relationship with the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) began like
many others do. I was neck deep in a conflict that was based in my free
expression of my sexuality through my writing. I was asked to leave my teaching
position, an agreement was reached and I left quietly without creating a scene.
I used to teach in a small, private school in North Carolina, where my daughter
also attended school. When I left my teaching position I was assured that it
would not affect her last and final year of middle school.
passed, and we were within days of her returning to the 8th grade when I
received a call from the Head of School that he had decided to rescind his
offer to allow her to go to school there. After heated debate, he agreed that
she could attend school, but if and only if I could secure a $1,000.00 expense
fee to cover her field trips and lunches in advance. It was a bullshit fee, to
be honest. It’s not required of any other parent. He knew that we would not be
able to come up with $1,000 in a matter of days. This was his way of keeping
her out without risking litigation.
wondered what led this man, elder in his church, who had given me his word that
my child would be unaffected, to suddenly revoke something that we had agreed
upon? He said that based on an email to my husband, he had changed his mind. I
looked at Marky, while still on the phone, and asked, “Did you exchange any
emails in the last month with the school?” Of course he had not. Well the
school made a terrible error. They contacted my ex-husband, not my husband.
They contacted someone who has no legal custody of our daughter, and based on
that conversation had decided that I would no longer be welcome in the parent
happened, I’m sure by no coincidence, at the same time that I received
threatening emails from my ex-husband, who suggested that due to my deviant
behavior she should come to live with him.
immediately. First, I raised the money in a raffle that was initially supported
by Lochai and quickly built into a huge CommUNITY movement of kinksters who
were outraged. Secondly, I contact NCSF and accessed professional advice and
consultations through their Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) listing. With the
help of the community and the NCSF I felt prepared for battle.
full circle, I am honored that my PR firm, Quid Pro Quo, will be working with NCSF on the launching of a new blog. We are doing the work pro-bono to show NCSF our appreciation and to give back to an organization that protects all of
us. It feels really great to be in a position to give back. So do us a favor
and help us help them. We’ll be asking people to re-post and tweet links and I
hope you’ll consider it your way of giving back to such an amazing
NCSF’s Coalition Partners Join Together for Consent Summit The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom held its annual Coalition Partner meeting in Phoenix, Arizona from February 8-10, 2013. The Consent Summit took place Friday evening, and Coalition Partners were able to participate via streaming video to give their input on the new Consent Statement. Go to www.ncsfreedom.org to see the Consent Statement and comment on it. “The Consent Statement…
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE National Coalition for Sexual Freedom NCSF Survey on Consent The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) wants to hear from you! Please take our Consent Counts survey and tell us what you think about consent: www.ncsfreedom.org/survey.html As part of decriminalizing BDSM in the legal codes, we need to be able to articulate a clear definition of consent that the BDSM communities believe in. The results of this…
NCSF Launches the Next Chapter for Consent Counts February 27, 2012 The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) announces two new publications as part of its nationwide campaign, Consent Counts. The Consent Counts Project was launched by the BDSM-leather-fetish communities in 2006 to decriminalize consensual BDSM in U.S. law by ensuring that consent will be recognized as a defense to criminal charges brought under assault laws and other statutes. "For…
Our BDSM communities could be adversely impacted by a well-intentioned, but overly broad, piece of proposed criminal legislation that has been introduced by Senator Christine Kehoe in the California Senate. NCSF is asking all of you to sign and send to NCSF letters (a draft is attached below) that we can introduce if necessary at a hearing likely to be held in April, 2011. The purpose of the bill, SB…
In an indictment rendered by a Grand Jury in the Western District of Missouri on September 9, 2010, five Missouri men allegedly participated in torturing a mentally disabled woman online or in person over a multi-year period when the victim was between the ages of 16 and 24. Among the charges are: Sex Trafficking by Force, Fraud or Coercion, Forced Labor Trafficking, Transportation for Sexual Activity, and Conspiracy. The allegations…
Developed Educational Programs and Outreach Materials
Built Alliances With Sexual Freedom Advocacy Groups
About Consent Counts
NCSF is leading a major national campaign—Consent Counts—to change the laws and police practices that our communities now endure, and to establish that consent is available as a defense in criminal BDSM prosecutions.
BDSM is prosecuted as assault in the U.S., even when it is consensual.
No state or appellate court has allowed consent as a defense to assault in BDSM cases.
Consent Counts is a nationwide project to decriminalize consensual BDSM.
Program Goals: Consent Counts is a nationwide project to decriminalize consensual BDSM through education, advocacy, legal actions and lobbying.