Pleasure and BDSM in general), SF Chronicle (on whether Obama will be a pro-sex president), and a Swedish journalist researching child custody and poly issues. Susan's letter to the editor about the top 50 influential people in the sexual freedom movement was published in the March issue of Playboy.

Susan is coordinating people and groups in NYC who are interested in working with the NY Health Department to obtain waivers for sex clubs that incorporate safe sex and harm reduction activities as part of their operation, including counseling and free HIV testing. The first meeting was at the Queer Justice League's April 2nd meeting, and the next will be at Paddles at 8pm on May 7th .

This new working group is an outgrowth of the Stop the Arrests Coalition.

Susan did website reviews for Ohio SMART's Kinko de Mayo, smOdyssey's Northeast Leather Celebration, and The Mark by CPI in Tennessee.

Lisa Vandever put out an Entertainment Media Update on American Swing, in which she said, "Though the 1970s styles and sensibilities on display in "American Swing" inspire some easy mockery, overall the documentary takes a respectful and even-handed stance towards its subject and the individuals involved--and towards swinging on the whole. In recounting their experiences at Plato's Retreat, many of those interviewed seem nearly reverential as they recall the sense of sexual freedom they discovered at the club, a good thirty years prior."

NCSF also received a thank you, as did many people who assisted in Brad Saragin's research on "Hormonal changes and couple bonding in consensual sadomasochistic activity," which is published in the current issue of Archives of Sexual Behavior. A PDF of the article can be found at The full reference is as follows:

Sagarin, B. J., Cutler, B., Cutler, N., Lawler-Sagarin, K. A., & Matuszewich, L. (2009). Hormonal changes and couple bonding in consensual sadomasochistic activity. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 38, 186-200.

I hope you’ve enjoyed your look into the activities of the NCSF. Please look for another edition of the NCSF Tickler in May.


on Monday, 13 April 2009. Posted in Media Updates


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Let the WORLD KNOW:  I want equal access to ALL Sexual Minority, Sexual Health and Sexual Freedom Literature! Discrimination (repost)

on Monday, 13 April 2009. Posted in Media Updates

Reposted from: Mark R. Probst
Amazon Follies

* Apr. 12th, 2009 at 2:08 AM

On two days ago, mysteriously, the sales rankings disappeared from two newly-released high profile gay romance books: "Transgressions" by Erastes and "False Colors" by Alex Beecroft. Everybody was perplexed. Was it a glitch of some sort? The very next day HUNDREDS of gay and lesbian books simultaneously lost their sales rankings, including my book "The Filly." There was buzz, What's going on? Does Amazon have some sort of campaign to suppress the visibility of gay books? Is it just a major glitch in the system? Many of us decided to write to Amazon questioning why our rankings had disappeared. Most received evasive replies from customer service reps not versed in what was happening. As I am a publisher and have an Amazon Advantage account through which I supply Amazon with my books, I had a special way to contact them. 24 hours later I had a response:

In consideration of our entire customer base, we exclude "adult" material from appearing in some searches and best seller lists. Since these lists are generated using sales ranks, adult materials must also be excluded from that feature.

Hence, if you have further questions, kindly write back to us.

Best regards,

Ashlyn D
Member Services Advantage

Yes, it is true. Amazon admits they are indeed stripping the sales ranking indicators for what they deem to be "adult" material. Of course they are being hypocritical because there is a multitude of "adult" literature out there that is still being ranked - Harold Robbins, Jackie Collins, come on! They are using categories THEY set up (gay and lesbian) to now target these books as somehow offensive.

Now in fairness I should point out that Amazon has also stopped ranking many books in the "erotica" categories as well which includes straight erotica. But that's a whole other battle that I'll leave to the erotica writers to take on.

Now I could probably convince the automatons at Amazon that The Filly is YA and therefore not "adult" in the least, and I could probably even convince them to reinstate my ranking. But if they are excluding books just on the basis of being "gay" then by all means exclude mine too because I don't want them just to reinstate the "nice" gay books, they need to reinstate all the gay books and if they are really going to try and exclude so-called "adult" material, then how come this has an Amazon ranking?
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