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NCSF Consent Summit

on Wednesday, 24 February 2016. Hits 4073

The NCSF Consent Summit is an all-day event of workshops and discussions on consent in Seattle. Attitudes are changing about consent, and it’s time to join in the conversation!

10am – 6pm on April 23rd @ the Center for Sex-Positive Culture, 1602 15th Ave W, Seattle, WA

Register here: https://www.strangertickets.com/events/31789308/ncsf-consent-summit

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Sponsored by the Seattle Erotic Arts Festival and the Foundation and Center for Sex-Positive Culture

tristan taorminoTristan Taormino will give the Keynote at the Luncheon from noon to 1 pm. Tristan Taormino is an award-winning writer, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. She is the editor of 25 anthologies and author of eight books, including The Ultimate Guide to Kink and The Feminist Porn Book: The Politics of Producing Pleasure. As the head of Smart Ass Productions, she has directed and produced twenty-four sex educational and erotic films. She is the host of Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show on the VoiceAmerica Network.

Along with Tristan, other experts including Judge Rudy Serra, consent activist Kitty Stryker, Riddhi Mukhopadhyay, Brett Houghton, Sar Surmick, Jim Duvall, Judy Guerin, Kevin Carlson, Susan Wright and more will headline the Panel Discussions and Workshops:

* Consent & the Law
* Consent Activism: Past, Present and Future
* Affirmative Consent and College Campuses
* Negotiation & Consent
* Consent in Power Exchange Relationships
* Train the Trainers: How to educate about consent

Tickets:

$50 - All day event with luncheon ticket for Keynote
$40 - All day event without luncheon
$35 - All day reduced price and students
$30 - Luncheon and Keynote ticket
$75 – All day event with luncheon ticket and pay it forward*

*Pay it forward allows those who are economically advantaged to assist people who aren't. It's a reminder to all of us that money can create barriers between us. If you need a scholarship to attend, please contact NCSF to find out more - This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

All tickets include Seattle Erotic Arts Festival admission on Sunday and 15% off the Weekend Pass for the Seattle Erotic Arts Festival.

Register here

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BDSM and Intimate Partner Violence Training

on Monday, 22 February 2016. Hits 1475

As with every type of relationship, intimate partner violence (IPV) can occur in relationships that include consensual BDSM. Now NCSF can educate your local victim service providers about the difference between kink and abuse.

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is offering a free, half-day training on how to work effectively with these clients. After completing this interactive workshop, participants will leave with the cultural competency to serve clients who incorporate BDSM into their intimate relationships.

Topics will include:

BDSM-affirming language to use during intake

Research about BDSM participants and why they may be reluctant to reach out to service providers

Composite case studies of situations handled by the NCSF and trained IPV service providers.

On-site training is available for locations in, or within an hour from, the metropolitan Washington, D.C area. Otherwise, training will take place over an online platform like Google Hangouts or Skype. (If on-site training is desired outside the Washington, D.C. metropolitan area, requesting agency will be responsible for travel and lodging costs.)

Facilitator Information:

Ashley Haymond brings experience in training development and group facilitation to her work. She has extensive knowledge of the BDSM community and an understanding of the latest research in violence prevention. Ashley is working towards her PhD at the Widener University Center for Human Sexuality Studies.

Sponsoring Organization:

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is committed to creating a political, legal, and social environment in the United States that advances the equal rights of consenting adults who practice forms of alternative sexual and relationship expression. NCSF advances the rights and advocates for consenting adults in the BDSM-Leather-Fetish, swing, and polyamory communities. We pursue our vision through direct services, education, advocacy, and outreach in conjunction with our partner organizations to directly benefit these communities. www.ncsfreedom.org

Pease contact: Susan Wright – 917.848.6544 or email This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

IPV Schedule

 

Plan for Consent Month in September!

on Wednesday, 10 February 2016. Hits 562

National Consent Month is proudly brought to you by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom and the Arizona Power Exchange. Please join us for Consent Month in September 2016 and we will list your event and help publicize it.

Consent Month

Let us know the date for your event and we'll put it on our calendar on ConsentMonth.com and publicize it on the NCSF website and Facebook page.

We can send you Got Consent! bracelets for your event along with materials on consent.

Take a photo and win our Consent Month Photo Contest. Check out the winning photo on ConsentMonth.com

Join us in celebrating Consent Month!

Taking a positive approach to consent.

Creating Change 2016 Sexual Freedom Reception

on Monday, 04 January 2016. Hits 990

Leslie Anderson Gallery Opening

Bootblack and artist Leslie Anderson opens NAKED LEATHER exhibit during the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom and Leather Archives & Museum Sexual Freedom Reception.  1/22/16 8p at LA&M.  Free shuttle to and from Creating Change host hotel.

http://www.leatherarchives.org/events.html

 

 

Save the Date for the NCSF Coalition Partner Meeting!

on Thursday, 10 December 2015. Hits 1085

NCSF’s Annual Coalition Partner Meeting will take place March 4-6, 2016, in San Jose, CA.

 

“The annual meeting gives NCSF's Coalition Partners the opportunity to tell the board where our focus should be in the coming year,” says Chairman Kevin Carlson. “It’s also their time to give us feedback on how we’re conducting the day-to-day business of NCSF. The Board and staff are looking forward to gathering in Silicon Valley with our Coalition Partners to continue the good work of NCSF.”

 

Friday, March 4th – Coalition Partner representatives Meet & Greet – 7-9 pm

Saturday, March 5th – Annual Coalition Partner’s Meeting – 9-5pm

Sunday, March 6th – Annual Coalition Partner’s Meeting – 9-noon

Sunday, March 6th – BDSM & the Law: American Law Institute Project – 1-3pm

 

Location:

 

Fairfield Inn & Suites San Jose Airport

1755 North First Street San Jose, CA 95112

 

You may make reservations by calling the reservation line at 1-800-228-2800 or make online reservations: Book your group rate for NCSF

 

$104 - $124 on March 4-5

$220 for additional nights on March 3 or March 6 (15% off of the published rate)

 

 

NCSF staff, Board members and Coalition Partner reps are also invited to San Francisco’s Leather Alliance Weekend events taking place throughout the weekend. Saturday evening is the Mr. SF Leather Contest – let us know if you’re interested in attending. San Francisco is about an hour away from San Jose. http://leatherallianceweekend.org/

 

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Results of Mental & Emotional Health Study

on Tuesday, 01 December 2015. Hits 1146

University of Alabama and University of Central Florida researchers surveyed over 800 kinky people recruited by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) and found they were mentally and emotionally healthy.

“I was curious about the stereotypes from a mental health standpoint and we found that these kinky people are well functioning, with little mental health concerns,” says Tess M. Gemberling, M.A., Co-Principal Investigator, University of Alabama. “They also have healthy romantic relationships.”

The study, Psychological Functioning and Violence Victimization and Perpetration in BDSM Practitioners from the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom,” also investigated people’s preferences for BDSM activities and fantasies, and explored whether violence is perpetuated against kinky people. It joins a growing body of research that refutes the stereotype that people who are kinky are inherently dangerous to themselves and others, which is at the root of the discrimination and persecution that kinky people experience.

“I wanted to explore more about how the stereotypes interface with reality,” says Matt R. Nobles, Ph.D., Co-Principal Investigator, University of Central Florida. “Although more than half of the people in this study have been victims of violence or aggression, extremely few had perpetrated such themselves.”

In the study, 7.7% of participants reported they had been victims of a BDSM-based hate crime, while 10.2% of participants reported they had been victims of an LGBT-based hate crime.

“Parallel to my work with sexual minorities, my interest is in looking at the nature of identity and mental health in a vulnerable group of people,” says Robert J. Cramer, Ph.D., Co-Principal Investigator, University of Alabama. “Contrary to popular perceptions, our study shows kinky persons are largely mentally healthy when it comes to conditions such as depression, anxiety and suicide.”

The study also confirms that for these kinksters it’s primarily about consensual power exchange, with 98% preferring to take a specific power exchange role during BDSM. The most commonly reported practices were spanking, slapping and biting, and the use of sexual toys and equipment.

“Lawmakers can help by legally recognizing informed consent as the basis of healthy BDSM behavior,” says Susan Wright, spokesperson for NCSF. “BDSM is intended to be a mutually beneficial experience that is done by consenting adults.”

Join NCSF!

on Monday, 28 September 2015. Hits 1073

In honor of Consent Month in September, please join our coalition and support our work!

NCSF’s American Law Institute Petition is fighting to make consent a defense to BDSM and to give anonymity for victims of assault in a BDSM context.

NCSF’s Consent Violation Survey presents important information on consent violations – who, what, where, when, why and how they happen.

Plus NCSF provides resources and referrals to kink aware professionals on request on a daily basis through our Incident Reporting & Response program.

We are fighting for your rights! Why don’t you join us now?

Consent Violations: Find out the results of NCSF’s latest survey!

on Thursday, 17 September 2015. Hits 1813

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom launched the Consent Violations Survey in 2014 to gather details about consent violations in a BDSM context. We asked about: the severity of the violations, who is being violated, where they were violated, the relationship and intent of those involved, the power dynamic at the time of the violation, as well as information about false accusations and from people who have committed consent violations. This survey was intended to expand on the info gathered through the first NCSF Consent Counts Survey in 2012 that gauged attitudes about consent in a power exchange context.

 

Go to the NCSF website to read the entire survey results.

 

Fast Facts:

 

A total of 1,307 people (29% of 4,503 respondents) reported that their pre-negotiated limits and/or their safeword have been violated. Among those who reported why they thought it had happened, approximately 1 in 3 involved manipulation or coercion (345 people/8% of 4,503 respondents), and another 1 in 4 said they were attacked by a predator (245 people/5% of 4,503 respondents). Nearly 1 in 3 said the consent violation was caused by an accident, miscommunication, or a lack of skills or knowledge (310 people/7% of the respondents). 71 people said it was part of their dynamic and they were ultimately okay with it (1.5% of the respondents), while 27 people said it was a result of alcohol.

 

The majority, 70% of the people who said their consent was violated (775/1098), reported their first violation occurred before or within the first three years of their participation in the BDSM community. In all, one-fourth of the people whose pre-negotiated limits were violated said it happened before they started to participate on BDSM websites or attended a BDSM meeting, club, munch, party or event.

 

As for what happened, the largest percentage of participants said that they were nonconsensually penetrated in the vagina by a penis, finger or dildo (29%). One-fourth said they were touched nonconsensually in a way that violated their pre-negotiated limits, while one in five said they were touched on the genitals or breasts, penetrated in the ass by a penis/finger or dildo, punched or humiliated.

 

Twenty-nine people (2.7% of the 1,041 people who answered the question) say that they reported the consent violation to the police. 96 people experienced an injury that required medical attention (2% of the total survey respondents and 7% of the number of people who reported a safeword or limit violation). One-half of one percent (0.5%) of the survey respondents (23 people) reported receiving a serious physical injury that was life-threatening or serious enough to cause dysfunction in an organ or limb.

 

In addition, nearly 36% of the respondents reported being touched without permission at a BDSM meeting, club, munch, party or event.

 

Out of 4,578 respondents, only 7 people reported they had been falsely accused and reported to the police (0.1% of the sample). Just over 3% of the respondents (140) say they have been falsely accused within the BDSM community of touching someone without permission at an event or party. Just over 3% (137 people) reported they’ve been falsely accused of violating someone’s pre-negotiated limits in a BDSM scene.

 

For the complete analysis, go to: https://ncsfreedom.org/images/stories/2015_Survey_PDFs_ETC/Consent%20Violations%20Survey%20analysis.pdf

 

The survey questions were created by Susan Wright, M.A., Co-Principal Investigator, National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, and Russell J. Stambaugh, Ph.D., Co-Principal Investigator. Derrell Cox, M.A., Department of Anthropology, Center for Applied Social Research at University of Oklahoma, assisted in the analysis and is the statistician. This project has been reviewed and endorsed by a community advisory board of the Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities (CARAS), a community-based research support organization which includes members of alternative sexualities communities.

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