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How to Get Your Partner to Dominate You During Sex

on Monday, 18 September 2017. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

By Gigi Engle

"If you want your partner to get into some domination, don’t expect him or her to be into choking you out sporadically during sex. These types of fantasies need to be talked about beforehand, outside of the bedroom."

I Was Wrong About Open Relationships

on Monday, 18 September 2017. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

"Hi everyone! Mayim Bialik here from The Big Bang Theory and Blossom. Remember my video about not understanding open relationships? Well, turns out from your comments that I got a LOT wrong and I decided to address what I got wrong in this next heartfelt and hopefully more accurate video!"

Zoning Board revokes 'sex positive' club permit

on Monday, 18 September 2017. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

by Julia Terruso

Attorney Leonard Reuter, who represented L&I, which granted the permit, said the city does not require detailed information on the usage of a fraternal organization. To ask about activities or membership and then approve or deny based on those factors could be unconstitutional.

“Are we going to ask, What’s the racial composition of your members? What religion do you practice? What do you believe in?” Reuter asked. “Sexual expression is protected under the First Amendment.” ...

Before Twitter porn controversy, Ted Cruz didn’t think masturbating was a laughing matter

on Wednesday, 13 September 2017. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates



A court of appeals ruled against Cruz. In a decision, judges rejected Cruz’s argument and characterized the case as being “about controlling what people do in the privacy of their own homes because the State is morally opposed to a certain type of consensual private intimate conduct… Whatever one might think or believe about the use of these devices, government interference with their personal and private use violates the Constitution.” ...

Dakota Johnson Gets Down and Dirty With BDSM Toy in New, Kinky 'Fifty Shades' Trailer

on Wednesday, 13 September 2017. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

'Fifty Shades Freed' will be released in February 2018

Men's Health

by Gus Turner

The controversial Fifty Shades of Grey series has been criticized for its depictions of BDSM relationships. Still, the books and their accompanying films have been no less impactful on the sexual imaginations of many. Critics have denounced the books as irresponsible with respect to the issues of sexual consent and domestic violence, but, in 2015, upon the release of the first 50 Shades movie, Pornhub found that BDSM-related searches increased on the site, particularly among women. In spite of the criticism and middling reviews, the franchise trudges on, and lo, we now present to you the trailer for the series' third film: Fifty Shades Freed. ...

When Should You Define The Relationship? 7 Times You Need To Have The DTR Talk

on Wednesday, 13 September 2017. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates



“Define the relationship” usually means deciding to be monogamous with someone, but these days monogamy isn’t the only option. Marriage is optional; polyamory is a thing; and open relationships are slowly moving out of the shadows. In this new understanding of different relationship possibilities, determining the relationship means having a conversation about your expectations for the future — and how your love interest fits into that. Do you want to be monogamous? Do you want an open relationship? Do you want more of an official commitment than you’re currently getting? It’s a complicated situation — and it can be really scary. ...

Great kinky sex is just three magic words away: Conversation, consideration, consent

on Thursday, 07 September 2017. Posted in Media Updates

Mail & Guardian

by Kagure Mugo 

When people think of bondage, domination, sadism and masochism (BDSM), they either have visions of 50 Shades of Grey or scenes from Criminal Minds. This is caused by the mass misunderstanding of what kink as a sexual practice is, with few being privy to the intricate nature that goes into the practice of BDSM.


Now, being a small-town girl, I had always been warned about the wildness of the big city. Moving to the City of Gold really did unleash some strange things in me. One of the many magical things I discovered was the beautiful and sensual world of kink that existed online and offline and consisted of mainly queer brown womxn.


I had also thought BDSM was “some mess for freaky white folk” and could not understand why a queer black woman would enter a realm of that nature. How did one get into role-play scenarios that involved words such as “submissive” and “dominant” and “bondage” without flashbacks to scenes straight out of 12 Years a Slave? After colonisation, apartheid, the rise and rise of misogynoir, homophobic rape and the God-Blessed-Patriarchy, was it not way too soon to be subbing while “black, queer and a woman?”


I was soon to learn that it was my own misconceptions (and belief in my ridiculously low pain threshold) that held me back from a wealth of sexual wisdom. I also learnt about candle play, knife play and stuff involving all those down with the delicious framework of queer women driving each other to orgasm. I also quickly learnt that at the core of kink are four main principles: consent, openness, trust and safe words.


The kink world is one filled with safe words, sexual contracts and conscious conversations about wants, limits and desires. I once saw a contract that could rival an application for a loan at a bank, but you knew by the time anyone finished filling out that sucker there would be no ifs, ands or buts about what anyone wanted in bed that night. ...

September is Consent Month!

on Thursday, 07 September 2017. Posted in NCSF News

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