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"'Ethical cheating' site OpenMinded.com takes aim at curious couples"

on Monday, 11 May 2015. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The Telegraph

By Rebecca Burn-Callander

The new 'polyamory' dating site is increasing users by 100pc a week

Openminded.com, a new “ethical cheating” website, is on target to attract 250,000 members worldwide in its first year.

The start-up, which promises to “eliminate the monotony of monogamy”, claims it has tapped into the " growing trend towards polyamory ", the forming of intimate relationships with more than one person.

The company provides a platform for couples looking to meet like-minded individuals.

The dating site, headquartered in Los Angeles, launched last month and received 10,000 sign-ups on its first day from both singles and couples.

“Open relationships are an under-served market and we want to clean up the space and give people a safe place to meet,” said founder Brandon Wade.

He believes that polyamory could be the “hottest new niche” in a crowded online dating market. “Open relationships can be found among even the most 'vanilla’ couples,” he claimed. “Our numbers are growing exponentially, up 100pc in the first week.”

It is estimated that there are up to 10,000 dating sites worldwide but just a handful are dedicated to polyamory, including LoveMany and BeyondTwo. “The other people in this industry are all very vulgar and all about sex,” claimed Mr Wade. “We want to cater to those who actually want relationships. This is not a site for hook-ups.”

The number of polyamorous couples and individuals worldwide is unknown as people are not required to put this information on a census. In order to cater to the growing numbers of polyamorous individuals , the Polyamory Society was launched in 1996, offering courses in relationship management and jealousy mitigation.

Mr Wade claimed that by creating OpenMinded.com , he is making polyamory more socially acceptable, and helping couples to be more honest about their needs. “This is still a highly stigmatised and scrutinised population,” he said. “There are more people cheating on their spouses than there are people in open relationships and that’s what I am seeking to change.” ...

"Australian Judge: Polyamory Not a Sexual Orientation"

on Wednesday, 25 February 2015. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The Stranger

by Dan Savage

A woman lost her job after her employer—a social services org run by the Catholic Church—found out that she was polyamorous. She sued, claiming that poly is a sexual orientation and that her firing amounted to illegal discrimination, but the court found against her. Sydney Morning Herald:

 

Justice Salvatore Vasta dismissed the co-ordinator's appeal on the basis it had no reasonable prospects of success. He found being polyamorous was "sexual behaviour" and not sexual orientation, which involved something far more than how one behaved sexually. "Sexual orientation is how one is, rather than how one manifests that state of being. The manifestation of that state of being can take many forms," Justice Vasta said. He rejected the woman's argument that "sexual behaviour" was a subset of sexually orientation saying it could lead to absurd results. "If the contention of the applicant were correct, many people whose sexual activity might label them as sado-masochists, coprophiliacs or urophiliacs could claim that such is more than mere behaviour; it is in fact their very sexual orientation," Justice Vasta said. "If the contention were correct, then the illegal activities of paedophilia and necrophilia may have the protection of the Sex Discrimination Act 1984."

 

I kicked off a shitstorm when I wrote this in "Savage Love" back in 2012:

 

Poly is not a sexual identity, PP, it's not a sexual orientation. It's not something you are, it's something you do. There's no such thing as a person who is "a poly," just as there's no such thing as a person who is "a monogamous."

 

I devoted an entire followup column to poly folks who feel that polyamory is their sexual orientation. Later I offered this clarification:

 

If all people are naturally nonmonogamous—a point I've made about 10 million times—then from my perspective, polyamory and monogamy are relationship models, not sexual orientations. (And if poly and monogamy are sexual orientations, Lily, wouldn't going solo have to be considered one, too?) That was my point. Poly can be central to someone's sexual self-conception, and it can be hugely important, but I don't think it's an orientation in the same way that gay, straight, or bisexual are orientations.

 

Some poly writers were mollified, others were not—but I learned that many, many poly folks (but not all) strongly feel that polyamory is a sexual orientation. The writer and kinkster Jillian Keenan, for her part, has argued that BDSM—sadomasochism—is a sexual orientation. ...

" Judge considers Trevor’s Toybox owner’s appeal against Pembroke zoning board"

on Thursday, 14 November 2013. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Concord Monitor

A Merrimack County Superior Court judge yesterday stared down from his bench and addressed perfunctory questions to the lawyer for Pembroke business owner Larry Preston.

“Could these handcuffs be used for anything else?” Judge Richard McNamara asked, his voice stern.

And later, “Where else would whips be sold?”

Lawyers yesterday argued over how what they termed “the BDSM lifestyle” relates to Trevor’s Toybox, the shop where Preston hopes to sell leather clothing, handcuffs and whips on Pembroke’s Main Street.

Now, the judge will need to rule on whether the Pembroke zoning board could block Trevor’s Toybox by claiming the bondage items it would sell are sexually explicit.

In May, the zoning board barred Preston from opening the shop in the town’s central business district, where property cannot be used for “passive adult entertainment.” Pembroke’s zoning ordinances cite examples of passive adult entertainment uses, including sexual paraphernalia stores, adult video stores and adult bookstores.

The town says Trevor’s Toybox violates that ordinance because the store would sell bondage items to “cater to sexual preferences, tastes and activities,” according to court documents. The store’s business card defines the store as “meeting the demand for BDSM equipment.”

A small footnote in the town’s court filings cites an internet search for “BDSM defined,” which produced “countless pages devoted to a description of ‘bondage, dominance, submission and masochism.’ ”

“This is a retail store specializing in the sale of paraphernalia used in the erotic touching of body parts,” town attorney Chris Cole said in court.

Preston filed a lawsuit in June to reverse that decision, claiming the items he would sell in the store can easily be purchased at other businesses.

“For example, Walmart sells handcuffs,” the documents state. “A store called Party City in Manchester has children’s handcuff kits. The Army barracks in Salem has handcuffs. Tractor Supply sells whips for pigs and horses. A store called Spencer’s in Concord sells whips and handcuffs. One can buy leather jackets and leather chaps at a Harley Davidson motorcycle shop.”

The items in Trevor’s Toybox could also be used for nonsexual purposes, argued Finis Williams, Preston’s lawyer.

“If a person were to buy a leather jacket and a whip from Trevor’s Toybox so that person could be Indiana Jones for Halloween, that would not constitute a passive adult entertainment use,” the suit reads.

The Trevor’s Toybox website does sell sexually oriented items, Preston has said, but those items would not be sold in his Pembroke store. ...

" Louisa May Alcott, Vacation Packages, and More Shameless ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ Ripoffs (PHOTOS)"

on Friday, 10 August 2012. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Daily Beast

Profit-minded people are rushing to capitalize on the erotic trilogy’s huge success. From allegedly real-life versions of Anastasia Steele to Fifty Shades vacations to a kind of Fifty Shades Kama Sutra, see nine attempts to rip off the global phenom. ...

"BDSM presentation well-received in Potsdam"

on Saturday, 09 April 2011. Posted in Media Updates

The Racquette

... It was the purpose of the recent BDSM open forum here at SUNY Potsdam to bring the knowledge of these fantasies to light and hopefully shed some of the long-standing stigma of the BDSM lifestyle amongst the curious students in attendance. The forum was held on campus on the evening of March 30 in the Kellas 106. It was hosted by Lisa Bates, a student here at Potsdam. Two professional "dommes" by the names of Master R and Mistress Collette fielded all questions.

Rather than present a traditional prepared lecture, the two guest speakers decided to take an approach of an open question and answer forum. This allowed the many students in attendance (Kellas 106 was filled to capacity) to tailor the forum to their personal intellectual curiosities regarding the BDSM lifestyle. The two speakers made it very clear to the audience that the event was an open and free forum and that no questions regarding the BDSM lifestyle were off-limits. This forthrightness led to a wide array of questions regarding specific sexual fetishes, famous clientele served at the chateau, and even the personal sexual lives of the speakers themselves. All questions were answered with highly apparent and utmost honesty by Master R and Mistress Collette. Despite the opportunity to keep the lecture completely outlandish, most students asked questions implying a genuine curiosity regarding the BDSM lifestyle, and why people participate. ...