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How To Have Kinky Sex During Pregnancy, According To An Expert

on Saturday, 17 August 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates


"Romper spoke with Madison Young, sex educator, mother, parenting podcaster, and author of The Ultimate Guide to Sex through Pregnancy and Motherhood about how to embrace kink while pregnant, how to talk about it, and how to enjoy safely."

19 07 27

Champagne club allowed to remain open

on Wednesday, 14 August 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Fort Wayne's NBC

The future of a swingers club was up in the air at Tuesday’s council meeting. A vote Tuesday night on a proposed ordinance that aimed to declare live sex act businesses a nuisance, saying they “contribute to the spread of sexually transmitted diseases.”

There is one swingers club currently operating in Fort Wayne, the Champagne Club on Nuttman Ave.

If the ordinance had passed , the club would have been forced to close. Some councilmen said the facts given to the council weren’t strong enough to prove swingers clubs posed a health risk to the community.

After an intense and extensive council meeting the swingers club ordinance was dismissed. The vote was 3-3 and councilmen Ensley abstained from voting. Therefore the swingers club can operate as it has been.

It was standing room only in Tuesday’s council meeting as members of the swingers club lined the back of the room. An attorney for the club gave the council stats about the Champagne Club.

The attorney said there are 15,281 individual members with 19% of those being residents of Fort Wayne. In order to be part of the club the attorney says you have to pay to be a member, and pass a background check. Everyone brings their own alcohol, the doors are always locked, and there are no windows to the establishment. The attorney added that the club brings an economic benefit for the community saying they estimate $5-$10 million in tourism revenue.

One swinger says there is a misconception of what actually happens at a swingers club.

“You go there, you meet lifestyle members, like minded members. It’s just a fun place, a safe place it’s just a fun place to be at. A lot of dancing, a lot of flirting, a lot of love,” he said.

Some councilmen said the Champagne Club puts Fort Wayne in a bad light. While others argued that those who go the the swingers clubs are grown adults making their own decisions. Throughout the discussion of the ordinance morality was talked about extensively.

“I don’t think government should be involved. Once I draw that line saying this person’s morality is better than that person’s where do I stop,” said John Crawford.

“I, in good conscience, can not be an advocate and use the weight of my position to advocate for something I think is immoral. I am also very interested in limited government and I didn’t feel comfortable using the authority and force of government,” said Paul Ensley.

“You have to draw the distinction. Is it morality that affects the public at large, verses not? My morality might be different than others, and when it comes to just a strictly moral decision it’s a slippery slope if you start making those decisions purely on morality,” said Michael Barranda. ...

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NCSF sent the following letter to all of the Fort Wayne City Council Members on July 30, 2019:

Dear City Council Members,

I am writing on behalf of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom which consists of 92 Coalition Partners that are groups, clubs and events. We are writing in support of Champagne Club, a private membership club with strict rules of admission. It is not a business that is open to the general public, so people don’t walk in off the street. The members’ personal information is taken with their membership application, so everyone is on record and agrees to the rules before entering the club.

There have been no issues with the Champagne Club, which means there is no reason for the City Council to oppose this club on the grounds of public safety. If you object because of moral reasons, then you personally shouldn’t join this club—however, City Councilmembers aren’t elected to impose your own morality on others. That is for each adult to determine for themselves.

Adult lifestyle events are not rare. According to a YouGov report (September 23 - 25, 2016) 39% of the respondents said they were not completely monogamous. These consenting adults need to be able to access private groups in order to obtain education about consent, communication and relationships. These events generate a great deal of revenue and repeat business for hotels and their local communities, and have done so for decades because the events are vigilant in complying with state and local laws concerning nudity and other forms of sexual intimacy. We do not believe in exposing anyone non-consensually to lifestyle activities.

We would like to work with you to ensure this club can continue and would like to discuss how we can address any concerns you might have. I look forward to working with you to resolve this issue.

My best,

Susan Wright
NCSF Chairperson



Northwest Regional Consent Summit

on Friday, 02 August 2019. Posted in Consent Counts, Front Page Headline, NCSF News

October 5-6, 2019

Norse Hall

111 NE 11th Ave

Portland Oregon



To register or sponsor this event, go to:


The Northwest Consent Summit is bringing diverse communities together to reshape the meaning and practice of consent.


We will examine consent at the intersections of age, class, disability, gender, race, and sex. We will explore different definitions of consent, strategies to build cultures of consent, methods of teaching consent, and ideas for responding to and reconciling after consent incidents. 


We strive to contribute new ideas, evolution, and growth to the national dialogue regarding consent, and we seek solidarity, not conformity, in how we understand and engage in consent.

Consent is Necessary

Who do we hope will attend the summit and contribute to the reshaping of the meaning and practice of consent?

Activists, Recovery Communities, Alternative Sexuality Communities, Communities of Different Generations (all adults), Disability Communities, Survivors, Communities of People of Color, Ethnic and Cultural Communities, Sexual and Gender Minorities, Medical and Mental Health Professionals, Lawyers, Members of the Media, Military Personnel, Event Producers, Sex Workers, Academia and Campus Life.


Keynote Speakers will discuss The Importance of Consent and why it is critical in our Communities on Saturday and The Evolution of Consent over 40 years on Sunday.

Yes means yes

Panels and workshops include:

Basic Consent Learn and Meet

STARS (Communicating directly with partners beforehand Relationship, Avoids, Turn-ons, STI Status, Safer Sex Etiquette)

What is A Consent Incident or Violation?

Consent and Power

Consent Differences between Communities: Ethnic+Culture+Generational

Consent Differences between Communities: Sex Workers+BDSM+Poly+Swingers

Transformative Accountability Debate and Community Q&A

Managing Consent for Organizations

Engaging Awesome Boundaries (CE credits pending)

How to Teach Advanced Consent Concepts (CE credits pending)

Managing Consent in Neurodivergent Communities (CE credits pending)

How to Help People When their Consent is Violated (CE credits pending)

How to help People Who are Accused of a Consent Violation (CE credits pending)


Join us for this interactive consent event!

Action Alert! Champagne Club Needs Your Help!

on Monday, 29 July 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, NCSF News

Good Morning Lifestyle Family!!

Upon talking with our attorneys this morning, they have advised us how members of our lifestyle community can help in a SIGNIFICANT way to sway votes for the upcoming proposed ordinance banning swingers’ clubs in the City of Fort Wayne.

Everyone has asked how they can help… THIS IS IT!! Please take a moment of your time to send an email or two or three to the Fort Wayne City Council. If you are worried about discretion, you do not have to use your personal email to do this. You can create an email solely for this purpose. It is IMPORTANT you send the email to ALL the City Council seats!! You can do this by copying and pasting your email to each one individually or by simply addressing your email to all of them at once.

Our attorneys have given us some basic talking points and they are listed below:

* Champagne is private with strict rules of admission
* Not a business open to the public
* You have the right to make your own private choices without government interference
* How you come into Fort Wayne solely for the Champagne Club
* How much money you spend at hotels, restaurants, shopping and Ubers while visiting
* You’ve never witnessed issues of any sort at Champagne

While these may be some general points to make, we want you to tell your story and give YOUR thoughts!! This is YOUR chance to speak and be heard!!

Here is the contact information for our City Council:

Russ Jehl: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
Glynn A Hines: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
Geoff Paddock: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
Jason Arp: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
Thomas F. Didier: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
Paul Ensley: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
Tom Freistroffer: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
Dr. John Crawford: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
Michael Barranda: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

This MUST be done within the next day or two as the ordinance will be on the agenda Tuesday, August 6th. Many have already sent emails and they are actually receiving emails back, so our voices ARE BEING HEARD!!

While Champagne may not be your home club or even a club you have ever attended, this issue WILL eventually affect ALL clubs in ALL cities!! If there was ever a time to stand UNITED, THIS IS THE TIME!!

Thank you SO much!!

Melissa & Eric, Owners
Champagne Club
Fort Wayne, IN

#standtogether #yourbodyyourchoice #beheard

19 07 29

Vancouver 'kink' society locked in legal combat with exiled dungeon master

on Friday, 26 July 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates


"Kink communities around the world have been wrestling with how to manage issues of consent and sexual assault," the kink society argues.

"[Lyncaster] has created a chill around such public discussions through his use of litigation and his threats to out members of the community through that process."

19 07 25

I'm the Polyamorist Next Door

on Friday, 26 July 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The Gottman Institute

After enough time, the broken-shameful-chicken excrement feelings faded. There were still many hard lessons and uncomfortable brushes with my own jealousy and anxieties, as well as the jealousy and anxieties of others. More than once my insecurities ran the show—going cold when a partner went on a date with someone I perceived to be hotter, thinner, or smarter than me. I spent several years clawing at different romantic partners, insisting that they tell me I was their number one, the primary, the queen bee. I was convinced that having such a title would make me impervious to discomfort. (It didn’t.) I had to undergo many trials by fire in order to figure out how to actually speak honestly to someone I cared about. But even the frequency of these roadblocks decreased over time, settling into the most surprising feeling of all: normalcy.

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The Pendulum Club Fundraiser

on Thursday, 25 July 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, NCSF News

Help support The Pendulum Club, a Coalition Partner of NCSF, fighting for the right to assemble and right to privacy in Texas!

19 07 25

NCSF at Up Your Alley!

on Tuesday, 23 July 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, NCSF News

Meet J. Tebias, Board Member for NCSF, at Up Your Alley in SF on July 28th at the NCSF exhibit!

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