NCSF on Twitter   Subscribe to the NCSF RSS Feed   NCSF Blog

NCSF News

Town Hall Meeting Live on TSRnetwork.com BDSM TV

on Saturday, 29 March 2014. Hits 383

Town Hall Meeting Live on TSRnetwork.com BDSM TV
“ We are changing the world one vanilla at a time we are the real 50 shades of grey”
Live on March 30 at 2 PM PST broadcasting the first Live Town Hall Meeting that will broadcast all over the world.

Our Panel for the First Town Hall Meeting Live broadcast will be.
Jay Wiseman (Author BDSM 101 San Francisco, CA)
Sire Kane ( Founder and owner The Lair de Sade, North Hollywood, CA.
Mystryss Lily (Educator and community leader and owner of The Kinkdom. Detroit Michigan)
Galen Fous (Educator and Therapist and creator of the PEM Survey Portland, Oregon)
Lew Rubens (Educator and creator of Lewbari Weekend Olympia, Washington)
Mistress Cyan (Educator and owner of The Sanctuary LAX Los Angleles. CA
Goddess Genesis (Educator and owner of The Sanctuary LAX Los Angleles. CA
Submissann (Educator and community Leader) Los Angeles, CA.
Susan Wright (Author and is with the NCSF Phoenix, Arizona
MingDestiny (Community leader creator of Pocket Kink, Maui County, Hawaii
We will be airing Live on TSRnetwork.com, TSR Studio Group here on Fetlife, Youtube.com and Google +.
We welcome questions that you wish us to talk about from both guests on the shows and viewers. We will have the chat room open to all that wish to ask a question live on the show.
Please send this out to your friends and promote this event and send in your topic that you wish us to address. Plus use the hashtag #TSRnetwork.com to promote the event.
Link to Pop-Out Chat Room. http://tinyurl.com/TSR-ChatRoom
Where to watch the show?
We are the Real 50 Shades of Grey....
Shows Produced by M.A.P. Productions and TSRnetwork Studio

NCSF Files Amicus Brief in Support of Consensual Nonmonogamy

on Wednesday, 26 March 2014. Hits 432

Washington D.C. – NCSF has filed an amicus brief in a military case involving a marine who engaged in a consensual threesome and because of that was convicted of adultery, attempted consensual sodomy and indecent conduct, a "crime" based solely on undefined sexual conduct inconsistent with "common propriety."

 

In its brief, NCSF points out that military law is out of sync with U.S. Constitutional law and societal mores, especially when it comes to consensual sexual behaviors. Dick Cunningham, NCSF's Legal Counsel who prepared and filed the brief, said, "This is an important case in which we have challenged ways in which courts have criminalized consensual sexual conduct in what we regard as direct violation of the U.S. Supreme Court's landmark sexual freedom decision in Lawrence v. Texas."

 

Lawrence held that non-injurious consensual sex among adults cannot be criminally prosecuted, and that moral disapproval is not a sufficient justification for a criminal law.  In this case, the military court used a spurious "public sex" argument to evade the Lawrence ruling.

 

Filing legal briefs is an important part of NCSF’s mission in its attempts to decriminalize consensual adult sexual behavior.  NCSF awaits the decision of the military court on whether its amicus brief will be accepted.  To view NCSF's brief and case legal documents on this case, visit https://ncsfreedom.org/who-we-are/about-ncsf/item/715.html

 

NCSF’s Coalition Partners Come Together in Nashville, TN

on Monday, 24 March 2014. Hits 443

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom held its annual Coalition Partner meeting in Nashville, TN from March 14-16, 2014. The Coalition Partners voted in the new Board of Directors for NCSF, approved the 2014 budget, and brainstormed on NCSF’s projects and goals for the coming year.

 

“The annual meeting gives NCSF's Coalition Partners the opportunity to tell the board where our focus should be in the coming year,” says Chairman Kevin Carlson. “It’s also their time to give us feedback on how we’re conducting the day-to-day business of NCSF. The Board and staff of NCSF are now re-energized and eager to continue the good work of NCSF.”

 

The CP representatives approved the new Financial and Control Policies which have an emphasis on transparency and accountability. The CP reps created an Ombuds Committee which will be responsible for reviewing actions by NCSF board and staff members. The CPs also received a full report on the forensic financial review and the results of the investigation into the theft of funds from the NCSF, and determined the next steps the Board should take in pursuing the restitution of those funds.

 

The CPs were eager to explore new ways of integrating NCSF programs with membership services and outreach efforts. They heard reports on the NCSF projects and programs including:

 

· The success of the DSM Revision Project in helping to ensure that kinky people are no longer misidentified as mentally ill by the American Psychiatric Association;

· Kink Aware Professionals list gained 200 professionals in the past year and totals nearly 1,400 professionals;

· The Media Outreach Project gave over 42 interviews on consensual kink and nonmonogamy;

· The Education Outreach Project and Consent Counts Project gave 28 presentations;

· NCSF’s Facebook page hit 1,000 Likes.

 

Keira Harris received NCSF’s Volunteer of the Year Award for her work as Volunteer Director. Keira has created a volunteer program that is successful in filling the needs of NCSF’s projects and programs. Because NCSF is an all volunteer organization, Keira’s work is critical to its success.

 

NCSF thanks CPI-The Mark for hosting CP representatives, NCSF board members and staff at their party on Saturday night, and at the Sunday afternoon presentation on BDSM & the Law presented by Judy Guerin, Dick Cunningham and Susan Wright. NCSF also thanks Mercury and Samantha for organizing the annual meeting and welcoming everyone to Nashville.

 

The new NCSF Board of Directors consists of:

 

Kevin Carlson – Chairman – Boise, ID

Mark Richards – Secretary – New York, NY

Stephanie "Sassy" Lynn – NCSF Treasurer – Minneapolis/St. Paul, MN

Jim Fleckenstein – NCSF Foundation Treasurer – Manassas, VA

Devin MacLachlan – Fundraising Director – Ft. Lauderdale, FL

Laura Carlson – Education Outreach Director – Boise, ID

Keira Harris - Volunteer Director – New Orleans, LA

Mercury – Membership Director – Nashville, TN

Julian Wolf – Newsletter Director – Albuquerque, NM

Susan Wright – Media and Incident Reporting & Response Director – Phoenix, AZ

Fil Vocasek – New York, NY

Jsin – St. Louis, MO

 

NCSF is here to help you, so please help us! Support NCSF by becoming a member, volunteering or donating today! www.ncsfreedom.org

 

DC Professional Dominatrixes Rocks On for NCSF!

on Friday, 21 March 2014. Hits 565

Now on it's fourth year, the annual Dinner with Dommes exclusive event organized by the DC Professional Dominatrixes have proven to be a beneficial fundraising event for NCSF .

 

This event brings together top DC and NYC Dominatrixes who donate their time and effort to raise funds for NCSF.  Every year, Mark of DCDominatrixes ( This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it ) sets up and manages an online auction for seats at the table at this very private  and exclusive dinner/play event held in one of the premier dungeons on the East Coast in Washington DC.

 

This year, eight lucky submissives were given the chance to be in the presence of eight beautiful and provocative top Professional Dominatrixes in the DC Metro area.  The sumptuous dinner was prepared by a very creative chef and her energetic kitchen staff courtesy of Mistress Max Rulz.  This event raised a total of $4,200.

 

At the 2014 Dark Odyssey Winter Fire event, the local DC Professional Dominatrixes together with DCDominatrixes and DC Sub Club once again hosted a VIP fundraising reception.  It was a night filled with excitement, laughter and hobnobbing with the creme de la creme of the BDSM community, professional Dominatrixes, fetish models and other kink-friendly people.  Fun was had by all and this event yielded $2,000 for NCSF.

Guest Blog: Polyamory As Orientation?

on Saturday, 08 March 2014. Hits 728

By Race Bannon

In a recent article in Modern Poly written by Saul-of-Hearts, a writer, musician and videographer based in Los Angeles and Portland, the idea that polyamory is an orientation, at least for the writer, was put forth. I posted the article titled “Polyamory As Orientation (And Why It Works For Me)” on Facebook and asked my online friends this question: “So what do you think? Is it similar to an orientation or not?”

The range of answers I got was interesting as discussions regarding polyamory often are, especially with my online friends who range from actively polyamorous to staunchly monogamous and everything in between. But one comment stood out and resonated with me the moment I read it. A friend offered this:

The writer assumes that all humans are not naturally capable of a romantic relationship with more than one individual. I don’t like the term poly. Most research into modern hunter/gatherer societies has shown that monogamy is a modern phenomenon and socially constructed for the purposes of property management and inheritance.

Monogamy isn’t an orientation, it’s conditioning.

Poly isn’t an orientation. It is our natural state.

This rings true for me. I also think being poly is our natural state and that monogamy has been imposed upon us by social conditioning. If you read heralded books like Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships, they offer the same conclusion. Of course, this position is controversial for many.

But for those of us who identify as poly and who live a poly life now, or have aspirations to do so, I think adopting the mindset that being poly is a natural state while monogamy is not would serve us well. However, the only caution I would offer is that this stance should not denigrate the decision that some will make to configure their relationships in a monogamous fashion. Just because we might put forth the notion that poly is a natural state does not mean that someone’s choice to be monogamous is wrong or counter to nature, especially if that decision is truly made for reasons that work for the individuals involved and are not the result of social conditioning that makes those people miserable as they try to conform. Poly folks must always value the monogamous among us even as we live our lives in a different fashion. Diversity is the norm and therefore that means that people will decide to configure their relationships in diverse ways also. It’s all good.

With all that said, I guess the most accurate statement I can make is that poly is natural for many people. I contend it’s natural for most people, but the real point I want to make is that it’s most certainly just as natural as monogamy is and perhaps, if social conditioning weren’t a factor, might indeed by the more prevalent form of how we do relationships.

So while I don’t think of myself being polyamorous as an orientation, I do embrace the notion that my poly life is indeed a natural state. It’s certainly more natural for me than monogamy, both in terms of my sexuality and how I bond with others.

Let me know your thoughts about this by posting a comment.

Guest Blog: Gaining Certification as Supervisor of Sex Therapy

on Wednesday, 19 February 2014. Hits 341

By Dr. Neil Cannon


To obtain licensure as a mental health professional, virtually all clinicians go through a process referred to as “supervision.” Having a supervisor is best described as a formal mentoring process requiring hundreds of hours of observation, training and coaching. One problem faced by the kink community is a shortage of therapists that have clinical awareness in basic sexuality, let alone advanced expertise in fetishes, cross-dressing, gender-variance, BDSM and open relationships. For clinicians seeking certification as a sex therapist, finding a supervisor is no easy trick.

One reason NCSF has made such a large commitment to Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) over the years is to facilitate the process for those in the kinky village to locate qualified professionals quickly during a time of need. That’s why I’m a long-time member of KAP, so I can help make a difference.

And that’s one reason why, a few months ago, I became Certified as a Supervisor of Sex Therapy by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists (AASECT). Now, along with being a Certified Sex Therapist, I can supervisor other mental health professionals seeking certification as a sex therapist anywhere in the world via Skype.

Most therapists are kind people with the best of intentions. However similar to physicians, most therapists lack training in the vast nuances of human sexuality. Nothing breaks my heart more than when people tell me they were made to feel bad by their very own therapist who judged them or lacked skill in the way they dealt with the delicate subtleties of sexuality. By supervising the next generation of sex therapists, I really do get to bring sex positive methods of therapy to individuals, couples, families, and villages across the globe.

I first became involved with the NCSF in 2001 when the NCSF filed suit along-side famed fetish photographer, Barbara Nitke, in a case involving censorship and the Supreme Court. I recall feeling deep admiration and respect that a gifted lone artist (Barbara Nitke) and a small but incredibly determined non-profit (NCSF), who stood fast in their values to take on the Attorney General of the United States. It was a stand to keep government out of our bedrooms and although we didn’t win the case, Barbara and the NCSF made a difference. I’ve had a special fondness and affinity for the NCSF ever since.

###

Neil is in private practice as a Certified Sex Therapist in Denver, Colorado.  He is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Professor of Marriage & Family Therapy.  In addition to a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality, Neil has post-graduate certification in treating LGBT Family Systems.  Neil teaches and donates his time lecturing to graduate level counseling students at virtually every leading college and university throughout Colorado.  He takes great delight in helping graduate students to embrace sexual diversity rather than be intimidated by it. http://doctorcannon.com/

 

NCSF at Winter Wickedness!

on Saturday, 15 February 2014. Hits 389

The entire hotel was given over to a weekend Kinkstravaganza for the happy attendees to celebrate the 8th anniversary of Winter Wickedness (Feb 7-9th) in Columbus, Ohio. Susan Wright represented NCSF at the event, discussing NCSF’s recent financial trouble and the steps being taken to insure that NCSF's finances are transparent and sound.

 

NCSF thanks Adventures in Sexuality (AIS) for donating $1,000 to the NCSF-Foundation, and the attendees of Winter Wickedness for raising $286 in the Special Raffle for NCSF. In addition, attendees gave donations totaling $70 at the exhibit table where NCSF literature was available along with Got Consent? T-shirts and swag from the Sexual Assault Response Network of Central Ohio (hotline: (614) 267-7020(614) 267-7020 https://www.ohiohealth.com/sexualassaultresponsenetwork/)

 

Check out AIS’s next conference: COPE 2014 on September 12-14: http://adventuresinsexuality.org/AIS_portal.html Adventures in Sexuality is a Coalition Partner of NCSF.

THANK YOU to the 1,800 people who took NCSF’s Consent Violation Survey in the first week!

on Wednesday, 29 January 2014. Hits 624

Join in and take the survey now: https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/ConsentViolationsSurvey

 

Only takes 5-20 minutes to complete!

 

NCSF will use these results to help perform its advocacy, such as helping law enforcement, prosecutors and health care professionals understand the experiences of kinky people and provide better quality service.

 

This survey is anonymous and your privacy is guaranteed by Survey Monkey, a secured survey hosting website. NCSF does not have access to any identifying information about the participants.

Latest Reader Comments

  • Fetlife works very hard to keep members safe. They also work to protect everyone's freedoms. Criminal accusations should be made to local...

    Daisie

    23. March, 2015 |

  • Simple and brilliant. I will be using this in all of my Human Sexuality classes.

    Callista Lee

    11. March, 2015 |

  • i see why fetlife does this. all you need is someone who has been broken up with; they are angry and has a "ill fix them" attitude....

    pet

    11. March, 2015 |

  • people need to get their facts strait before they start lying to the world, reporters are idiots, how do they know fetlife has over 3.5...

    daisy

    11. March, 2015 |

  • Along similar lines, we setup a 12-step fellowship called Recovery in the Lifestyle. We hold meetings across the country, phone meetings,...

    Aarkey

    10. March, 2015 |

  • I've been trying to compose a comment now on all the mistakes that Ms. Caltabiano has made in the article on the early history of the...

    Rick Umbaugh

    06. March, 2015 |