NCSF on TwitterSubscribe to the NCSF RSS FeedNCSF Blog

NCSF Headlines

Front Page Headline

Sportsheets International Celebrates 25 Years

on Sunday, 15 July 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

XBiz

“My buddies and I started to bounce it around saying: ‘Hey that’d be kind of cool to stick your girlfriend to a Velcro wall and have sex,’ we all laughed, ‘you could stick her upside down.’ The idea became a rolling inside joke. After about six months, there was so much interest in this thing that I thought, ‘this is an idea worth pursuing.’ Some sort of a Velcro thing that you could stick your partner to. So we started bringing our girlfriends in on the joke and most of them said they wouldn’t mind doing that as long as they could get away. And that really stuck with me — from there I bought a sewing machine and taught myself how to sew. Then my brother, who has his own sound recording studio, and I developed the Velcro bed sheets, handcuffs and anchor pads accessories.”

18 7 15

Stormy Daniels' strip club arrest highlights how evangelical Americans are criminalizing sex work

on Saturday, 14 July 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Think

Women like Daniels and the two other dancers arrested at Sirens that night wind up with their mugshots and names in the paper, while club owners and customers generally skate by with a slap on the wrist or a ticket — that is, until a city attempts to finally eradicate clubs, usually when they're standing in the way of gentrification. It's a double standard that unfairly punishes working women while leaving those who purchase and profit from their work unscathed.

Love, Life, and Leather

on Saturday, 14 July 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Anchorage Press While we as a community continue the battle for equality it would be dangerous for us to allow ourselves to be defined only by our sex lives. It reduces us, and would allow those who stand against us to see us as less than the vibrant, amazing humans that we are. Also dangerous would be to ignore that side of our lives completely, or to shame those who choose to love in their own way. To ignore our history, and the leather persons who came before to help pave the way for our rights and equal treatment. Among the leather, kink, and BDSM communities focus is put onto sex, but only in the most consensual of ways. Leather is about sex, and negotiation, history and community. For those that sit under the Leather Pride Flag, it is not only about the freedom to love who they love, but also how they love.

Couples in non-monogamous relationships have the same level of sexual and overall relationship satisfaction as those in monogamous ones, a new study finds.

on Friday, 13 July 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Moneyish

“We compared relationship satisfaction through questions like ‘How often have you considered ending your relationship?’ and ‘How comfortable are you confiding in your partner?’ and averaged answers to find a general score,” Jessica Wood, the lead researcher and author of the study, told Moneyish. “We found that there were no differences within these two groups, and that people in consensual non-monogamous relationships and those in monogamous relationships reported very similar levels of relationship and sexual satisfaction with their primary relationships.”

Australians may have to give verbal consent ahead of sex under new law

on Thursday, 12 July 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Pru Goward, minister for prevention of domestic violence and sexual assault for New South Wales, said: “If you want sex you have to ask for it, and if you want that sex, you have to say yes. “It is a responsibility, both in the ask and in the reply.” She added that a verbal “yes” was important as often those who did not actually consent may not say “no”, but just stay silent or freeze.

Running Blind: IMPD arrests first suspected pimp in 7 months

on Tuesday, 10 July 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The Daily Indy

“We’ve been a little bit blinded lately because they shut Backpage down,” Daggy said. “I get the reasoning behind it, and the ethics behind it, however, it has blinded us. We used to look at Backpage as a trap for human traffickers and pimps.”

New NCSF Ombuds Committee Members Appointed

on Tuesday, 10 July 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, NCSF News

NCSF is proud to announce 5 new members of the Ombuds Committee who will serve 2-year terms. The Ombuds Committee handles complaints and concerns regarding the conduct of NCSF officers and staff, and the operations of NCSF institutions. The NCSF Ombuds Committee is an Advisory Committee that can review Coalition administration and activities, assuring ethical and effective fulfillment of NCSF’s mission and goals.

The Ombuds Committee members are:

Jill Carter, International Ms. Leather 1996, has been active in the leather lifestyle for over 40 years. Jill was the driving force behind the formation and development of the Ms. and Mr. World Leather Event. She is proud to be one of the seven original ONYX Pearls, and currently serves as president of Mid-Atlantic Onyx Pearls. She holds dual Masters in Business and Human Resource Management and is a trained and certified mediator/facilitator.

Kathy Slaughter has a Masters in Social Work from the University of Michigan, including a certificate in Women’s Studies, and a BA in Philosophy, and has a private practice in Indiana called Soaring Heart Counseling.

Rik Newton-Treadway (Hooker) is the founder of Mid-Atlantic Leather Women & Mid-Atlantic Leather Women Bootblack Contests. He is currently the producer for Baltimore King & Queen of Pride and The Lady Lisa Drag Stage @ Baltimore's Pride in The Park.

Michelle Wilson is a financial adviser at Athens Impact Socially Responsible Investments and presents on Financial Planning for Blended Families for polyamory folks and the BDSM community.

Bob Hannaford is the co-owner of Couples Cruise and Naughty Events, which produces Naughty in N’awlins. He helped found the Annual Sexual Freedom Parade in New Orleans to celebrate pride in all sexual freedom, orientations and expression. He is a former NCSF Board Member and has been involved in sexual freedom advocacy for over 20 years.

 

NCSF thanks our Ombuds Committee for serving our constituents!

If you’d like to reach the Ombuds Committee, email: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

Incident Reporting & Response – 2nd Quarter 2018 report

on Monday, 09 July 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, NCSF News

By Susan Wright, Director of IRR

NCSF’s Incident Reporting & Response received 76 reports & requests for assistance from individuals, groups and businesses in April, May and June 2018. That is slightly down from the 87 reports & requests in the 1st Quarter 2018, but still twice as many requests as the last two quarters of 2017.

NCSF maintains the confidentiality of those who come to us for help. However, we balance that need with the need to report the services we are providing and to provide the community with a record of where the need is the greatest.

Here is a breakdown of the cases we dealt with in the 2nd Quarter of 2018:

Criminal

There were 29 requests for resources and information involving criminal legal matters – 25% less than we received in the 1st quarter:

  • 23 of those requests came from kinky or non-monogamous people who reported an assault, sexual assault, harassment and revenge porn, or were requests by prosecutors and investigators who needed education about consensual BDSM practices and referrals for expert witnesses.
  • 6 people requested resources and referrals to attorneys and expert witnesses to assist in defending themselves against accusations of assault, sexual assault, harassment or parole violations.

Groups

27 groups needed assistance compared to 29 groups in the 1st quarter of 2018:

  • 14 groups needed help dealing with consent incidents or were inquiring about presenters/organizers
  • 4 groups needed assistance in creating consent policies for their group
  • 1 group, FetLife, was the subject of 166 reports of cyber-bulling and sexual harassment on FetLife in conjunction with the Deactivation Day protests
  • 4 groups needed assistance with business formation and zoning
  • 3 groups had their event challenged either by the host hotel or outside groups or threats of outing
  • 1 group asked for assistance in doing outreach to the police to stop harassment and discrimination

Professional

There were 9 requests from professionals or those looking for sex positive professionals:

  • 3 people needed help finding kink aware and sex positive mental health professionals,
  • 2 professionals requested education on BDSM & consent and ageplay,
  • 2 professional inquired about setting up sex positive activist networks in other countries
  • 1 professional asked if they could translate NCSF materials into Greek
  • 1 professional needed assistance with an analysis of FOSTA

Child Custody & Divorce

There were 8 requests for resources and information regarding child custody, about the same as the 7 who reported in the 1st Quarter of 2018:

  • 5 involved BDSM (2 with FetLife photos)
  • 2 involved polyamorous relationships
  • 1 involved sex work

Civil

3 requests, compared to 7 requests in the 1st Quarter of 2018:

  • 1 person was attacked when an event was attacked by religious political extremists
  • 1 person needed assistance with being outed
  • 1 person needed options for legal protections because polyamorous people can’t get married

 

If you would like to make a report or request educational resources and referrals to professionals, please contact This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

[12 3 4 5  >>