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"Revealed: The Black Country wedding suite which doubles as a swingers club"

on Monday, 29 August 2011. Hits 724

Sunday Mercury

A WEDDING suite doubles as a seedy swingers’ club where strangers meet for illicit encounters, the Sunday Mercury can reveal.

The 1,000-seater Million Dollar Suite in Bilston, in the Black Country, is popular with Asian couples who hold huge reception parties.

The recently refurbished venue boasts a stage, two bars and offers clients a “premier banqueting suite for all types of weddings”.

But as newlyweds celebrate their sacred vows in one room, others are breaking theirs next door.

Tucked away through a door on the side of the building is the Foxy Lady Adult Cinema, which shows X-rated films daily.

But its visitors are more interested in replicating the scenes on screen than watching them.

The picture house is well-known in swingers’ circles as a place to meet like-minded individuals.

Regulars could soon have to find their fun elsewhere as council chiefs launch an investigation into the business.

Scores of websites dedicated to the clandestine pursuit feature reviews and tributes to Foxy Lady. ...

"St. Louis issues controversial new S&M club permit as education facility"

on Saturday, 27 August 2011. Hits 621

KMOV

Soon, a controversial club will be opening in the St. Louis area.

Missouri’s first legal for-profit bondage and sadomasochism club will open in the 3100 block of Gravois.

St. Louis issued the club a permit as an education facility.

It will be required to close at 1 a.m. on weekdays and 3 a.m. on weekends.

"How The Internet Killed (Or Maybe Just Changed) Dallas' Leather Scene"

on Thursday, 25 August 2011. Hits 930

Dallas Observer News

Hardy Haberman was in his local dungeon a couple years ago, beating a friend at a "play party," when things suddenly got weird. Wielding a soft leather flogger — a thick-handled instrument that resembles a whip, but with a dozen slender tails — he was lashing the slightly younger man's back. Haberman and his friend barely noticed the crowd formed around them; they were focused totally on each other. But Haberman did notice that his friend was enjoying the flogging. He knew it from the way the man moaned, writhed, screamed and cursed under his touch. True to leather-scene etiquette, though, Haberman's plaything remained unfailingly polite. "Motherfucker! Sir!" he yelled, as leather met skin.

As Haberman flogged away, a straight couple kept edging in close — way too close, stepping right into the backswing of Haberman's flogger. When he finally could sense their presence, he stopped to avoid hitting them. He gave them a look that, for most people in the crowd, would have been enough to get them to back off. But they didn't budge.

Now they were messing with Haberman's rhythm. He ignored their presence as long as he could, but then the man — wearing a billowy white Renaissance Faire-style blouse, for reasons Haberman couldn't quite make out — stepped even closer and started barraging Haberman with questions. "How do you do that?" he asked, staring in fascination as the flogger landed another blow.

Haberman was starting to understand: The couple was clueless, just the latest in a parade of curious amateurs who leather-scene vets swear are destroying Dallas' once happily insular leather community.

"Look," Haberman finally told the guy. "I'm not trying to teach a class here. I'm just trying to have a good time with my friend." He sarcastically offered to flog Ren Faire next, if he really wanted a demonstration of Haberman's "technique."

The guy and his girlfriend stormed off in a huff. Later, they complained to the party's organizer about Haberman's mid-flog display.

Haberman's a big man in his early 60s; he'd be a lot more imposing if not for the long, drooping mustache that makes him look like a friendly walrus. He's been around long enough to remember, wistfully, the way Dallas' leather scene used to be back in the 1970s. To hear him and his friends tell it, a contemporary leatherman can't swing a flogger or clamp a nipple around here without running into some "sexual tourist" poking around the city's dungeon and play-party scene — "looking," Haberman says, "to spice up their love lives."

"For years, we flew under the radar, and we had some fabulous times," he says, reveling in the memory of the scene's powerful "sex magic." "There was an erotic energy that happened that was palpable. Now you just don't see it as much." ...

"University chancellor, 64, quits after shocking photos exposed him as sex-dungeon master"

on Wednesday, 24 August 2011. Hits 1135

Daily Mail

The chancellor of the University of Northern Virginia exposed as a sadomasochistic sex-dungeon master following a school raid by federal immigration agents last month has submitted his resignation.

David Lee, 64, was revealed as a man so into domination and sadomasochism that he and his girlfriend turned their basement into a suburban sex dungeon.

He claimed in his letter of resignation that 'Discussions of my personal life have become a distraction for students and friends of UNVA at a time when we need to focus on more significant issues.'

According to his letter, Lee’s resignation was effective on Friday.

On July 28, the for-profit school was raided by immigration authorities seizing computers and documents and leaving a population of approximately 2,000 mostly Indian students in limbo.

The Smoking Gun found the personal ad after the raid - complete with photos of his dungeon and Lee performing sadomasochistic acts - on a website called collarme.com, which describes itself as the 'largest BDSM Community on the Planet'.

The ad sought 'attractive submissive women' who 'wish to be part of our poly family'. ...

 

"S.F. sex-harassment lawyer accused of rape"

on Sunday, 21 August 2011. Hits 966

SF Gate

A San Francisco employment lawyer who specializes in sexual harassment cases has been charged with rape and other crimes for allegedly attacking three women who came to his apartment in response to his Craigslist ad for rough sex.

Robert Michael Hoffman, 50, allegedly sexually assaulted a 36-year-old East Bay woman in March, a 19-year-old San Francisco woman in June and a 25-year-old East Bay woman earlier this month. The allegations include rape, sexual battery, forced oral sex and one count of false imprisonment.

Hoffman is being held at the County Jail in San Francisco on $3 million bail.

His lawyer, Stuart Hanlon, said the women had all come to Hoffman's Van Ness Avenue apartment to engage in what his ads in Craigslist's "Men Seeking Women" section billed as dominant-submissive sex.

"His ad clearly said he was seeking dominant sex with submissive women," Hanlon said. "It talked about getting controlled, getting hit and getting their hair pulled."

In at least two cases, the women had sex with Hoffman voluntarily before the incidents in which they accused him of sexual assault, Hanlon said.

Hanlon said the three women, along with a fourth alleged victim, had gone to police accusing Hoffman of having assaulted them in his apartment, but that the district attorney's office declined to file charges until the most recent case. Prosecutors have not filed charges related to the fourth alleged victim, whose accusations predate the other women's.

Hoffman was arrested Aug. 5 and pleaded not guilty at his arraignment Monday.

A spokeswoman for District Attorney George Gascón's office would not comment on why the office had initially declined to file charges against Hoffman when the first three women came forward. She said prosecutors were still reviewing the accusations that the first woman lodged against Hoffman last year. ...

"BDSM & Rape: What Now?"

on Sunday, 21 August 2011. Hits 1278

Charlie Glickman: Adult Sexuality Education

About a month ago, Kitty Stryker wrote a piece for the Good Vibrations Magazine, I Never Called it Rape: Addressing Abuse in BDSM Communities, in which she opened up a really important topic. It’s one that’s been simmering for a while and now that it’s come up in such a public way, there’s been a lot of different responses. There’s been the predictable set of comments, both on the Good Vibrations Magazine and on Fetlife (a social networking site for the BDSM crowd).

Some folks are making excuses for doms who assault their subs, some people are asking why people who have been assaulted don’t report it, and a few are trying to find ways to make room for both BDSM and rape awareness. I’m sure that there are other ways that people are responding, but those are the most common ones I’ve seen.

This is an issue that the kink community (if I can use that term to describe such a wide-ranging and diverse crowd) has been avoiding for a long time. And I understand why- if it comes to the surface, it gives a certain weight to the arguments that many anti-BDSM folks make about kinky sex being all about rape. But one thing that few BDSM folks seem willing to acknowledge is that, yes, some people are drawn to BDSM because it gives them an excuse to hurt others. To be 100% clear, I’m not talking about the kinds of intense sensation that some people enjoy, especially in the context of erotic energy (with or without genital stimulation). I’m talking about the people who take advantage of a newbie’s naïveté and tells them that “this is how this works.” I’m talking about the people who push someone past their limits without negotiating that. I’m talking about people who use BDSM as an excuse to violate boundaries under the guise of being Lord Domly Dom®. I’m talking about people who don’t care about the consent of the other person.

In addition to those folks, there are also situations in which a top is clueless or selfish. Malice isn’t the only reason people cross boundaries, and these other motivations don’t change the impact of the experience on the person who’s been assaulted. I’m certainly not suggesting that “I didn’t mean to” is an excuse. And I do think it can make a difference in how we choose to respond.

Unfortunately, in addition to the tendency of marginalized communities to avoid “airing their dirty laundry in public” (and yes, BDSM folks are marginalized, even with all of the S/M imagery in the media), there are a lot of dynamics that reinforce this setup. I think it’s important to look at them in order to deal with them, although I don’t expect that this is a complete list. ...

 

 

"BDSM's Dirty Secret – The Real Risk of Kinky Sex"

on Tuesday, 16 August 2011. Hits 1424

SEXIS

As kinky folks, most of us have heard of the risks associated with certain activities we like: rope cuts off circulation, bruises invite suspicion and speculation, infected wounds or bites just plain suck and breath play can flat out be deadly... but there's more.

 

"HBO Documentary Series Presents - Gloria: In Her Own Words, preview"

on Monday, 15 August 2011. Hits 539

Monsters & Critics

I was a little girl when Gloria Steinem came on the scene. My mother was an early N.O.W. member in Massachusetts, and a subscriber to Steinem's MS. Magazine.

Gloria was the sexy feminist; the one with long back combed hair, nails and was always a chic understated fashion icon. She was the kind of feminist that made men soften, important men like Henry Kissinger.

Gloria was a feminist at a time when women were invisible on the news, or high up in corporations. As a nation we were coming out of out "Mad Men" Joan Holloway imprint and diving headfirst into the woman's user manual, "Our Bodies Ourselves" and Bella Abzug, Betty Friedan and the ERA amendment. ...

The subject of the "Mad Men"-inspired network dramas for fall, specifically “Pan Am” and “The Playboy Club,” both set in the ’60s, about stewardesses and the Playboy bunnies, and “Charlie’s Angels,” another new series coming was broached.

Steinem shared her thoughts.

"The hierarchical response has two poles: The very worst men are into sadomasochism, and the very best men are into nostalgia. So I think this is like the nostalgia industry. It’s like the World War II industry. It’s the last time we were really right. So someone told me that we had actually put more money into making films and television series about World War II than we put into World War II. I don’t know if that’s true or not, but it would be interesting research to figure out. It sounds true, right? But it is a problem; I agree." ...

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