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"NSFW: The St. Louis mom behind sex blog the Beautiful Kind is outing herself"

on Wednesday, 20 October 2010. Hits 1854

NSFW: The St. Louis mom behind sex blog the Beautiful Kind is outing herself

Riverfront Times
Kendra Holliday is a total slut. Go right ahead and say it — she does. She's not hiding from it anymore.

In some ways, she's always been honest about it. She's unflinchingly blogged every detail of her sex life for years — she's a bisexual, polyamorous, joyously partnered divorced mother, living and writing and fucking (and yeah, it's a lot of fucking) in St. Louis. Her blog, www.thebeautifulkind.com, details all of it. It has made her into a celebrity of sorts. It has cost her a job. She's called it her second partner.

But she's been hiding in plain sight, going to great pains to conceal her name, face and identity on the blog — even as she exhorts her readers to "be open and honest."
The blog has become a safe space for sex-positive readers in St. Louis and all over the world to come together. It's created a virtual community, and Holliday and some of her kinky friends want to take that momentum and push the Midwest forward into greater sexual freedom and openness.

And it's hard to do that when you're hiding. So Holliday is coming out. ...
The situation is definitely complicated. Susan Wright of the Baltimore-based National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, a nonprofit that helps protect the rights of people with alternative sexual interests, applauds Holliday's decision to out herself.

"When people knew people who were gay and were able to think of them as their friends and family, they could think of them outside the stereotype," she says. "We need to get the help of the bulk of Americans who really don't care about other peoples' sex lives, so we can fight against the people who want to legislate morality."
But Wright, along with others, can see the point in staying hidden.

"I would use as a caveat: If you are a parent of a child under eighteen, don't come out," Wright says. "You could have a great relationship with your ex — once you go public, they could get blowback from people in their lives and try to get custody. I would discourage it, but I admire it and support her wholeheartedly." 

"Paladino campaign hosted naked leathermen picture"

on Tuesday, 12 October 2010. Hits 1634

"Paladino campaign hosted naked leathermen picture"

Politerati

The Paladino for the People campaign of New York real estate developer Carl Paladino, who earlier on Monday called gay pride parades “disgusting” during an appearance on NBC’s “Today,” briefly hosted a picture of three nude leathermen on its blog as part of what the campaign manager is calling a computer hack.

Bloggers with regional cable network YNN’s Capital Tonight political roundtable took a screengrab of the blog, which is no longer loading, adding a black censor bar over the men’s behinds.

“It certainly wasn’t us doing it,” campaign spokesman Robin Wolfgang told Politerati. “We certainly had no intention of posting nude pictures on our web site.” The campaign manager for Paladino, Michael Caputo, told Capital Tonight the blog was hacked.

“Regardless of which side of the gay marriage debate one happens to embrace, I think a seperate debate can he held on the issue of whether or not children should necessarily be encouraged to attend gay parades?” the blog asked in the item with the photo before it went offline. “Are gay parade’s wild displays helping or hurting the struggle to win wider public acceptance?” 

http://www.whorunsgov.com/politerati/whos-news/paladino-campaign-hosted-naked-leathermen-picture/




"The Alt-Sex Anti-Abuse Dream Team"

on Thursday, 30 September 2010. Hits 338

“The Alt-Sex Anti-Abuse Dream Team”
Feministe (blog)

I've written before about generally negative conceptions of BDSM — they can briefly be summarized as: 1) People of all genders who are abused are often ...

“Judge denies bond to abuse suspect”
Columbia Daily Tribune

Cook's attorney, Carter Law, said during the hearing that many people might consider the bondage, domination, sadism and masochism lifestyle — known as ...

“What's in your closet?”
Wire

With Kinky Con III on its way to Portsmouth, local kinksters discuss the region's growing BDSM community. Courtney Jane looks inconspicuous enough as she ...

“Professionalism in a BDSM shoot”
Examiner.com

Since after care is such a big part of BDSM, the Talent Department always checks in with the model after their shoot, either privately in person or with a ...

"Judge denies jail release for man accused of sex-trafficking"

on Tuesday, 28 September 2010. Hits 283

"Judge denies jail release for man accused of sex-trafficking"


Kansas City Star

He met Henry about 10 years ago on an Internet site that caters to the bondage and sadomasochism lifestyle, according to court records.

But when asked whether the woman could refuse to participate in such encounters, Henry was not certain, Benson said. “It was his opinion that she was afraid to say no,” Benson testified.

"Swingers Party At The Fire Company?"

on Sunday, 26 September 2010. Hits 1372

"Swingers Party At The Fire Company?"


WKBW-TV

This isn't exactly an area for a swingers party," said Randy Smith, a local resident. An anonymous source alerted Eyewitness News to the planned swinger's ...

"Sergeant Swinger Charged In HIV Case"

on Thursday, 23 September 2010. Hits 938

"Sergeant Swinger Charged In HIV Case"
The Smoking Gun

An HIV-positive Air Force sergeant had sex with at least 11 individuals without informing them of his medical condition or using condoms, according to charges filed late yesterday against the noncommissioned officer. 

As first reported by TSG, Sergeant David Gutierrez, 43, met a “multitude” of sex partners at “swinger” parties and through adult web sites. 

"In Professor-Dominatrix Scandal, U. of New Mexico Feels the Pain"

on Monday, 20 September 2010. Hits 1498

"In Professor-Dominatrix Scandal, U. of New Mexico Feels the Pain"

Chronicle of Higher Education

In some ways, working as a phone-sex dominatrix is a lot simpler than being on a college faculty. Your relationship with others is clearly defined, no one formally complains about anything you say to them, and you stand little risk of getting caught up in messy struggles over power.

It gets complicated, however, if you try to do both jobs. Life has become extremely complex in the University of New Mexico's English department in the three years since Lisa D. ChÃvez, a tenured associate professor, was discovered moonlighting as the phone-sex dominatrix "Mistress Jade," and posing in promotional pictures sexually dominating one of her own graduate students.

"Trial date set for Firelands football coach"

on Thursday, 16 September 2010. Hits 1081

"Trial date set for Firelands football coach"

The Morning Journal

Stark said Ohio law defines what constitutes as sexual acts, and sadomasochism does not fall under that definition. Pooch was arrested as part of an ...


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