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We Reserve the Right to Refuse Listings from Anyone
The NCSF and Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) reserves the right to refuse listings from any professional for any reason and reserves the right to remove any listing of any professional at any time at the sole discretion of KAP.

KAP Approval Guidelines
Kink aware professionals must offer professional services for adults and be tolerant of those who engage in alternative sexual and relationship expressions. Kink aware professionals must support informed consent as the basis of ethical BDSM practices.

KAP doesn't allow:

  • No solicitation for sexual services
  • No minors (under 18) or animals in a sexual context
  • No solicitation for illegal activities
  • No sharing anyone's personal, identifying, confidential or proprietary information
  • No postings the primary purpose of which is to drive traffic to a website
  • No service or content that violates the law or legal rights of others

Privacy Statement

NCSF is strongly committed to protecting and maintaining your privacy.

NCSF will never sell, lend, lease, give away, or in any other way dissiminate information you may submit to us to any third party, person or organization.

NCSF may require your name, address, email address, or other personal and identifiable information from you in order to process requests, process membership applications and donations, sell merchandise, or provide other services. This information will be considered strictly confidential, and will not be dissiminated to any third party, person or organization.

Our Mission

The NCSF is committed to creating a political, legal and social environment in the US that advances equal rights for consenting adults who engage in alternative sexual and relationship expressions.

The NCSF aims to advance the rights of, and advocate for consenting adults in the BDSM-Leather-Fetish, Swing, and Polyamory Communities.

We pursue our vision through direct services, education, advocacy, and outreach, in conjunction with our partners, to directly benefit these communities.


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So you pratice bondage, dominance and S&M and you need medical care.  Perhaps you'er looking for a general practitioner for checkups.  Or maybe you need urgent medical care.  Perhaps you are concerned abut discrimination.  Or you fear you'll have to spend too much time educating someone abut BDSM when they should be focused solely on your health.  How do you find a provider who will be sensitive to your sexuality?  And if you can't how do you handle your sexuality when dealing with such medical care providers?  Read the Brocure 

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Beginning February 2011, new or updated KAP providers are requested to self-identify their Kink Awareness level in their listing.

KAP users have requested this feature in order to better understand the background and knowledge level of KAP Providers listed in our directory. This self-supplied rating information will be displayed in provider listings and is also available as a search field if desired.

The following definitions are used:

Kink-Friendly = open and non-judgemental of kink concepts and lifestyles, with general knowledge only.

Kink-Aware = have specific knowledge of kink concepts and lifestyles, have researched and educated themselves in these areas. May have some previous experienced providing professional services to individuals with these interests.

Kink-Knowledgeable = have previously provided professional services to multiple individuals in the lifestyle. Very experienced in kink concepts and lifestyle. 

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Between 1982 and 1986, Guy Baldwin, a private-practice psychotherapist in Los Angeles, developed a small list of other kink-sensitive therapists across the United States. He made referrals from the list on request. In late 1986, after he’d begun writing a monthly column on leather relationships for Drummer magazine called “Ties that Bind,” Guy arranged with Tony DeBlase, editor of Drummer, to run a monthly classified ad to make contact with other kink-friendly therapists. Letters arrived from everywhere (email wasn’t commonly used yet). Soon Guy had received and replied to dozens of contacts from all across the country. Some time later a small portion of the kink-sensitive therapist referral list was published in DungeonMaster, a magazine for the gay male BDSM practitioner.

Soon afterwards Race Bannon was talking with Guy Baldwin about his list. Guy showed Race folders full of letters from therapists wanting to be part of the referral list. Guy’s schedule wasn’t allowing him to keep up with the correspondence and after some discussion Race proposed taking over maintenance of the list. Guy agreed and Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) was born.
Guy and Race knew that people who enjoy the adventurous side of sex often end up having a difficult time finding mental health professionals sensitive to their needs. Too often clients hear that it’s their sexuality that’s the problem. That’s rarely the case. The usual issues facing these clients aren’t related to their sexual interests at all, but the sex-negative bias of some psychotherapists gets in the way of effective therapy.

Initially, the only way to effectively disseminate the KAP list to those that needed it was in printed form sent by mail. And that’s how the list was disseminated for the first few years. Later the internet and the web allowed the KAP list to be accessed online by anyone with an internet connection.

Other professional categories were added to the KAP referral list over time, but the number of professions was eventually reduced to the core three professions critical to kinky people in times of need: psychotherapists, attorneys and medical professionals. KAP now provides listings of hundreds of professionals that the alternative sexuality community can access at any time.

In January 2006, Race Bannon turned over management of the KAP list to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.
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If you are professional that might be interested in having people be referred to your practice from this site, read the full requirements and, if you qualify please register or login, then submit your information. Please note that submissions that don’t follow the guidelines below may be rejected.

Please be aware that by making a entry in this directory, you may be found by search engines such as Google, Yahoo or other. This is a open public directory. 

Requirements for KAP Professionals

Acceptance of Diverse Sexualities
Every professional who is listed on the KAP referral list must believe that alternative forms of erotic play can be healthy and proper expressions of sexuality. Some of the forms of sexuality we are referring to here are SM, BD, DS, leather, and fetish. In short, a professional must agree that any form of consensual sexuality between adults can be considered healthy if practiced in a safe and responsible manner.

Geographic Areas
KAP accepts submissions from kink-aware professionals throughout the world. Most listings are in the United States.

Types of Professionals
KAP includes the following professionals in the referral listing:

  • Psychologists
  • Counselors and Therapists
  • Lawyers
  • Doctors
  • Health and Wellness Practitioners (non-M.D.)
  • Accounting and Finance
  • Life Coaches
  • Spiritual Advisors/Wedding Officiators
  • Web Design/IT
  • Internet-Based Businesses

If your profession does not fall into one of the categories above, you can list in the "other professional" catagory. We know many other types of professionals would like to be listed, but these categories have been carefully selected as those professions in which a kink-friendly attitude can dramatically affect the effectiveness of the service to the community. You may choose to be listed in up to two categories.

All listings will be dated when posted and a listing will remain active for approximately one year. Due to a large number of listings that have not been kept up with current information by the listed professionals, we have had to place a time limit on postings to ensure a reasonable amount of accuracy for our site visitors. But as long as you renew your listing every year, you can remain posted on KAP as long as you wish. You will receive one email a few weeks prior to your listing being deleted. If you do not return to the site to renew your listing in a timely manner, your entry will be deleted and no longer available to site visitors.

We Reserve the Right to Refuse Listings from Anyone
Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) reserves the right to refuse listings from any professional for any reason and reserves the right to remove any listing of any professional at any time at the sole discretion of KAP.

KAP Approval Guidelines
Kink aware professionals must offer professional services for adults and be tolerant of those who engage in alternative sexual and relationship expressions. Kink aware professionals must support informed consent as the basis of ethical BDSM practices.

KAP doesn't allow:

  • No solicitation for sexual services
  • No minors (under 18) or animals in a sexual context
  • No solicitation for illegal activities
  • No sharing anyone's personal, identifying, confidential or proprietary information
  • No postings the primary purpose of which is to drive traffic to a website
  • No service or content that violates the law or legal rights of others


If you do not receive a confirming email after having made your listing submission, please check any SPAM folders or filters that may be associated with your email address. 

KAP submissions are reviewed and approved as volunteer time allows, so please be patient. Your listing will be posted as soon as possible. Thank you for your participation in this important referral resource!


Before You Search for a Professional You should know...

We Reserve the Right to Refuse Listings from Anyone
Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) reserves the right to refuse listings from any professional for any reason and reserves the right to remove any listing of any professional at any time at the sole discretion of KAP.

We Have No Sex Services Listings
The Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) referral list does not post any listings offering sexual services of any kind.

We Do Not Screen Our Listings
The Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) referral list is composed of professionals who have requested that their listings be posted on this site. None of them are verified or screened in any way by KAP. This means that anyone contacting these professionals should take the necessary precautions, just are you would do if you were searching for a professional through any other means, including verifying that the professional is properly licensed or credentialed in his or her stated profession.

If You Have a Complaint About a KAP Professional
In the entire history of the KAP web site, we have only had a handful of complaints about professionals. That is a very good track record for KAP, but we want your experience with the professionals listed here to be the best it can be for you. So, if you do experience any conduct from a professional that you consider inappropriate, we want to hear about it, but you should consider reporting that professional to the appropriate governmental agency or licensing body where the professional does business. KAP does not have the resources or authority to act on or to resolve any complaint against any professional listed here.


Search for a KAP Professional.

The Council on Licensure, Enforcement and Regulation's resource pages ( for North American listings) include links to many of the licensing and regulatory bodies for various regions and professions.
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The Kink Aware Professionals Directory (KAP) is a service offered by NCSF dedicated to providing the community with a listing of psychotherapeutic, medical, legal and other professionals who have stated that they are knowledgeable about and sensitive to diverse expressions of sexuality.

KAP cannot and does not in any way endorse or recommend any of these professionals, as their inclusion on this list is done without any verification or screening by NCSF. However, each professional listed has volunteered to be available to be contacted by people involved in "kinky" sexuality (leather, BDSM, fetish, polyamory, the Lifestyle, etc.) either by contacting KAP directly or through another kink-friendly publication or organization.

While the majority of KAP professionals offer services in the United States and Canada, we also accept submissions from kink-aware professionals throughout the world. In addition to their professional category, KAP providers may also list themselves in the "Worldwide and Internet-Based Providers" category to indicate that they offer their services via the web or phone.

GayLawNetlogo2The NCSF has formed a partnership with GayLawNet who has a substantual listing of GLBTI, GLBTI-Friendly and Kink Aware Attorneys.  
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NCSF hosts the largest known resource online for locating a Kink Aware Professional (KAP).  Whether you need legal assistance, a CPA for your kink-related business, or just an understanding therapist who won't blame your kink interests for all of your life challenges, the KAP is the place to find them.

My relationship with the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) began like many others do. I was neck deep in a conflict that was based in my free expression of my sexuality through my writing. I was asked to leave my teaching position, an agreement was reached and I left quietly without creating a scene. I used to teach in a small, private school in North Carolina, where my daughter also attended school. When I left my teaching position I was assured that it would not affect her last and final year of middle school.

Months passed, and we were within days of her returning to the 8th grade when I received a call from the Head of School that he had decided to rescind his offer to allow her to go to school there. After heated debate, he agreed that she could attend school, but if and only if I could secure a $1,000.00 expense fee to cover her field trips and lunches in advance. It was a bullshit fee, to be honest. It’s not required of any other parent. He knew that we would not be able to come up with $1,000 in a matter of days. This was his way of keeping her out without risking litigation.

So I wondered what led this man, elder in his church, who had given me his word that my child would be unaffected, to suddenly revoke something that we had agreed upon? He said that based on an email to my husband, he had changed his mind. I looked at Marky, while still on the phone, and asked, “Did you exchange any emails in the last month with the school?” Of course he had not. Well the school made a terrible error. They contacted my ex-husband, not my husband. They contacted someone who has no legal custody of our daughter, and based on that conversation had decided that I would no longer be welcome in the parent community.

This happened, I’m sure by no coincidence, at the same time that I received threatening emails from my ex-husband, who suggested that due to my deviant behavior she should come to live with him.

I reacted immediately. First, I raised the money in a raffle that was initially supported by Lochai and quickly built into a huge CommUNITY movement of kinksters who were outraged. Secondly, I contact NCSF and accessed professional advice and consultations through their Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) listing. With the help of the community and the NCSF I felt prepared for battle.

Now, coming full circle, I am honored that my PR firm, Quid Pro Quo, will be working with NCSF on the launching of a new blog. We are doing the work pro-bono to show NCSF our appreciation and to give back to an organization that protects all of us. It feels really great to be in a position to give back. So do us a favor and help us help them. We’ll be asking people to re-post and tweet links and I hope you’ll consider it your way of giving back to such an amazing organization.

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You've requested to use a KAP Directory feature that requires you to be logged into our website.  


Why register for an account?

You'll get the most out of the new KAP Directory features if you have an account on the NCSF website!

When logged in, you can:

  • Save your favorite KAP Professional listings, making it easier to find those professional listings the next time you  visit the KAP Directory.
  • Save your favorite KAP searches (excluding zipcode searches)
  • Submit a new KAP entry or update your existing entry, if you are a KAP Professional

In the future, we may also offer the ability to subscribe to email notifications of new listings that meet your saved search criteria. Joining now means when this feature is launched, you will automatically be signed up.

Use the KAP Login to the lefthand side to login to your existing account or create a new account.

We respect your privacy!  Read our Privacy Statement


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About DSM-V Revision Project

The DSM Revision project is attempting to depathologize BDSM in the APA Diagnostic and Statistic Manual.

The goal of the DSM-V Revision Project is to keep people from being discriminated against and persecuted because the current APA guidelines say BDSM is indicative of mental illness.

Susan Wright
NCSF Board Member
Director of the DSM-V Revision Project.

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