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"Oklahoma man says wife's death was sex fantasy accident"

on Thursday, 30 December 2010. Hits 1297

Arthur Sedille was up-front with police: He would often put a gun to his wife's head during fantasy sex play at their Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, home.

But Sedille said he didn't know the gun was loaded when he pressed it to his wife's head and pulled the handgun's slide back during sex on the night of December 21.

Now Sedille, 23, is facing the possibility of a murder charge in Canadian County, Oklahoma, in the death of his wife, 50-year-old Rebecca Sedille -- who died when the handgun went off in their bedroom.

According to a probable cause affidavit filed by Oklahoma City police, Sedille said the shooting was accidental. He called 911 afterward, according to police. 

"Foot fetish like rigatoni foreplay like ..."

on Tuesday, 28 December 2010. Hits 307

The Trentonian

 Michelle Ryan's feet, and maybe — maybe — an online dating profile that would seem to indicate the Ryans may — may — dabble in the swingers

"More on Sex Blogger Kendra Holliday's Custody Challenge"

on Thursday, 23 December 2010. Hits 388

Riverfront Times

As we reported last week, Kendra Holliday, the woman behind one of St. Louis' raciest blogs, The Beautiful Kind, is facing what she calls "the worst thing imaginable" since revealing her true identity in a Riverfront Times profile.

Holliday's ex-husband is suing to modify the custody agreement they settled on for their ten-year-old child. They'd been splitting custody half-and-half since their 2003 divorce. ..

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is a Baltimore-based group that advocates on behalf of alternative sexuality. The NCSF's Susan Wright says that the group advises people with alternative preferences when they run across legal challenges based on their identities. They've been aware of Holliday's case for some time now.
The group tracks instances of people seeking their help and advocacy. Over the past few years, Wright says, NCSF logs about 500 such incidents each year, about a third of those concerning divorce and custody issues.

In about half of those, she says, the kinky parent is able to retain custody. "As of about five years ago, it was 80/20," in favor of the non-kinky parent, Wright says. She touts the coalition's outreach, better research and efforts to take kinky sexual behaviors out of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the psychiatric bible that codifies what behaviors should be considered pathological -- and which shouldn't.

"Once you've had child custody challenged, the best way to respond is to gather materials to educate the family court about what the lifestyle is -- that it doesn't involve children, but involves consenting adults and negotiation," says Wright. "We try to take out the element of a person's sexual behavior."

The group also maintains a database of "kink-aware professionals:" lawyers, doctors, psychiatrists and others who are already familiar with BDSM practices and as such won't need to be educated on exactly what their clients are up to, or why. They can provide attorneys with findings in peer-reviewed journals that make clear that consenting adults being rough with one another in the bedroom make just as capable parents as adults who do it missionary-style with the lights off. 

 

"Kendra Holliday, Mom Behind Racy Blog, Sued For Custody"

on Wednesday, 15 December 2010. Hits 1481

Riverfront Times

After revealing her identity in an RFT feature and on her blog, Kendra Holliday expected fallout. After all, the blog she'd maintained anonymously for years, www.thebeautifulkind.com, features an explicit peek into her sex-positive world filled with lovers, sex toys and BDSM.

Right away she found a great deal of support and criticism, both online and in real life -- commenters on our story called her everything from a hero to a whore. Some parents of her child's classmates shunned her. ...

"Tied up in knots"

on Monday, 06 December 2010. Hits 330

Xtra West

What to make of the Human Rights Tribunal's dismissal of a BDSM lifestyler's complaint that the police denied him a chauffeur's permit because of his sexual...

"Jury hears testimony about lifestyle that involves bondage and infliction of pain during sex"

on Friday, 05 November 2010. Hits 313

NewsOK

“Jury hears testimony about lifestyle that involves bondage and infliction of pain during sex”

In an unusual domestic abuse trial, an Oklahoma County jury Wednesday learned about a secretive lifestyle based on bondage and the infliction of pain during sex.

The jury heard about the so-called BDSM lifestyle from a Utah woman who signed an agreement with an Oklahoma City man that he would be the master and she would be his slave.

“I like sex rough. I like to be tied up. I like to be spanked,” the witness, Nanette Larsen, testified. “People in the lifestyle call people not in the lifestyle ‘vanilla.’”

Read more: http://newsok.com/beating-case-reveals-fetish/article/3511030#ixzz14NfRQ754

“Read more…”

"Leather, BDSM ‘lifestyle’ provides security, stability"

on Monday, 01 November 2010. Hits 386

QNotes

Leather, BDSM ‘lifestyle’ provides security, stability
QNotes

When most folks think leather or BDSM — that is, bondage, domination, sadism, masochism — chills might run up their spine. Or, perhaps, feelings of disgust flash through their mind.

It’s that initial, gut reaction that most upsets Pam Payne. She lives in and around Hickory and operates a mentoring program and four-bedroom “halfway house,” so to speak, for people in the leather and BDSM “lifestyles” who find themselves in flux or in need of some extra help. She is a part of the BDSM lifestyle herself and she says her way of living is about much more than images of sexual power, pain and perversion most people ascribe to it.

“It’s not purely a sexual identity,” Payne says in rebuttal to arguments about her life and family. “I’d say its a balance of 50-50 — people who just want to belong on a level that doesn’t exist in the vanilla world.”

“Vanilla” is how Payne describes mainstream society, whether gay or straight.

She says most people in the BDSM lifestyle simply long for acceptance and relationships that matter. “I want to be able to do this for you, give this to you, serve you in this way and, in return, I want you to take care of me in this particular way,” she says, describing a typical relationship which she says is built over periods of months — sometimes years — and depends on negotiation and contract.

"Report: Swingers club called Shangri-Lust busted in Fort Myers"

on Thursday, 28 October 2010. Hits 422

Report: Swingers club called Shangri-Lust busted in Fort Myers
Orlando Sentinel


Authorities this week busted a swingers club called Shangri-Lust in a Fort Myers subdivison that offered an orgy room, stripper pole and a bartender who mixed and served drinks, news-press.com said.

The club, which operated out of a single-family home in the Whiskey Creek development in the 1500 block of Beechwood Trail, prompted complaints from neighbors.

The Florida Division of Alcoholic Beverages and Tobacco accused homeowners Lawrence Angstadt, 58, and Charlotte Nottage, 50, of operating an illegal club because they didn't have an alcohol license. 

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