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Beginning February 2011, new or updated KAP providers are requested to self-identify their Kink Awareness level in their listing.
KAP users have requested this feature in order to better understand the background and knowledge level of KAP Providers listed in our directory. This self-supplied rating information will be displayed in provider listings and is also available as a search field if desired.
The following definitions are used:
Kink-Friendly = open and non-judgemental of kink concepts and lifestyles, with general knowledge only.
Kink-Aware = have specific knowledge of kink concepts and lifestyles, have researched and educated themselves in these areas. May have some previous experienced providing professional services to individuals with these interests.
Kink-Knowledgeable = have previously provided professional services to multiple individuals in the lifestyle. Very experienced in kink concepts and lifestyle.
Between 1982 and 1986, Guy Baldwin, a private-practice psychotherapist in Los Angeles, developed a small list of other kink-sensitive therapists across the United States. He made referrals from the list on request. In late 1986, after he’d begun writing a monthly column on leather relationships for Drummer magazine called “Ties that Bind,” Guy arranged with Tony DeBlase, editor of Drummer, to run a monthly classified ad to make contact with other kink-friendly therapists. Letters arrived from everywhere (email wasn’t commonly used yet). Soon Guy had received and replied to dozens of contacts from all across the country. Some time later a small portion of the kink-sensitive therapist referral list was published in DungeonMaster, a magazine for the gay male BDSM practitioner.
Soon afterwards Race Bannon was talking with Guy Baldwin about his list. Guy showed Race folders full of letters from therapists wanting to be part of the referral list. Guy’s schedule wasn’t allowing him to keep up with the correspondence and after some discussion Race proposed taking over maintenance of the list. Guy agreed and Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) was born.
Guy and Race knew that people who enjoy the adventurous side of sex often end up having a difficult time finding mental health professionals sensitive to their needs. Too often clients hear that it’s their sexuality that’s the problem. That’s rarely the case. The usual issues facing these clients aren’t related to their sexual interests at all, but the sex-negative bias of some psychotherapists gets in the way of effective therapy.
Initially, the only way to effectively disseminate the KAP list to those that needed it was in printed form sent by mail. And that’s how the list was disseminated for the first few years. Later the internet and the web allowed the KAP list to be accessed online by anyone with an internet connection.
Other professional categories were added to the KAP referral list over time, but the number of professions was eventually reduced to the core three professions critical to kinky people in times of need: psychotherapists, attorneys and medical professionals. KAP now provides listings of hundreds of professionals that the alternative sexuality community can access at any time.
In January 2006, Race Bannon turned over management of the KAP list to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.
If you are professional that might be interested in having people be referred to your practice from this site, read the full requirements and, if you qualify please register or login, then submit your information. Please note that submissions that don’t follow the guidelines below may be rejected.
Please be aware that by making a entry in this directory, you may be found by search engines such as Google, Yahoo or other. This is a open public directory.
Requirements for KAP Professionals
Acceptance of Diverse Sexualities Every professional who is listed on the KAP referral list must believe that alternative forms of erotic play can be healthy and proper expressions of sexuality. Some of the forms of sexuality we are referring to here are SM, BD, DS, leather, and fetish. In short, a professional must agree that any form of consensual sexuality between adults can be considered healthy if practiced in a safe and responsible manner.
Geographic Areas KAP accepts submissions from kink-aware professionals throughout the world. Most listings are in the United States.
Types of Professionals KAP includes the following professionals in the referral listing:
Counselors and Therapists
Health and Wellness Practitioners (non-M.D.)
Accounting and Finance
Spiritual Advisors/Wedding Officiators
If your profession does not fall into one of the categories above, you can list in the "other professional" catagory. We know many other types of professionals would like to be listed, but these categories have been carefully selected as those professions in which a kink-friendly attitude can dramatically affect the effectiveness of the service to the community. You may choose to be listed in up to two categories.
All listings will be dated when posted and a listing will remain active for approximately one year. Due to a large number of listings that have not been kept up with current information by the listed professionals, we have had to place a time limit on postings to ensure a reasonable amount of accuracy for our site visitors. But as long as you renew your listing every year, you can remain posted on KAP as long as you wish. You will receive one email a few weeks prior to your listing being deleted. If you do not return to the site to renew your listing in a timely manner, your entry will be deleted and no longer available to site visitors.
If you do not receive a confirming email after having made your listing submission, please check any SPAM folders or filters that may be associated with your email address.
KAP submissions are reviewed and approved as volunteer time allows, so please be patient. Your listing will be posted as soon as possible. Thank you for your participation in this important referral resource!
We Reserve the Right to Refuse Listings from Anyone
Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) reserves the right to refuse listings from any professional for any reason.
We Have No Sex Services Listings
The Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) referral list does not post any listings offering sexual services of any kind.
We Do Not Screen Our Listings
The Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) referral list is composed of professionals who have requested that their listings be posted on this site. None of them are screened in any way. This means that anyone contacting these professionals should take the necessary precautions, just are you would do if you were searching for a professional through any other means.
If You Have a Complaint About a KAP Professional
In the entire history of the KAP web site, we have only had two complaints about a professional's conduct. That is a very good track record for KAP, but we want your experience with the professionals listed here to be the best it can be for you. So, if you do experience any conduct from a professional that you consider inappropriate, we do want to hear about it. But, unfortunately, since we are solely a web-based service and have no direct contact with the professionals listed, we can not remove professionals from our listings unless requested to do so by some official certifying agency.
For example, many states have certification organizations for psychotherapists that monitor and act on reports of professional misconduct. If such an organization were to contact us with substantiated claims of misconduct, we will likely remove the listing of the professional in question. But we can not remove listings based solely on an emailed complaint. In one case, we received such a complaint about misconduct, but the complaint turned out to be unfounded and was generated by someone trying to discredit the professional for personal reasons.
The Council on Licensure, Enforcement and Regulation's resource pages (http://www.clearhq.org/boards.htm for North American listings) include links to many of the licensing and regulatory bodies for various regions and professions.
The Kink Aware Professionals Directory (KAP)is a service offered by NCSF dedicated to providing the community with referrals to psychotherapeutic, medical, legal and other professionals who are knowledgeable about and sensitive to diverse expressions of sexuality.
KAP cannot in any way endorse or recommend any of these professionals, as their inclusion on this list is done without any screening by NCSF. However, each professional listed has volunteered to be available for referral to people involved in "kinky" sexuality (leather, SM, fetish, etc.) either by contacting KAP directly or through another kink-friendly publication or organization.
While the majority of KAP professionals offer services in the United States and Canada, we also accept submissions from kink-aware professionals throughout the world. In addition to their professional category, KAP providers may also list themselves in the "Worldwide and Internet-Based Providers" category to indicate that they offer their services via the web or phone.
The NCSF has formed a partnership with GayLawNet who has a substantual listing of GLBTI, GLBTI-Friendly and Kink Aware Attorneys.
NCSF hosts the largest known resource online for locating a Kink Aware Professional (KAP). Whether you need legal assistance, a CPA for your kink-related business, or just an understanding therapist who won't blame your kink interests for all of your life challenges, the KAP is the place to find them.
relationship with the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) began like
many others do. I was neck deep in a conflict that was based in my free
expression of my sexuality through my writing. I was asked to leave my teaching
position, an agreement was reached and I left quietly without creating a scene.
I used to teach in a small, private school in North Carolina, where my daughter
also attended school. When I left my teaching position I was assured that it
would not affect her last and final year of middle school.
passed, and we were within days of her returning to the 8th grade when I
received a call from the Head of School that he had decided to rescind his
offer to allow her to go to school there. After heated debate, he agreed that
she could attend school, but if and only if I could secure a $1,000.00 expense
fee to cover her field trips and lunches in advance. It was a bullshit fee, to
be honest. It’s not required of any other parent. He knew that we would not be
able to come up with $1,000 in a matter of days. This was his way of keeping
her out without risking litigation.
wondered what led this man, elder in his church, who had given me his word that
my child would be unaffected, to suddenly revoke something that we had agreed
upon? He said that based on an email to my husband, he had changed his mind. I
looked at Marky, while still on the phone, and asked, “Did you exchange any
emails in the last month with the school?” Of course he had not. Well the
school made a terrible error. They contacted my ex-husband, not my husband.
They contacted someone who has no legal custody of our daughter, and based on
that conversation had decided that I would no longer be welcome in the parent
happened, I’m sure by no coincidence, at the same time that I received
threatening emails from my ex-husband, who suggested that due to my deviant
behavior she should come to live with him.
immediately. First, I raised the money in a raffle that was initially supported
by Lochai and quickly built into a huge CommUNITY movement of kinksters who
were outraged. Secondly, I contact NCSF and accessed professional advice and
consultations through their Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) listing. With the
help of the community and the NCSF I felt prepared for battle.
full circle, I am honored that my PR firm, Quid Pro Quo, will be working with NCSF on the launching of a new blog. We are doing the work pro-bono to show NCSF our appreciation and to give back to an organization that protects all of
us. It feels really great to be in a position to give back. So do us a favor
and help us help them. We’ll be asking people to re-post and tweet links and I
hope you’ll consider it your way of giving back to such an amazing
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NCSF’s Coalition Partners Join Together for Consent Summit The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom held its annual Coalition Partner meeting in Phoenix, Arizona from February 8-10, 2013. The Consent Summit took place Friday evening, and Coalition Partners were able to participate via streaming video to give their input on the new Consent Statement. Go to www.ncsfreedom.org to see the Consent Statement and comment on it. “The Consent Statement…
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE National Coalition for Sexual Freedom NCSF Survey on Consent The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) wants to hear from you! Please take our Consent Counts survey and tell us what you think about consent: www.ncsfreedom.org/survey.html As part of decriminalizing BDSM in the legal codes, we need to be able to articulate a clear definition of consent that the BDSM communities believe in. The results of this…
NCSF Launches the Next Chapter for Consent Counts February 27, 2012 The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) announces two new publications as part of its nationwide campaign, Consent Counts. The Consent Counts Project was launched by the BDSM-leather-fetish communities in 2006 to decriminalize consensual BDSM in U.S. law by ensuring that consent will be recognized as a defense to criminal charges brought under assault laws and other statutes. "For…
Our BDSM communities could be adversely impacted by a well-intentioned, but overly broad, piece of proposed criminal legislation that has been introduced by Senator Christine Kehoe in the California Senate. NCSF is asking all of you to sign and send to NCSF letters (a draft is attached below) that we can introduce if necessary at a hearing likely to be held in April, 2011. The purpose of the bill, SB…
In an indictment rendered by a Grand Jury in the Western District of Missouri on September 9, 2010, five Missouri men allegedly participated in torturing a mentally disabled woman online or in person over a multi-year period when the victim was between the ages of 16 and 24. Among the charges are: Sex Trafficking by Force, Fraud or Coercion, Forced Labor Trafficking, Transportation for Sexual Activity, and Conspiracy. The allegations…
Developed Educational Programs and Outreach Materials
Built Alliances With Sexual Freedom Advocacy Groups
About Consent Counts
NCSF is leading a major national campaign—Consent Counts—to change the laws and police practices that our communities now endure, and to establish that consent is available as a defense in criminal BDSM prosecutions.
BDSM is prosecuted as assault in the U.S., even when it is consensual.
No state or appellate court has allowed consent as a defense to assault in BDSM cases.
Consent Counts is a nationwide project to decriminalize consensual BDSM.
Program Goals: Consent Counts is a nationwide project to decriminalize consensual BDSM through education, advocacy, legal actions and lobbying.