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When the Dominatrix Moved in Next Door

on Saturday, 16 March 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The New York Times

But the battle on Quincy Street is about more than just sex. For Ms. Miller, it’s about trust and safety; for Ms. Taillor, it’s about respect and kink-shaming. As both women fought to protect their communities, what resulted was a culture clash and gentrification struggle all wrapped up into one fight.

19 03 16

I Suddenly Stopped Being Kinky and I’m Not Sure Why

on Friday, 08 March 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

SELF

“Most people have some fixed erotic themes,” Kolmes told me, noting that some “are accustomed to things looking different in different relationships” while others get “surprised” by changes to those themes. They emphasized that the shift isn’t necessarily a cause for concern. “It’s my view that sexual desire and interest and practices can change and that’s normal and healthy,” they said. “But if someone’s upset about it, I want us to figure out what is upsetting for that person.”

19 03 08

Sex-Work Decriminalization Is Becoming an Issue For 2020

on Thursday, 07 March 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Rolling Stone

Harris’s about-face on the issue of decriminalization speaks volumes about the increasing prominence of sex workers’ rights on the national stage, says Jessie Sage, a sex columnist for the Pittsburgh City Paper, an organizer with the advocacy group SWOP Pittsburgh and a cohost of the Peepshow Podcast, which covers the sex industry. “The sex work community doesn’t trust Harris or have a clear sense of what she means by [her stated support of decriminalization],” Sage says. “But I do think that the fact that she would find it politically advantageous to say this is important, and tells us something about changing attitudes.” And these changing attitudes are supported by hard numbers: a 2016 Marist College poll found that 49 percent of Americans supported sex work being legal, while six out of 10 respondents said they opposed prosecution of those arrested for sex work.

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I Worked As A Dominatrix For Over 5 Years. Here’s What It’s Really Like.

on Thursday, 07 March 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Huffington Post

One of the first things I learned at my new job was that men of all ages, social classes, and religious and ethnic backgrounds found the dungeon to be the only place they felt safe enough to take off their mask, remove their armor and reveal their vulnerabilities, traumas and pain, in an effort to heal and become better men. The surrender of their minds and souls was, and still is, one of the most beautiful things I have ever witnessed in my life. And it was all happening at the hands of powerful women.

19 03 07

“One of the Most Taboo Conversations” — New Yorkers Push to Decriminalize Sex Work

on Tuesday, 05 March 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The Intercept

“This is one of the most taboo conversations for us to be having as a society,” New York state Sen. Jessica Ramos told the Foley Square rally. “And we are not going to stop.” Ramos will be introducing the decriminalization bill this spring alongside newly elected democratic socialist Sen. Julia Salazar, Sen. Brad Hoylman, and Assembly Member Richard Gottfried, all Democrats.

February 28th is Metamour Day

on Wednesday, 27 February 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

By Modern Tribe Counseling

Our friends at National Coalition for Sexual Freedom have declared that February 28th is Metamour Day. This is a day where we have an opportunity to recognize, honor and celebrate our metamour(s). In poly-amorous relationships, a metamour is the partner of one’s partner where there is no shared romantic experience. Metamours play an important role within the relationship structure. Often this person serves as an extension of the relationship and may fill the role of friend, confidant, co-parent, or another significantly role. This role can also be complicated by feelings surrounding the relationship itself. In most cases your partner chooses their partner, your metamour. This choice can result in a wide range of feelings from pleasure and joy to jealousy and confusion.

Delighting in Your Beloveds’ Other Lovers

on Wednesday, 27 February 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Share the love on Metamour Day, February 28.

Psychology Today: The Polyamorists Next Door

By Elisabeth A. Sheff

Another home-made polyamorous word, metamour is the term for a partner’s partner. Your girlfriend’s sweetie or husband’s boyfriend is a metamour. As friends or chosen family members, metamours are linked through a polyamorous relationship but are not in a romantic relationship with each other. Rather, they are members of the same polycule (a family/small network of people united around a shared polyamorous relationship, not all of whom are lovers but share lovers in common) and hang out together to various degrees.

It’s Not That Men Don’t Know What Consent Is

on Monday, 25 February 2019. Posted in Consent Counts, Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The NY Times

In 2016, for instance, researchers at Confi, an online resource dedicated to women’s health issues, asked 1,200 college students and recent graduates nationwide what they would “expect to happen next” if they went home with someone whom they’d met and danced with at a party. Forty-five percent of the men considered vaginal intercourse “likely”; only 30 percent of the women did. The figures were similarly skewed for oral sex. Additionally, one in four men believed women “usually have to be convinced” in order for sex to happen (only about a tenth of the women agreed).

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