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NCSF is a resource for the members of the kink, poly and Lifestyle communities and for people seeking information about them. If you engage in BDSM, fetishes or non-monogamy practices, and you are being persecuted or discriminated against because of it, please contact NCSF through the Get Help Now. If you need help removing kink or non-monogamy as a barrier to public services, please contact NCSF. If your group or business needs help with outreach to local officials, please contact NCSF.If you or your group needs help with a consent violation or sexual assault, please contact NCSF.   GET HELP NOW!

Feeling alone in your fight for your rights? NCSF's Incident Response Program may be able to help.

The issue must openly, directly, and specifically relate to BDSM, swing or poly activities between consenting adults; in other words, the problems you face must relate to or be caused from your involvement in BDSM, swing or poly. 

NCSF is not legal aid, nor do we offer specific legal advice for individuals. NCSF is a resource for the members of the kink, poly and Lifestyle communities and for people seeking information about them. NCSF provides publicly available information on kink and nonmonogamy for consenting adults.


Incident Reporting & Response – 1st Quarter 2018 report

By Susan Wright
Director of IRR

NCSF’s Incident Reporting & Response received 87 reports & requests for assistance from individuals, groups and businesses in January, February and March 2018. That was almost twice as many as the 46 reports & requests in the 4th Quarter 2017, and 38 requests in the 1st Quarter 2017.

NCSF maintains the confidentiality of those who come to us for help. However, we balance that need with the need to report the services we are providing and to provide the community with a record of where the need is the greatest.

Here is a breakdown of the cases we dealt with in the 1st Quarter of 2018:

Criminal

There were 40 requests for resources and information involving criminal legal matters – twice as many as the 19 requests we received in the 4th quarter:


• 31 of those requests came from kinky or non-monogamous people who reported an assault, sexual assault, harassment or vandalizing.
• 7 people requested resources and referrals to attorneys or mediators to assist in defending themselves against a restraining order or accusations of assault, sexual assault or harassment.
• 2 people needed assistance with sex worker-related issues.

Groups

29 groups were involved in incidents compared to 14 groups in the 4th quarter of 2017:


• 22 groups needed help dealing with consent incidents
• 4 incidents involving individuals needing assistance resolving a consent incident with their group
• 1 group, FetLife, was reported by 26 members after the new picture search exposed them to a much wider audience, and blocked people can find their photos when their name is searched (subsequently changed to Friends/Following only)
• 1 group was dealing with its membership records being subpoenaed after an assault
• 1 group requested NCSF be a backup to their Consent Response Team during their conference

Child Custody & Divorce

There were 7 requests for resources and information regarding child custody, slightly elevated from the 5 who reported in the 4th Quarter of 2017:


• 4 involved BDSM (1 with FetLife photos)
• 1 involved sex work
• 1 involved same-sex marriage
• 1 divorce case involving a Master/slave contract

Civil

7 requests, compared to 5 requests in the 4th quarter 2017:


• 3 people needed employment attorneys to deal with discrimination due to BDSM (2) and non-monogamy (1)
• 1 person needed assistance with legal matters after a non-monogamous breakup
• 1 educator needed to find out the legality of a certain kind of BDSM play
• 1 person complained about social media discrimination
• 1 witness needed assistance in a privacy matter regarding their participation in a criminal trial

Professional

4 professionals requested education on BDSM & consent, translation of educational resources (Hebrew), and information needed to pitch a kink documentary.


2017 Incident Reporting & Response

By Susan Wright

In 2017, 170 reports and requests for help were received. Compared to previous years: 109 requests in 2016, 198 requests received in 2015, and 184 requests received in 2014. NCSF maintains the confidentiality of those who come to us for help, however we balance that need with the need to report the services we are providing and to provide the community with a record of where the need is the greatest.

Here is a breakdown of the cases the IRR Team dealt with in 2017:

Criminal

76 people made reports & requested help, twice the number of requests in 2016, but similar to the 72 requests in 2015:

57 requests from people who reported an assault, sexual assault or harassment involving BDSM or non-monogamy. In 2016, there were 16 reports.

16 people requested resources and referrals to assist in defending themselves or the person they accused of assault, sexual assault or harassment.

3 people needed help with sex worker related issues

Groups

42 groups and businesses requested assistance. Compared to 24 reports in 2016, and 50 reports in both 2015 and 2014.

20 Groups received information on dealing with consent violations.

Groups were exposed, harassed, defamed or reported to law enforcement. 2 involved the media.

Events had their contract threatened, canceled or not renewed with their hotels.

6 Groups needed assistance with organization and zoning issues.

Groups needed assistance with issues involving obscenity law (1 with credit card processing).

Child Custody

27 people requested help with child custody cases. There were no divorce cases. Compared to 16 reports in 2016, 26 in 2015, and 37 in 2014:

13 involved BDSM (with 1 involving photos taken from FetLife)

7 involved polyamory

involved both BDSM and polyamory

involved sex work

involved gender identity

Civil

13 requests for assistance in civil issues:

6 people were threatened with/or outed (2 involved FetLife photos).

3 involved a defamation lawsuit or accusations of defamation.

1 involved a security clearance.

1 involved a member dealing with a group ban,

1 filed a lawsuit to get back moneys owed.

1 involved legal liability risks of publishing a book,

Professional Education

10 professionals requested education on BDSM, consent, the DSM and translation of educational resources to better serve their clients or present workshops for their professional groups. These requests came from researchers, professors, graduate students, clinical therapists, prison advocate and victim advocacy agencies.

Additional Requests

There were 2 other requests for informational resources and/or referrals to Kink Aware Professionals:

was looking for low cost PrEP

involved immigration issues over polyamory, w/info gathered through social media.

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NCSF is not legal aid, nor do we offer specific legal advice for individuals. NCSF is a resource for the members of the kink, poly and Lifestyle communities and for people seeking information about them. NCSF provides publicly available information on kink and nonmonogamy for consenting adults. We advocate on behalf of the BDSM, swing and polyamory communities. 

Unfortunately, due to limited resources the NCSF is only able to take the cases that meet the criteria set by our mission. All of our work is done by volunteers and we accept no payment for our services.

We are however happy to receive donations earmarked specifically for use in the IRR Program. Click here to donate,  Make sure you note "Incident Reporting & Response" or "IRR" in the comment box if you want to restrict your donation. We do provide basic information as resources dictate and referrals to professionals as part of our Kink Aware Professionals database.

The criteria for acceptance listed were developed to meet the primary concerns of our voting constituencies, our Coalition Partners. When the NCSF agrees to take a case the impact can be realized by all of our constituents as a whole and therefore it is up to the policies set in motion by NCSF Coalition Partners to decide whether existing resources allow for a case to be handled effectively.

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