NCSF will be in Detroit this coming Saturday 19 May!
We’ll be hosting a community leadership meeting from 2pm-4pm and an open
community roundtable meeting from 4pm-6pm. The community meetings are
sponsored by NCSF and no RSVP is needed.
The host location is the VFW post at 1125 Fort Street in Lincoln Park, MI.
The VFW hall has a steak dinner available for $10/person from 6pm-730pm.
Deviations will be hosting a party at the same location beginning at 8pm.
Deviations will be doing fundraising for NCSF during the event. You must
contact Deviations to RSVP to the party or the dinner.
We will be sharing information and strategy options for dealing with the media
and related press as the Detroit community struggles with the unwanted
media attention the Bashara incident has brought. As the incident and resulting
media attention isn’t likely to go away and it is likely to generate
cyclical media attention as the case moves forward, it’s important that the
Detroit community and its leaders know what to say to the press and what
not to say, along with talking points and how to reach NCSF’s media line for
We’ll also be discussing security and privacy concerns for both groups and
individuals including how to deal with law enforcement and what to do about
the proverbial 'dangerous insiders.' In addition, we'll cover tips for
protecting your personal privacy and security along with what your rights
may/may not be in dealing with police or the media.
If you’re the leader of a group, please consider attending the leadership
session or send someone representing your group. Please pass this message
around to as many groups, munches and other Detroit area lists as you can and
let people know about the open community meeting along with the party
beginning at 8pm. If you have any questions, please contact Leigha Fleming at
NCSF Board Chair
I am a student at the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists in Orlando, FL. I am doing my dissertation on the Identification of the Positive Social Influences of the Decriminalization of Prostitution in the U.S. I need your help. I need as many responses as possible to the opinion survey that can be accessed through this link https://www.research.net/s/PQ8W8ZK . The survey is brief and anonymous. Please pass the link to any groups who may be interested in this subject.
Thanks for taking the time to help me with this project.
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April 13-15, 2012 marked the 25th anniversary of the Atlanta Eagle as well as the third annual Atlanta Leather Pride celebration. Alan Penrod, the Atlanta Leather Pride Coordinator, had the support of the brothers and sisters of Panther Leather Levi Club as a Presenting Sponsor again this year. Together they are very proud to announce that the fundraisers for the weekend resulted in a total of $2,000.00 being donated to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom Foundation. This money will be used by the foundation to support their education and outreach programs throughout the community.
The crowning jewel of the Atlanta Leather Pride weekend was the Mr. and Ms. Atlanta Eagle contest. We are very proud to announce this year’s winners:
Ms. Atlanta Eagle 2012 – Jackie Hubschman
Mr. Atlanta Eagle 2012 – Jeff Donaldson
First Runner Up – Brian Acker
To schedule an interview with our new Titleholders please contact Alan Penrod at
For more information please visit http://www.atlantaleatherpride.com or email:
We want to be sure that a diversity of polyamory practitioners participate in this survey. There isn't much time left, so please go now to take it. It takes about 4 minutes to complete and is really interesting with questions about poly marriage and personal satisfaction.
As Jim Fleckenstein, Board Member of NCSF, says:
Please post this link as widely as possible, as having quality research on our community is an important early step to winning respect and tolerance for our relationship choices.
The direct link to the survey is: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/SYQT7D7
Thank you so much!
Jim Fleckenstein co-researcher co-editor, /What Psychology Professionals Should Know About Polyamory/
Everyone is talking about the run-away success of the novel Fifty Shades of Gray by E. L. James, the first book in a BDSM romance trilogy. On March 1st, 2012, the novel hit #1 on the Amazon ebook bestseller list in the genre, romance and erotica categories.
The book got a big boost from The Today Show, with supervising producer Joanne LaMarca saying, “I downloaded a copy and don’t think I put it down until I finished it, despite what the pilot on my flight to Florida said. I can say, along with many other women I’m sure, that reading this book is very good for your marriage!"
In a segment televised on Today on March 2, 2012, sexologist Dr. Laura Berman touted the appeal of submission: “Now we’ve moved on to a new generation where women are more empowered than ever before, the glass ceiling has been broken, and we have as much control as we want—and what are we longing for? A little bodice-ripping.”
NCSF supports the open discussion taking place about Fifty Shades of Gray, and celebrates the fact that acceptance of kinky sex between consenting adults is taking place. NCSF has worked hard to educate the media and the public about BDSM, and the benefit of having responsible, healthy sex through negotiation, communication, trust and honesty.
The only sour notes were sounded by Today’s Chief Legal Analyst Savannah Guthrie, and Dr. Drew Pinsky, who called the BDSM romance “violence against women”:
“But there is something about this. It’s not just a matter of steamy sex scenes. The context is this bondage, this submission, and frankly stripped bare: violence against women,” said Guthrie.
“It does disturb me actually… the swept-away fantasy is a common fantasy but as you’re saying, Savannah, it’s going beyond that into violence against women,” said Pinksy.
The voice of reason was relationship expert Dr. Logan Levkoff who said, “I’ve read these books. I don’t see these particular books as violence against women.” She added, “The community has very organized rules. It’s consensual. Let’s be clear, this does not depict rape or anything like that.”
NCSF believes that adults who engage in BDSM with other consenting adults, as well as those who just want to fantasize about roleplay and power dynamics, should not be stigmatized. Experts who voice their opinions on television should make the distinction that consensual sex is good and nonconsensual sex is violence. Until that happens, the BDSM community will continue to be discriminated against and persecuted because of the misconception that we are violent people.
NCSF has been the national advocacy resource for BDSM, swing and polyamory communities since 1997. For more information about BDSM, contact Susan Wright at 917-848-6544 or email
Three panelists convened on Wednesday to dispel what they deemed myths surrounding a controversial sexual practice known as bondage and domination, sadism and masochism (BDSM).
Roughly 40 people filled a room in Linsly-Chittenden Hall to hear clinical sexologist Charley Ferrer and two representatives of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, Judy Guerin and Richard Cunningham, discuss issues relating to BDSM, including safe practices and attributes of what they called the BDSM community. The panelists said people often consider BDSM to be illegal, violent and impersonal, but argued that these are misconceptions and that BDSM can be part of a healthy relationship.
Ferrer, who has written several books on sex, explained that BDSM is about people exploring their bodies and personal preferences — not just about sex. She said many people in the BDSM community do not interact sexually, adding that dominance and submission can be seen as normal components of relationships.
“It is not domestic violence,” Ferrer said. “In [BDSM] you are sharing yourself with someone else and they care about you.”
Guerin, a former executive director of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom — a group that advocates for adult privacy rights — said BDSM is about “comfort with your own body.” Cunningham, the group’s legal consultant said BDSM is not a hidden practice and that the community is open to everyone.
The panelists stressed the importance of practicing BDSM safely and maximizing communication between participants. BDSM practitioners use “safewords,” Cunningham explained, using the word “red” for “stop” and “yellow” for “slow down.”
Cunningham said the BDSM community values consensuality, and Ferrer added that BDSM is “a lot about respect.” ...
NCSF strives to involve the communities it represents every day. Now that inclusive attitude is getting revamped as a new volunteer coordination program is brought into the organization by an energized, excited volunteer.
Keira lives in New Orleans, LA with her boyfriend. She has been involved in kink/BDSM-related communities for three years, first on Long Island, then Philadelphia and Delaware and now New Orleans. Her personal long range goals are to make people in the community safe and united as well as making education, awareness, and play available to as many people as possible.
The new volunteer program will focus on open and reliable communication between volunteers and organizational leaders so that even more can be accomplished with even more people involved. Keira also plans to add achievement recognition for volunteers. Of course, we all do it for those warm fuzzy feelings, but she wants to show how important you all are!
Please volunteer to help NCSF by writing to
The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is here for folks when they are being persecuted for their alternative sexual behavior. The problem we face is urgent and real—every year NCSF Incident Reporting and Response helps almost 500 individuals, groups, events and businesses that are being discriminated against.
Almost 30% are dealing with criminal charges because of their sexual behavior. NCSF’s Consent Counts Project is dedicated to decriminalizing consensual BDSM in U.S. law by ensuring that consent will be recognized as a defense to criminal charges brought under assault laws and other statutes. At the same time, our DSM Revision Project is leading the effort to depathologize BDSM in the American Psychiatric Association’s diagnosis manual which is consulted by legal professionals as well as therapists.
NCSF can only continue to help consenting adults defend their rights because of your donations. NCSF doesn’t receive grants like other nonprofit groups; that’s just another example of the stigma our communities face. We have to help ourselves. That’s what NCSF does.
In these hard times, we need your help. Please join NCSF. Make a donation. And please continue to designate your fundraisers to benefit NCSF.
Let’s all make the New Year a better one for kinky people everywhere!