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"Why I Powder and Diaper Powerful, Successful, Middle-Aged Men"

on Monday, 17 August 2015. Hits 410

Huffington Post

by Sandra LaMorgese

My sweet six-month-old baby is lying on his dressing table looking up at Mommy with a big smile on his face. He is the happiest at changing and feeding time. He seems pleased when the cool baby powder covers his bottom, and I gently press down the sticky tape tabs that secure his diaper, which is covered with blue teddy bears. Now that he's clean and dry, I will fill his belly with warm milk while I rock him lovingly and tenderly in my arms.


Once he's fed and his belly is full, I allow him to suck on his baby blue butterfly pacifier to relax and fall asleep.


Nearly all mothers experience this at least three times a day when raising a little one. My baby, however, is not really six months old... he's sixty-three.


The first time I had a potential client contact me for an "Adult Baby" session, I was taken aback. It wasn't as if I judged the request or the powerfully successful middle-aged man asking, but the situation forced me to take a deep look inside of myself. Could I step into the role-play authentically? Could I be a positive facilitator of this man's sexual authenticity? Or would I find myself making a personal judgment? Would I find the scene so unbelievable that I would crack and not be able to stay in character?


In spite of my doubts, I decided to try, and I'm so happy I did.


As a practitioner in fetish and domination, my role is to help facilitate a client's authenticity and sexual expression. Many times, I am contacted by men who are expressing their deepest desires and feelings out loud to another person for the first time in their entire lives.


The first time I spent a session powdering and diapering my client, I realized that when I leave judgment at the door and embrace curiosity, the physical modality stops being the forefront of the experience -- and what's left is the positive energy and enthusiasm generated between my client and myself.


The intimate and non-judgmental relationships I have with my clients are built on trust and respect. During our sessions, clients may take on a feminine role and dress in lingerie, make-up, nail polish, and wigs to help assist in the expression of being female, while others may have a foot fetish, adult baby fetish, or kidnapping and death fetish. For example, I have a client who takes on the role of a little lamb, and I role-play that I'm going to slaughter him for dinner. The client I mentioned earlier needs to act out like a baby, so I powder and diaper his bottom and feed him a bottle while rocking him in my arms.


Many may wonder, What kind of person likes this sort of thing? ...

"West Linn issues cease and desist letter to BDSM 'play space'"

on Sunday, 16 August 2015. Hits 462

Fox KPTV Oregon


The City of West Linn has ordered a local man to stop operating a bondage and discipline-sadomasochism room out of his home.


On its website, Mead Hall Dungeon is advertised as a private play space available for rental. David Levine said he hosts parties at the space twice a month.


“It’s simply people who enjoy gathering together and being in a fetish world with each other,” he explained.


The city began looking into Mead Hall Dungeon after a neighbor complained about several cars parking along West A Street, where the building is located.


Police determined no criminal activity was taking place, but the city then issued a cease and desist letter when they learned Levine did not have a business permit.


The city said Levine is violating code by operating without an adult business permit, but Levine said he doesn’t consider Mead Hall to be a business.


“We’re not using this to make income,” he said. “We’re using donations and stuff to be able to continue to supply paper plates and water and keep the electricity on.”


The dungeon is in a soundproofed, converted garage that sits off a long driveway.


Neighbors only recently learned about the adult activities taking place at the gatherings.


“All the neighbors around here were concerned because of the Friday night, Saturday night parking and the interesting people that seemed to be walking down the street and up the driveway,” said Robert Hoffman.


Mary Wendling said she was shocked when she found out about Mead Hall, especially because it’s located a few blocks down from West Linn High School.


“I just find it just totally inappropriate,” she said. “If people want to do that, that’s fine. But please, not in a neighborhood."...

"Swingers club lawsuit against Summit Township dismissed by county judge"

on Friday, 14 August 2015. Hits 551


By Will Forgrave

A lawsuit filed by the owners of a planned swingers club in Summit Township was thrown out by a county judge.


Renovations to a private club in Summit Township remain stalled after property owners failed to submit a conditional use permit to township officials and instead sued the municipality last month.


Jackson County Circuit Judge Richard LaFlamme ruled against the private club owners' suit and directed them to file an appeal with the township.


"I'm sure I'll be seeing everyone here again in the future," he said Tuesday, Aug. 11.


The property at 4200 Spring Arbor Road was purchased by Epicurean Developments LLC in December, Jackson County records indicate, and has since created a storm of controversy, with area residents wondering what kind of business property owners plan to open at the location.


Several concerned residents have pointed to a website that states a swingers club dubbed "The Club at 4200" is set to open this spring in Jackson. An address for the club is not listed on the site.


Epicurean's legal counsel admitted Tuesday that the website is advertising for the Summit Township property, but said no illegal activities will occur and the township is at fault for issuing a construction permit and then reneging on the agreement.


"My client expended significant funds on this project," said Frederick Lucas, Epicurean's lawyer. "There is no sex allowed on the premises, this is not a brothel. This is consenting adults getting together to mingle.


"If they wish to engage in sexual acts, they need to go elsewhere," Lucas continued.


Township lawyer William Fahey said three words in the township ordinances are at question "clubs and lodges" and said the wording refers to "clubs like Rotary Clubs and lodges like the Masons."


"That is the common understanding," he said. "I don't think 'clubs and lodges' is an ambiguous term." ...

"Educator Tackles Porn, Consent And Communication With College Freshmen"

on Thursday, 13 August 2015. Hits 383

WBUR Boston's NPR

For many freshmen around the country, college orientation this year will include more than learning to manage a meal plan or figuring out when to declare a major. It could also mean sitting through lectures about sexual behavior on campus, sexual assault and affirmative consent. Some also will require students to fill out honor code forms agreeing to behave in a sexually appropriate manner. Among the schools that have incorporated sexual assault and consent awareness into their freshman curricula in recent years are Elon University, George Washington University, Indiana University, Rutgers and Stanford.


Cindy Pierce is a New Hampshire-based sex educator, the author of the soon-to-be-released book “Sexploitation” and a popular speaker on campuses around the country. And while some argue that the programs are overkill, since students today have access to more information than any generation that preceded them, Pierce argues that it’s exactly because there’s so much information out there that today’s students need more guidance.


Pierce joins Here & Now’s Robin Young from the studios of Dartmouth University in New Hampshire to discuss her work.


Interview Highlights: Cindy Pierce


On how to effectively teach young adults about consent


“This is really about reorienting people, because teaching people that ‘no means no’ hasn’t worked. We all know young women who have not reported being sexually assaulted, and we all know women who have been sexually assaulted, who have gone through the process.


“So instead of a checklist, instead of thinking of that as a checklist, it’s not that unreasonable to ask people to say, ‘Is this OK? Do you like this?’ And the question is ‘Do you know this person well enough? Are you connected in a way well enough not through text? Did you meet through text, is that how you interact?’ And now the reality is there’s no app to get you through the face-to-face naked place, so you’ve gotta communicate and you’ve gotta communicate clearly.”


On male involvement in the consent movement


“This is what’s shifting. I almost gave up speaking on some campuses, because I felt like there wasn’t a lot of change. But here at Dartmouth, these young men came to me, and asked me to speak at an event, and I thought, you know what? This is the first time that young men have come to me and said ‘come and speak.’ Because I think that there’s a lot of fear that they’re gonna be scolded and blamed and that we’re gonna wag our finger and, you know, that has traditionally been the case.”


On porn and sexual education


“I want educated viewers, I want viewers aware of what’s real, what’s not real, so my feeling is when I talk to young guys about porn they have so many questions, because it’s not working. When they try to convert what they’re learning into a sexual encounter, it’s not working. And they’re confused about female pleasure. They ask, ‘So women really like to be raped, is that true? So women really like to be tied up?’ They ask you that straight up. They’re looking for answers and the first place they go is porn. I tell young women: be the GPS, guide them in, but once again, so many women say ‘If he asked, I’d tell him everything,’ and the guy said, ‘I don’t want to ask, because I think I’m supposed to know.’ ...

"Polyamory: taboo for religious Americans but not for the rest"

on Wednesday, 12 August 2015. Hits 399

Faith strongly influences people's attitudes to morality and whether or not they view monogamy as natural for humans


The recent Supreme Court decision which asserted that the right to marry is a constitutional right, including for same sex couples, has raised prompted some commentators to question whether the same could be said of polygamy. Polygamy has long been prohibited and rarely practised in the United States, but at least the practise is quite common in many parts of the Islamic world and sub-Saharan Africa. What is increasingly common in the United States, however, are various forms of 'polyamory', where people have multiple sexual and romantic partners with the full knowledge of their partners.


YouGov's research shows that most Americans (56%) reject the idea that polyamory is somehow morally acceptable, though one quarter of the country does think that polyamorous relationships are morally acceptable. Polygamy, that is marriage between more than two people, is even less acceptable, with 69% saying that polygamy is immoral and only 14% believing that it is morally acceptable.


Attitudes towards polyamory depend significantly on how religious someone is. 80% of people who say that religion is 'very important' in their lives say that polyamory is wrong, but among people for whom religion is 'not at all important' 58% say that polyamory is morally acceptable.


"'Yes means yes' policy coming under fire from judges"

on Tuesday, 11 August 2015. Hits 572

Fox News

By Cody Derespina

Judges across the country are saying “no” to the “yes means yes” standard of affirmative consent for date rape.


The legality of the standard – adopted on California and New York campuses by state legislatures and in effect on numerous other colleges throughout the country – is in question following a series of recent rulings that cite a lack of due process.


“These decisions are harbingers,” said John Banzhaf, a professor at George Washington University Law School and a public interest lawyer. “It does take time for new ideas to percolate through the system.”


Under the standard, the accused, typically a male, has to prove he obtained consent, even if neither party remembers what happened. The standard forces the accused to prove his innocence, rather than be proven guilty.


Proponents of the “yes means yes” law claim it’s a necessary step to combat sexual assaults, which some studies suggest occur at a high frequency on campuses.


But judges in California, Tennessee and Virginia say it goes too far.


A student expelled from the University of California-San Diego had an “unfair” hearing, Superior Court Judge Joel M. Pressman ruled in July. The John Doe accused in the case said he was unable to cross-examine his accuser and other witnesses. He also said he was forced to submit questions to a hearing panel in advance, and many of his questions were then rejected. Pressman agreed this was a violation of his due process rights.


A student found guilty of sexual misconduct by the University of Tennessee because he couldn’t prove he obtained verbal consent had his verdict overturned by a Chancery Court judge on Aug. 4.


A student expelled from Washington and Lee University for alleged sexual misconduct will be allowed to continue with his gender bias lawsuit against the school, U.S. District Court Judge Norman Moon ruled on Aug. 8. In the lawsuit, a Title IX officer at the school is quoted during a presentation she gave to the woman who later accused John Doe. The Title IX officer is alleged to have said “regret equals rape” and “went on to state her belief that this point was a new idea everyone, herself included, is starting to agree with.” Shortly thereafter, an allegation of misconduct was launched against John Doe. The Title IX officer played a significant role in the investigatory process.


A right to due process at state universities may seem like a novel concept, but Banzhaf said the fourth amendment protection was never intended to apply solely to the court system.


“The Constitution trumps everything else,” he said. “So no matter what the Department of Education or Department of Justice suggest, regardless of what a state’s statute provides, or what the University decides, the Constitution trumps it all.”


The Supreme Court somewhat settled the due process question in its 1976 Mathews vs. Eldrige decision, a case cited by Chancellor Carol L. McCoy in the University of Tennessee decision.


“The fundamental requirement of due process is the opportunity to be heard ‘at a meaningful time and in a meaningful manner,’” McCoy wrote. “Due process is flexible and calls for such procedural protections as the particular situation demands.” ...

"Dominatrix sued for elderly exploitation"

on Friday, 07 August 2015. Hits 551

News 4

On her website, Central Florida dominatrix "Goddess Jude" says she enjoys spanking, flogging, whipping and other fetish activities. The dominatrix also advertises "financial slavery" for clients who wish to "pamper" their mistress.


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But in a lawsuit filed in Seminole County Circuit Court, former client Alex Abrams, 68, claims Judith Gumbrecht took their sadomasochistic relationship too far, draining more than $500,000 from his bank and credit card accounts, as well as taking ownership of his 1,450 square-foot townhome in Casselberry.


"Given his mental and physical condition, he was exploited," said Abrams' attorney Brian Mark, who claims his client was suffering from clinical depression, dementia and Alzheimer's disease when he added Gumbrecht’s name to his financial accounts.


Mark claims Gumbrecht violated a Florida statute that makes it illegal to exploit an elderly person or disabled adult. An elderly person is defined as someone 60 years of age or older who is suffering from the infirmities of aging, according to Florida law.


"Our client has not been served with the lawsuit, so we are not able to provide any comment on it," said Gumbrecht's attorney, Lawrence G. Walters.


However, based on what he and his client know about Abrams, Walters said there is no merit to Abrams' legal claims.


Abrams met Gumbrecht about four years ago after divorcing his wife of 32 years, Mark said. According to the lawsuit, Gumbrecht told Abrams "it was of the highest honor to be her financial slave," and convinced him that such servitude "would bring her the most pleasure."


"Gumbrecht continued to reward Abrams with sexual favors," states the lawsuit, which adds that "Abrams would be punished" if he failed to adhere to the dominatrix's financial requirements.


On her website, Gumbrecht states she is a BDSM professional who "will NEVER perform illegal sexual acts."


Mark acknowledged it is not illegal for a dominatrix to offer sadomasochistic and financial slavery services. However, the attorney claims Gumbrecht knew about Abrams' diminished mental state because she accompanied him to an appointment with a neuropsychologist and psychotherapist in 2013.


"She went with him to the doctor when he was diagnosed," said Mark. "She was fully aware."


In May 2014, Abrams signed a deed transferring his Casselberry townhome to Gumbrecht. The property has an assessed value of $101,537.


In the lawsuit, Abrams accuses Gumbrecht of exploitation of an elderly person, theft, and unjust enrichment. He is seeking damages, interest and attorney fees. ...

"The Key is Devotion: Polytheism and Polyamory"

on Thursday, 06 August 2015. Hits 388


by Sable Aradia

A few days ago now, Melissa Hill wrote in her new column “Dandelion Seeds” that she thinks that “Polytheism and Polyamory are a Natural Combination.”  I remember how difficult it was to be a new columnist, and how spectacularly I stuck my foot in my gob more than once, so even though Yvonne Aburrow took her to task about some of her commentary regarding polyamory vs. monogamy, I am not intending to be as harsh.  But I do have some objections to things that were stated in the article.

As my regular readers probably know by now, I’m polyamorous.  I live in a committed polyfidelitous trio.  I am married legally to Erin; I’ve been with him for about twenty years, married for ten.  We are also in a relationship with Jamie, who was a good friend and my lover for many years before he came to complete our trio two years ago.  For the most part we’re just like everyone else, except that the poles around which the relationship move are different.

I have never been monogamous, as far as I can tell, though I tried; I really, really tried.  To complicate matters I am also bisexual.  I fully absorbed our culture’s beliefs about how “good girls don’t like sex” very well; so well that I was anorexic and bullemic by the time I was fifteen; which, experts will tell you, is partially a tool to repress one’s sexuality.

My very first long-term relationship was with my high school sweetheart.  I gave him my virginity when I was sixteen after two years of dating.  By the time I was eighteen, however, I was also in a relationship with a lovely girl named Erin, with full consent of both of my partners.  I suppose I never would have been, since I was trying so hard to be monogamous, but my boyfriend Brian’s family moved away; he didn’t move back until I graduated from high school.  I was honest with everyone; we tried to figure out how to make it all work.  Rejecting the culturally-proscribed ideals of love, relationship and sex was relatively easy by then, since I’d already been required to do all of that in order to claim my sexuality in the first place and I was in the process of coming out; far more scary to me then than having two relationships.

So I’ve done this polyamory thing for a long time.  I’ve joined Facebook groups and Yahoogroups before that, trying to figure all this stuff out.  And I have some thoughts about the polyamory thing that are probably not what you’d expect.  You see, while I was spurred to write this by Melissa’s article, I don’t think much of what I’m taking exception to is directly a fault of Melissa’s.  I think a good deal of it is the narrative that the poly community spins for itself that’s the problem.

That narrative is one that was necessary in order to gain self-acceptance in our culture, in which monogamy is assumed to be the default, and people are criticized as being morally deficient somehow if they are not monogamous.  But I think this narrative is immature and potentially damaging; and that’s the narrative that says that love is free and infinite; that monogamy is about possessiveness; and that the only thing that stops a person from having infinite loves are their own moral deficiencies of possessiveness and jealousy.  Friends, I’m here to tell you after more than twenty years of polyamory, and some really hard lessons, it’s just not true.  Furthermore, I think this attitude is reckless and can lead to heartbreak where there doesn’t need to be any.

This belief — that what we call jealousy is a result of one’s own personal failings — has led both myself and my spouse into situations in which we felt that we could not say no when the other started a relationship that made us feel threatened.  When it was me who felt threatened, I felt that I had no option but to accept the new girlfriend because I was a bad person if I refused.  The girlfriend was much younger than I was, and prettier, and certainly I had reasons to feel threatened.  But there was also a subconscious awareness that she was not concerned about my fate at the time; she was lonely and I was an obstacle.  I felt like a failure because I was unable to get over my own jealousies and self-doubts.  Eventually they broke up and our relationship survived and got past the point of crisis.

Years later, it was I who was in a relationship with a much younger man and my husband and then-boyfriend who felt threatened.  I was angry. When I was the one who was concerned, I was expected to shut up and swallow my fears.  Knowing this, my husband found himself in a position in which he felt that he would be a bad person if he expressed his feelings and fears, and Jamie, who had never really been in a polyamorous relationship before, felt that he should follow Erin’s lead.  That was unfair to them and I never should have put them in that position.  But I honestly didn’t realize that they didn’t feel that “no” was an option.  When I realized how badly I was hurting our relationship, I ended the affair.  I didn’t want to, but that’s what our relationship needed and so I did it.

The poly community would spin this story as me being controlled by two of the three men in my life.  They would be wrong.  I realized that if I truly was devoted I needed to make a sacrifice, as my husband ultimately had several years ago when faced with a similar situation.

My partners and I are also swingers.  We play grown up games with other people.  We don’t try to have relationships with them.  And why should we?  I think the idea that we must love everyone we have sex with is leftover morality we haven’t seriously thought about yet.  The truth is that this subconscious belief is what created the problem with the younger man I was involved with.  I had a very powerful sexual attraction, and I cared about him.  Surely that had to be love?  Otherwise I would be a bad person, right?

But there’s nothing in Pagan ethics that supports this need to love all of our partners.  I think it’s residual societal programming; good girls don’t have sex with people they’re not in love with, after all.  Well, why not?  For a Pagan, there’s resounding silence instead of an answer.  For a Wiccan, there’s even encouragement, because “all acts of love and pleasure are Her rituals.”  Surely if we believe in equality of the sexes, women can have sex because they want to, for their pleasure, also?  As long as there is consent all around — from the person you’re having sex with, from your partner(s), from their partner(s) — then what’s the harm?  And if there’s no harm, are we not encouraged to do as we will? ...

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