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on Saturday, 13 September 2014. Hits 206

"Anne Rice's 'Sleeping Beauty': TV's New 'Fifty Shades of Grey'?"

on Friday, 12 September 2014. Hits 255

Televisa USA is adapting the book trilogy with 'Dallas Buyers Club's' Rachel Winter

The Hollywood Reporter

 

Has the small screen found its own Fifty Shades of Grey?

Televisa USA (Lifetime's Devious Maids) has acquired TV and digital rights to Anne Rice's best-selling book series The Sleeping Beauty, with plans to produce the erotic BDSM trilogy as a TV series, The Hollywood Reporter has learned.

First published in 1983-85 as The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty, Beauty's Punishment and Beauty's Release, the series is set in a medieval fantasy world. The books center on a young princess who, like Sleeping Beauty, is awakened from her long sleep — only in a more provocative fashion than in the fairytale.

The controversial series — an underground cult hit that has gained new life thanks to Fifty Shades — is among the American Library Association's list of 100 most frequently challenged books of the 1990s, and includes steamy and very detailed sex scenes.

Oscar-nominated Dallas Buyers Club producer Rachel Winter, a longtime fan of the novels, approached Rice about developing the book series for TV in 2012 and will executive produce alongside Rice. Endemol North America CEO Charlie Corwin and former CAA motion picture lit agent-turned-producer Jessica Matthews will also exec produce. Televisa USA managing director Paul Presburger and chief creative officer Michael Garcia will oversee.

"I wrote this to be fun, in the belief that dominance and submission can be romantic and delightful as well as erotic," said Rice, who noted in February that she's prepping a fourth book in the series.

Added Garcia: "Now is the perfect moment for this project. On the heels of such boundary-pushing adaptations as Fifty Shades and HBO's Game of Thrones, the topics explored in this series are in the zeitgeist and we feel television is finally ready for them. We are now going out to writers and talent, and will put all the creative, production and distribution elements in place quickly." ...

NCSF Mental Health Survey

on Thursday, 11 September 2014. Hits 818

Please take the NCSF Mental Health Survey! We would like to know more about your BDSM practices, mental health and relational violence experiences:

 

https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/FZ2XDMP

 

NCSF is working with researchers at Sam Houston University’s Department of Psychology and Philosophy who will compare our responses to two other sample populations – one college-aged and the other LGBT-identified.

 

NCSF will use these results to help with our advocacy, benefiting both existing and developing programs. Specifically, the study’s results will assist in educating law enforcement, legal and psychological professionals about the practices and mental health of BDSM practitioners.

 

The survey will take approximately 35 minutes of your time.

 

This survey is anonymous. NCSF or outside researchers do not have access to any identifying information about participants.

 

"Fifty Shades of BDSM safety"

on Thursday, 11 September 2014. Hits 208

Montana Kaimin

by Hannah-Laura Rudolph

BDSM isn't a black and white topic. There are 50 shades of grey in between.

"Fifty Shades of Grey" is an erotic romance novel featuring bondage/discipline, dominance/submission and sadism/masochism, known colloquially as BDSM.

A local BDSM community member said the books are great for encouraging sexual self-expression, but that some people are putting themselves in dangerous situations.

“Anyone can pick up a flogger and start hitting someone, but to do it in a way that’s safe and won’t truly harm the recipient takes time and research,” said Dovah, who asked the Kaimin to refer to her by her “domme” name in the BDSM community.

"It's a very taboo subject and I have people in my life who would not accept that particular lifestyle, including my family,” she said. “It also protects the people who identify as my submissives so people won't begin to question them as well. Anonymity is extremely important in our community and outing someone is one of the worst possible things you could do.”

The trilogy follows the relationship and sexual exploits of college graduate Anastasia Steele and businessman Christian Grey.

Doctor of Human Sexuality and clinical sexologist Lindsey Doe said the books have brought much awareness to BDSM culture. She said it has prompted more discussion and normalized it in conversation.

“It’s a starting point for dialogue, which may even be to say that this is not what practical BDSM looks like," she said. "On the negative side, you have a single perspective of BDSM, which can’t be representative of all the experiences of BDSM."

The books have sold over 100 million copies, and helped popularize BDSM worldwide.

“'The Fifty Shades of Grey' books are more than a trashy piece of literature. They’re a gateway for many people into the world of BDSM," Dovah said.

Peer health educator Emily Cohen said she has done research on BDSM in Missoula. She said the "Fifty Shades of Grey" books give the community a bad image and that it goes against everything they practice and believe in.

“A lot of misconceptions about BDSM is that it is sexual abuse, that it is extremely violent and only aimed to hurt people,” she said.

Cohen works for the Curry Health Center Wellness Office and plans on becoming a sex educator and counselor. She said she has never practiced BDSM herself, but has witnessed it at events before. ...

"Kinky Sex And Bondage Tips For S&M First Timers"

on Tuesday, 09 September 2014. Hits 348

YourTango

By Ky Henderson

Everything you wanted to know (but were afraid to ask) about S&M.

Even if you're not sure what S&M actually entails, the letters alone probably conjure up vivid images: Whips and chains, leather and latex, a tubby guy named The Gimp tugging on his leash as he hungrily eyes Bruce Willis in Pulp Fiction. It's common to assume that sadism-and-masochism enthusiasts are at best unusual or shocking and at worst downright depraved. But are they really? Well, The Gimp certainly is — living in a locked crate in the basement of a pawnshop will do that to you. And anecdotal evidence does suggest that S&M enthusiasts differ from"normal" people in two ways: They have higher levels of education and tend to be very creative. S&M is also more common than you probably think; experts estimate one in five couples dabble, and one in 20 engage in very serious play.

"Couples enjoy S&M in part because it lets them explore new roles and visit different places with each other," says Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Naughty Tricks & Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Erotic Pleasure. "Pushing the boundaries as far as you want can be an exhilarating release from the routine."

It also can solidify a strong foundation of trust and honest. And if you think you have little interest in S&M yourself, take a closer look at your sex life. Pinning your partner's wrists against the bed, tugging on hair, or biting a shoulder are simply milder ways of expressing desires that eventually lead some people to devote closet space to studded leather. The trick part is figuring out how — and if — you want to take it to the next level.

After Steven Lilla* and his girlfriend, Rebecca Simon, had been dating for a few months, she told him that S&M play typically had been an important part of her sex life. He was surprised, but not uncomfortable; she brought it up outside the bedroom, and she didn't put pressure on Steven to indulge her. Still, he had to confront a belief drilled into his head since he was old enough to smack toy-hugging playmates. "Most American males are raised to think it's never OK to be rough with a woman," says Steven, a 32-year-old martial arts instructor from Los Angeles. "That was something I had to overcome. But after learning more about S&M and taking some baby steps, I ended up really liking it."

They went slowly, sitting together — fully clothed, without sex playing any part — and practiced using ropes and chains so that neither of them experienced unwanted discomfort. Their toys, kept in a locked chest, only emerged when Rebecca's daughter wasn't home. Nine years later, Steven and Rebecca are still together, and S&M — role-playing, bondage, "forced" sex — is still a major part of their sex lives. But it's hardly the only part. "A big fallacy is that if you're into it, it's all you're into," says Rebecca, a 34-year-old who works at a museum. "But we very much enjoy regular vanilla sex."

They belong to a local club — there are dozens nationwide, easily found by an Internet search — with classes on safe ways to explore kinks, and parties where couples can play in front of other members. ("There's music and food like any other party," Steven says. "Except there are spanking noises in the background.") There's also an outreach program for law and psychology students and police officers, to help them differentiate between consensual and criminal sex. Of course, when cops need assistance sorting out sexual practice from crime, bringing up that practice with your partner can be more than a little daunting.

Paula Myers was lucky enough to find an entrée in casual conversation when her boyfriend told her she needed a spanking for being grumpy. "That really got me excited," says Paula, a 40-year-old from Seattle. A few weeks latheer, when he offered to give her a back rub, "I told him what I really wanted was for him to spank me, and not stop even if I asked him to." That Christmas, without prior discussion, she bought him a flogger, and he bought her a paddle. (Paging Mr. O. Henry...). ...

" Consensual non-monogamy a way of life for Edmonton polyamorists"

on Monday, 08 September 2014. Hits 210

Edmonton Journal


By Fiona Buchanan

 

EDMONTON - An unusual Edmonton group is seeking to raise awareness about their unique formula for blissful romance. Polyamory Edmonton is a group of people that practise consensual, non-monogamous relationships. They are in the process of becoming a non-profit organization and want to educate Edmontonians about their unconventional take on romantic partnerships.

Founder Alyson Sidra, who is married and dating outside that relationship, gives a crash course on polyamory and explains why it can be a recipe for relationship success.

What is polyamory?

If someone identifies as polyamorous, they are open to having more than one romantic partner with the openness, consent and honesty of everyone involved. There wouldn’t be any cheating or anything secretive. Everyone knows who the other is dating or involved with.

What makes polyamory any different from polygamy or polyandry?

Polyamory can take on many different structures. People may have heard of swinging, for example, which is an open relationship, but strictly sexual. But polyamorous relationships are open to romantic partnerships rather than just sexual ones. Some couples might date other people separately, outside of their relationship. Others go into it wanting to mutually date the same person, where everyone is equally involved with each other. There are triads with three people, and other relationship groupings with four or more. How interactive those people are with each other can definitely vary.

Does this relationship structure actually work out in the long-term?

Yes, several people in our community who identify have been in relationships that lasted several years, five years, 10 years. I know personally of several members who have had long-term relationships with multiple people that lasted decades. Some are short-lived, some are long-lived, just like any monogamous relationship would be.

Polyamorous relationships must be tough to manage with so many people involved. Is it tricky?

It can be. We jokingly say that poly people can be very adept at scheduling. Other than that, most poly relationships have very similar issues to monogamous ones, just with more than one person.

Some people might say that romantic love doesn’t work when it is not exclusively between two people. How do you view it?

In my marriage, it felt comfortable for us to open up to love and to date other people without it feeling at all threatening or making our own relationship insecure. In fact, in a lot of ways, it tended to make it stronger. There’s a lot of communication involved.

You are not born with a certain amount of it and it definitely doesn’t get depleted the more people you have in your life. People view romantic love as something very different, but the love that you have for family and friends and children, it multiplies. For polyamorous people, so does romantic love. I think most poly people would agree that their capacity for love is just part of who they are. ...

"Man forced wife to sign sex slave contract, tortured and abused her"

on Saturday, 06 September 2014. Hits 299

By Scott Adkins

A 32-year-old Seymour, Indiana man is accused of raping and beating his wife after forcing her to sign a “slave contract,” WFIE-TV reported on Thursday.

Kenneth Eugene Harden is accused of 38 counts of battery, criminal confinement and rape. He reportedly married the woman just over a year ago after meeting through an online personal ad. Harden allegedly described himself as a Christian during their brief courtship, only to reveal six months into the marriage that he was a “sadist.”

According to a police affadavit (PDF), police learned about the conditions Harden imposed on his wife after she called them to their residence on Aug. 30. The woman said Harden choked her with a collar she was required to wear as part of the “contract.” However, she said, Harden continually broke rules in the agreement barring abuse of her.

Authorities also found a “slave manual,” signed by the woman and Harden this past June, and paperwork granting Harden power of attorney for the woman. She told police that despite being abused for months, she could not leave him, in part because she suffered from diabetes and Harden never taught her how to operate her insulin pump.

“This is what I’m supposed to live by, and I’m tired of the abuse,” the woman was quoted as saying. “I’m tired of getting hit every day. Please, I’m scared.”

She also told officers that she would yell while Harden hit her, in hopes a neighbor would call for help.

“We could hear them fighting sometimes and we heard a lot of loud noises upstairs,” downstairs neighbor Tyler Davers was quoted as saying. “But I never thought anything of it.”

Harden is being held on $100,000 bond. ...

NCSF Disappointed with Decision in U.S. v. Miles

on Wednesday, 03 September 2014. Hits 395

Washington, DC – NCSF is disappointed with the decision against Gregory T. Miles, Lance Corporal, U.S. Marine Corps, by the Navy-Marine Corps Court of Criminal Appeals, which upheld the convictions of consensual attempted sodomy and indecent acts. As NCSF previously stated in its Amicus brief, accepted by the Court in March, 2014:

 

·       Regarding the “indecent acts” conviction (Article 120(k)), the Court ignores the fact that this provision is explicitly, on its face, inconsistent with the Supreme Court’s holding in Lawrence v. Texas that a criminal statute cannot be predicated on moral disapproval, but rather must protect a legitimate societal interest.  Article 120(k)’s definition of “indecent acts” is specifically keyed to moral disapproval.

 

·       The court’s analysis of the Lawrence treatment of sodomy is incorrect. The issue is not whether Lawrence made sodomy a “fundamental right,” the issue is whether sodomy can be criminally prosecuted, a very different thing.

 

·       Also, to equate “open and notorious” with Lawrence’s use of the word “public” is to play with words.  As demonstrated in the NCSF Amicus brief, the Supreme Court’s statement that Lawrence does not deal with “public conduct” cannot rationally be read to mean that commission of sodomy in public can be prosecuted as sodomy (as opposed to, say, public lewdness).

 

·       Lastly, the Court’s statements on the forcible conduct charges are simply astonishing: “acquittal on criminal charges does not prove that the defendant is innocent; it merely proves the existence of a reasonable doubt as to his guilt.”

 

Despite this defeat, NCSF remains committed to supporting the decision made in Lawrence and will continue to fight against moral interpretations of the law.

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