The recent media coverage outing RCMP Corporal Jim Brown’s personal life has contained a number of erroneous assumptions equating BDSM with violence against women. Please write a letter to the editor today to influence future media coverage.
Take a polite tone of education and point out how detrimental to the Canadian BDSM community and kinky people around the world such stereotypical coverage is. Please don’t focus on Cpl Brown or Fetlife.
You don’t have to out yourself as being kinky. Just make a few of the points below and let the media know they need to fairly represent this sexual minority. Go to the NCSF blog at www.ncsfreedom.org to read the coverage.
Points you can make:
Canada has a proud history of tolerance and diversity when it comes to personal lifestyles.
The media should familiarize itself with the large and vibrant BDSM communities that follow a creed of “safe, sane and consensual.”
BDSM is not violence toward women. BDSM is about consenting adults engaging in mutually satisfying role-play and power exchange in private. Both men and women take submissive roles, and anyone can stop what is happening at any time.
Private internet membership websites are for kinky people to get education about safer sex and to interact with their peers – it is not pornography.
BDSM has been recognized as a healthy form of sexual expression by the American Psychiatric Association in their latest revision of the DSM-V, to be published in spring of 2013. Canada is a progressive country and should follow the lead of other progressive countries such as Norway and Sweden which depathologized BDSM.
People shouldn’t be discriminated against by their employers because of their legal, adult sexual activities.
Media outlets that have published articles on this situation:
Let NCSF know you sent a letter at
This kind of stereotypical media coverage harms the BDSM communities, so stand up and be counted!
From July 1st-July 31st, NCSF is having a membership drive!
NCSF is there when you need help, and now NCSF needs you. Join NCSF to keep our important programs alive:
Our Media Outreach program gives media interviews on alt sex, and produces the Media Updates, helps events work with press and media when asked, and responds to negative characterizations about BDSM, swing and poly in the media.
Consent Counts is working to change assault laws and decriminalize BDSM and educate our own communities about consent.
The Educational Outreach Program presents informative presentations around the country on everything from zoning issues for SM groups to child custody and divorce issues.
The Kink Aware Professionals list is free referral list for doctors, mental health professionals, and more.
Incident Reporting and Response program worked with more than 500 people and organizations in 2011 and helps protect events from attacks.
NCSF relies on you! For only $25 per year, you can support the rights of consenting adults.
The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is pleased to announce the addition of a new board member, Mark Frazier. Mark will fill an appointed board seat until the 2013 Coalition Partner meeting.
Mark Frazier is the owner and executive producer of the International LeatherSir/Leatherboy and community bootblack contests. He has been involved in the leather and kink lifestyle for over 25 years. He has taught over 1700 workshops on various topics through the years and is a sought after speaker and presenter. Mark has had the privilege of owning nightclubs, holding leather titles (ranging from local to international), holding numerous board positions and memberships on many prominent local and international organizations.
Mark currently resides in Dallas, Texas, where he co-owns the Dallas Eagle. Said Mark, "I have been a supporter of NCSF since its inception. Becoming part of NCSF and working for the organization has been a goal of mine for a long time. I'm excited to be part of NCSF and I intend to be extremely involved in our growing Consent Counts project."
NCSF is proud to welcome Mark Frazier to our board of directors!
NCSF will be in Detroit this coming Saturday 19 May!
We’ll be hosting a community leadership meeting from 2pm-4pm and an open
community roundtable meeting from 4pm-6pm. The community meetings are
sponsored by NCSF and no RSVP is needed.
The host location is the VFW post at 1125 Fort Street in Lincoln Park, MI.
The VFW hall has a steak dinner available for $10/person from 6pm-730pm.
Deviations will be hosting a party at the same location beginning at 8pm.
Deviations will be doing fundraising for NCSF during the event. You must
contact Deviations to RSVP to the party or the dinner.
We will be sharing information and strategy options for dealing with the media
and related press as the Detroit community struggles with the unwanted
media attention the Bashara incident has brought. As the incident and resulting
media attention isn’t likely to go away and it is likely to generate
cyclical media attention as the case moves forward, it’s important that the
Detroit community and its leaders know what to say to the press and what
not to say, along with talking points and how to reach NCSF’s media line for
We’ll also be discussing security and privacy concerns for both groups and
individuals including how to deal with law enforcement and what to do about
the proverbial 'dangerous insiders.' In addition, we'll cover tips for
protecting your personal privacy and security along with what your rights
may/may not be in dealing with police or the media.
If you’re the leader of a group, please consider attending the leadership
session or send someone representing your group. Please pass this message
around to as many groups, munches and other Detroit area lists as you can and
let people know about the open community meeting along with the party
beginning at 8pm. If you have any questions, please contact Leigha Fleming at
NCSF Board Chair
I am a student at the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists in Orlando, FL. I am doing my dissertation on the Identification of the Positive Social Influences of the Decriminalization of Prostitution in the U.S. I need your help. I need as many responses as possible to the opinion survey that can be accessed through this link https://www.research.net/s/PQ8W8ZK . The survey is brief and anonymous. Please pass the link to any groups who may be interested in this subject.
Thanks for taking the time to help me with this project.
Sincerely, Steven Davidson
April 13-15, 2012 marked the 25th anniversary of the Atlanta Eagle as well as the third annual Atlanta Leather Pride celebration. Alan Penrod, the Atlanta Leather Pride Coordinator, had the support of the brothers and sisters of Panther Leather Levi Club as a Presenting Sponsor again this year. Together they are very proud to announce that the fundraisers for the weekend resulted in a total of $2,000.00 being donated to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom Foundation. This money will be used by the foundation to support their education and outreach programs throughout the community.
The crowning jewel of the Atlanta Leather Pride weekend was the Mr. and Ms. Atlanta Eagle contest. We are very proud to announce this year’s winners:
Ms. Atlanta Eagle 2012 – Jackie Hubschman
Mr. Atlanta Eagle 2012 – Jeff Donaldson
First Runner Up – Brian Acker
To schedule an interview with our new Titleholders please contact Alan Penrod at
For more information please visit http://www.atlantaleatherpride.com or email:
We want to be sure that a diversity of polyamory practitioners participate in this survey. There isn't much time left, so please go now to take it. It takes about 4 minutes to complete and is really interesting with questions about poly marriage and personal satisfaction.
As Jim Fleckenstein, Board Member of NCSF, says:
Please post this link as widely as possible, as having quality research on our community is an important early step to winning respect and tolerance for our relationship choices.
The direct link to the survey is: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/SYQT7D7
Thank you so much!
Jim Fleckenstein co-researcher co-editor, /What Psychology Professionals Should Know About Polyamory/
Everyone is talking about the run-away success of the novel Fifty Shades of Gray by E. L. James, the first book in a BDSM romance trilogy. On March 1st, 2012, the novel hit #1 on the Amazon ebook bestseller list in the genre, romance and erotica categories.
The book got a big boost from The Today Show, with supervising producer Joanne LaMarca saying, “I downloaded a copy and don’t think I put it down until I finished it, despite what the pilot on my flight to Florida said. I can say, along with many other women I’m sure, that reading this book is very good for your marriage!"
In a segment televised on Today on March 2, 2012, sexologist Dr. Laura Berman touted the appeal of submission: “Now we’ve moved on to a new generation where women are more empowered than ever before, the glass ceiling has been broken, and we have as much control as we want—and what are we longing for? A little bodice-ripping.”
NCSF supports the open discussion taking place about Fifty Shades of Gray, and celebrates the fact that acceptance of kinky sex between consenting adults is taking place. NCSF has worked hard to educate the media and the public about BDSM, and the benefit of having responsible, healthy sex through negotiation, communication, trust and honesty.
The only sour notes were sounded by Today’s Chief Legal Analyst Savannah Guthrie, and Dr. Drew Pinsky, who called the BDSM romance “violence against women”:
“But there is something about this. It’s not just a matter of steamy sex scenes. The context is this bondage, this submission, and frankly stripped bare: violence against women,” said Guthrie.
“It does disturb me actually… the swept-away fantasy is a common fantasy but as you’re saying, Savannah, it’s going beyond that into violence against women,” said Pinksy.
The voice of reason was relationship expert Dr. Logan Levkoff who said, “I’ve read these books. I don’t see these particular books as violence against women.” She added, “The community has very organized rules. It’s consensual. Let’s be clear, this does not depict rape or anything like that.”
NCSF believes that adults who engage in BDSM with other consenting adults, as well as those who just want to fantasize about roleplay and power dynamics, should not be stigmatized. Experts who voice their opinions on television should make the distinction that consensual sex is good and nonconsensual sex is violence. Until that happens, the BDSM community will continue to be discriminated against and persecuted because of the misconception that we are violent people.
NCSF has been the national advocacy resource for BDSM, swing and polyamory communities since 1997. For more information about BDSM, contact Susan Wright at 917-848-6544 or email