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Meet The Dominatrix Who Requires The Men Who Hire Her To Read Black Feminist Theory

on Tuesday, 13 February 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

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Eventually, I realized, wow, I’m emotionally invested in my clients. They’re getting this safe space. The ways that patriarchy impacts men, they can’t really be submissive in a lot of contexts. They come to me looking for a safe space to explore the parts of them that may not be seen as masculine, or they might have a lot of shame around. They may not have opportunities to be their full selves in a lot of ways, including sexually, because of those societal constraints.

Comments (2)

  • Domina

    22 February 2018 at 11:52 |
    How novel! She’s barely trained has little experience but she is featured. The reason being she is black and is forcing black feminist theory down her clients throats. Ok whatever. Let’s see if she’s still a Domme five years from now. I’m willing to bet not. Come on. As if!!

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  • Domina

    22 February 2018 at 20:24 |
    Identity politics coming into the bdsm realm is no surprise, but I find it to be gross. For instance- saw a profile on fetlife this week of a philly based black ‘Domme’ and on her profile it said “be ashamed of your race and gender” to potential subs (clients). Of course there are people who are going to respond to that in today’s climate. As well as enablers who will approve. I thought we were more intelligent than this? Referring to the study which claimed that people who engage in bdsm are above average in intelligence. (The study is real and I am being sarcastic). I also thought the bdsm community at its heart is about eliminating shame? Maybe shame in this context is ok? Is that it? Are we promoting racism and bigotry now provided the people are black and the targets are white?

    I had predicted (accurately obviously) that there would be certain subs who would respond to this and there would be people using this angle.

    So the next time a black man asks me to whip him and call him a name I won’t post here (you can guess what that offensive term is) wanting to play out a white master black slave scenario (yes I’ve had this requested and on more than one occasion) instead of declining as I did- I should consider doing it? How would that be any different though definitely wouldn’t be smiled upon now would it?

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