It only takes 5 minutes to complete. We need everyone to respond.
For those of you who started to take the survey but didn’t finish or answer all of the questions, please go back and complete the survey (comments are optional). Just click the link above and it will take you back to where you left off.
Over 1,500 kinky people have taken the survey so far. Here’s where we stand right now on several of the questions:
37% say they’ve been in the community from 1-5 years
73% say they can’t speak comfortably to their co-workers or family about their BDSM practices
15% say they’ve had a safeword or safesign ignored by a partner during play
63% say they’ve participated in a group discussion on consent
86% say the BDSM community needs more education about consent
The results of the Consent Counts Survey and a draft statement on consent will be presented to the Coalition Partners at the NCSF Annual Meeting in Phoenix, AZ, February 8-10, 2013.It will then go to mass distribution on YouTube.
To participate in discussions of consent online with kinky people both in the US and around the world, join our Consent Counts group at https://fetlife.com/groups/46202NCSF is committed to supporting and encouraging people to discuss ethical consent so we can move to a more thorough understanding of what consent is, and to provide better education for people who are interested in exploring their sexuality.
Announcing the NCSF Master/slave Advisory Committee
The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) is announcing the formation of the NCSF Master/slave Advisory Committee. As part of NCSF's ongoing efforts to remain sensitive to, and informed about, the specific needs of the various factions of the BDSM and kink communities, this committee has been formed.
The committee is tasked with providing NCSF with insight and information about the Master/slave community so that NCSF can best serve that community. This allows NCSF to better carry out its mission to fight for sexual freedom and privacy rights for all adults who engage in safe, sane and consensual behavior.
The members of the Committee are all notable and respected people within the Master/slave community and include Master Jerome Bambrick, Race Bannon, Master Bob Blount, Tina Dunham, Lady Hilary, MsSuzan and Justin Tanis.
NCSF looks forward to listening to, and engaging in discussions with, these fine people in order to best serve the needs of the people who consider Master/slave dynamics and identity part of their core erotic makeup.
The recent media coverage outing RCMP Corporal Jim Brown’s personal life has contained a number of erroneous assumptions equating BDSM with violence against women. Please write a letter to the editor today to influence future media coverage.
Take a polite tone of education and point out how detrimental to the Canadian BDSM community and kinky people around the world such stereotypical coverage is. Please don’t focus on Cpl Brown or Fetlife.
You don’t have to out yourself as being kinky. Just make a few of the points below and let the media know they need to fairly represent this sexual minority. Go to the NCSF blog at www.ncsfreedom.org to read the coverage.
Points you can make:
Canada has a proud history of tolerance and diversity when it comes to personal lifestyles.
The media should familiarize itself with the large and vibrant BDSM communities that follow a creed of “safe, sane and consensual.”
BDSM is not violence toward women. BDSM is about consenting adults engaging in mutually satisfying role-play and power exchange in private. Both men and women take submissive roles, and anyone can stop what is happening at any time.
Private internet membership websites are for kinky people to get education about safer sex and to interact with their peers – it is not pornography.
BDSM has been recognized as a healthy form of sexual expression by the American Psychiatric Association in their latest revision of the DSM-V, to be published in spring of 2013. Canada is a progressive country and should follow the lead of other progressive countries such as Norway and Sweden which depathologized BDSM.
People shouldn’t be discriminated against by their employers because of their legal, adult sexual activities.
Media outlets that have published articles on this situation:
Let NCSF know you sent a letter at
This kind of stereotypical media coverage harms the BDSM communities, so stand up and be counted!
From July 1st-July 31st, NCSF is having a membership drive!
NCSF is there when you need help, and now NCSF needs you. Join NCSF to keep our important programs alive:
Our Media Outreach program gives media interviews on alt sex, and produces the Media Updates, helps events work with press and media when asked, and responds to negative characterizations about BDSM, swing and poly in the media.
Consent Counts is working to change assault laws and decriminalize BDSM and educate our own communities about consent.
The Educational Outreach Program presents informative presentations around the country on everything from zoning issues for SM groups to child custody and divorce issues.
The Kink Aware Professionals list is free referral list for doctors, mental health professionals, and more.
Incident Reporting and Response program worked with more than 500 people and organizations in 2011 and helps protect events from attacks.
NCSF relies on you! For only $25 per year, you can support the rights of consenting adults.
The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is pleased to announce the addition of a new board member, Mark Frazier. Mark will fill an appointed board seat until the 2013 Coalition Partner meeting.
Mark Frazier is the owner and executive producer of the International LeatherSir/Leatherboy and community bootblack contests. He has been involved in the leather and kink lifestyle for over 25 years. He has taught over 1700 workshops on various topics through the years and is a sought after speaker and presenter. Mark has had the privilege of owning nightclubs, holding leather titles (ranging from local to international), holding numerous board positions and memberships on many prominent local and international organizations.
Mark currently resides in Dallas, Texas, where he co-owns the Dallas Eagle. Said Mark, "I have been a supporter of NCSF since its inception. Becoming part of NCSF and working for the organization has been a goal of mine for a long time. I'm excited to be part of NCSF and I intend to be extremely involved in our growing Consent Counts project."
NCSF is proud to welcome Mark Frazier to our board of directors!
NCSF will be in Detroit this coming Saturday 19 May!
We’ll be hosting a community leadership meeting from 2pm-4pm and an open
community roundtable meeting from 4pm-6pm. The community meetings are
sponsored by NCSF and no RSVP is needed.
The host location is the VFW post at 1125 Fort Street in Lincoln Park, MI.
The VFW hall has a steak dinner available for $10/person from 6pm-730pm.
Deviations will be hosting a party at the same location beginning at 8pm.
Deviations will be doing fundraising for NCSF during the event. You must
contact Deviations to RSVP to the party or the dinner.
We will be sharing information and strategy options for dealing with the media
and related press as the Detroit community struggles with the unwanted
media attention the Bashara incident has brought. As the incident and resulting
media attention isn’t likely to go away and it is likely to generate
cyclical media attention as the case moves forward, it’s important that the
Detroit community and its leaders know what to say to the press and what
not to say, along with talking points and how to reach NCSF’s media line for
We’ll also be discussing security and privacy concerns for both groups and
individuals including how to deal with law enforcement and what to do about
the proverbial 'dangerous insiders.' In addition, we'll cover tips for
protecting your personal privacy and security along with what your rights
may/may not be in dealing with police or the media.
If you’re the leader of a group, please consider attending the leadership
session or send someone representing your group. Please pass this message
around to as many groups, munches and other Detroit area lists as you can and
let people know about the open community meeting along with the party
beginning at 8pm. If you have any questions, please contact Leigha Fleming at
NCSF Board Chair