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"Burnside Bondage"

on Thursday, 01 November 2012. Hits 424

CHEK

“As a City Councillor, it’s a revenue generator for the community center, and we’re continually asking our community centers to be more enterprising. So as long as it’s legal, which obviously S&M is, I don’t have a problem with it." ...

"RCMP improperly investigated informant, says civil liberties group"

on Thursday, 01 November 2012. Hits 2158

The Province

The RCMP inappropriately used its resources to investigate one of its informants, according to a complaint filed Tuesday by the B.C. Civil Liberties Association.

The association sent a letter to the Commission for Public Complaints against the RCMP asking for a probe into the Mounties’ actions, to be conducted by an outside agency.

The association’s move follows an order from B.C. Provincial Court Judge Peder Gulbransen unsealing the information provided to obtain the warrant to search the home of Grant Wakefield.

In March, Wakefield gave police information about the personal activities of Sgt. James Brown.

That information included an account that Wakefield said was given to him by a young woman who said she met with Brown over lunch after connecting through an online dating site.

She claimed they discussed sexual fantasies in his police car and he told her about websites where he could be contacted.

After looking at the sites — which featured bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism — Wakefield forwarded some photos of Brown from the sites to the Coquitlam RCMP.

The RCMP then began a Code of Conduct investigation. That probe is now complete and a final package is being assembled, which will be sent to the commanding officer for review and any decisions on discipline.

The media got wind of the story in July and published the photos. Soon after, an article was posted online criticizing the media for misidentifying Brown in some photos.

Someone commented, making negative allegations about Brown. The person also emailed the author of the article, making similar allegations. Around the same time, someone opened a Twitter account and posted more comments.

Police are investigating whether these comments are defamatory libel and allege that Wakefield was the source. ...

"“Kink!” workshop demonstrates safety within BDSM community"

on Thursday, 01 November 2012. Hits 2395

Golden Gate XPress

About 100 students broadened their knowledge on a different kind of pleasure in the Rosa Parks Conference room in the Cesar Chavez Student Center.

In a delicate, yet open manner, Jen Day, Pepper Mint and Ari, who declined to give his last name—all whom are in polyamorous relationships with each other—educated a group of students about the practice of BDSM, which stands for bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, masochism.

“Often people don’t like any of these things, and that’s OK, that’s great,” Mint said.

In a presentation, three “Kink!” participants covered topics of consent, fetishes, myths, media, role playing, toys and a brief history all surrounding the topic of BDSM with safety being an overriding theme.

“BDSM is not abuse, and abuse is not BDSM,” Day said.

The presenters discussed that having consent, using safe words and not engaging in drug use are important rules to follow when it comes to kink play. “Safe, sane and sober” is a general motto in kink communities.

Using places designated for kink play was among one recommendation for enhanced safety.

“Often play is semi-public in these places. This is relatively safe compared to bringing someone home that you don’t know very well,” Pepper said.

Various toys were passed around for students to feel and look at up close, including paddles, whips and leather straps — even one with heart-shaped cut-outs that leaves heart imprints on skin.

Students attended the presentation to receive credit for one of Ivy Chen’s classes, while others attended for their own interests. ...

"50 shades of rough sex"

on Wednesday, 31 October 2012. Hits 312

Daily Californian

This column is not about “Fifty Shades of Grey” because, frankly, reading that book pissed me off. Reading about how undeserving a woman thinks she is of a prototypical alpha-male is not sexually arousing. “Fifty Shades” did not provide any of the provocative mind-fucks I was anticipating. This column is about BDSM and the wonders of bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism, which “Fifty Shades” failed to mention.

Bondage is a fun place to start, as it physically restrains a person and forces him or her to take pleasure, humiliation, teasing and taunting. Dominance and submission are about the submissive giving-in to any demand for the pleasure of the dominant. Masochism describes the sexual pleasure one gets from receiving humiliation and pain by means such as whipping and flogging, while sadism describes the pleasure one gets from giving pain. Pain in these contexts is discussed and predetermined, as the person in power never intends to inflict any sensation that the subjugated individual cannot handle.

The attractions of BDSM are not so much physical as they are psychological. It’s not about leather and chains in a dungeon setting. It’s about taking on the mentality in which the sole objective is to give or receive pleasure through power plays. It’s about feeling so irresistibly desirable that one is forced to take sexual pleasure or entrancing someone to the point that one is given total control over another.

But BDSM has to be completely consensual. A nonconsensual act of pain or abuse is not BDSM. In all BDSM spaces, partners have to communicate what they will do, the limits of their pain tolerance and safe words before they start any play session. All parties have the power to stop everything at once if they become uncomfortable. At bondage clubs, the experts will constantly monitor and check in with you to see if you’re okay. ...

"Judge agrees to unseal search warrant"

on Tuesday, 30 October 2012. Hits 591

CKNW

A provincial court judge in Surrey has agreed to unseal search warrant information obtained by the RCMP in an investigation linked to a Mountie accused of professional misconduct.


Judge Peder Gulbransen's decision gives the public access to the warrant executed in August at the New Westminster home of Grant Wakefield, a man accused of defamation against Coquitlam Corporal Jim Brown.


The judge has ruled the crown and RCMP didn't have sufficient grounds to suppress details which have yet to be disclosed.


But he has agreed to protect the names of some people linked to the case including Brown's wife and children.


Brown was accused of inappropriately using RCMP resources but there's no proof he commited any crimes.

"‘Polyamory’: the next civil rights movement?"

on Tuesday, 30 October 2012. Hits 1097

LifeSiteNews.com

They used to call them “swingers.”  Not anymore.  These days, like most “alternative lifestyle” groups, they’ve adopted a new, more clinical-sounding description – polyamorist – and incorporated it into the names of a small but growing number of advocacy and social networking organizations.

As the battle over the true definition of marriage heats up nationwide, they want a place on the front line.

“Polyamorist” means “lover of many,” and it’s exactly what it sounds like.  Polyamorists maintain more than one sexual relationship at a time, with the full consent and knowledge of all partners.  Some are married to one partner but maintain a rotating stable of lovers.  Others join together in more lasting unions between multiple partners – for example, a threesome or foursome (which they call ‘triads’ and ‘quads,’) wherein all parties enjoy sexual relations in various combinations – heterosexual, homosexual or both.

In the midst of Minnesota’s raging debate over gay ‘marriage,’ the Minneapolis-area City Pages recently featured two articles highlighting the polyamorist “lifestyle,” in which they interviewed some of its practitioners.

One such interview was with a mother of two young children, Julia Janousek.  Julia, who has been married for 12 years to her husband, Jim, told the City Pages they decided to “open [their] marriage up” three years ago.  She quickly met another man, Justin, and became sexually involved with him, a relationship that continues to this day.

Justin often spends nights at the couple’s house.  At first, says Julia, they tried to hide the nature of the relationship from the children, claiming that Justin was just a “friend” who came for “breakfast,” but they soon gave up the charade.

“My kids get up way too early,” she said, “so I just couldn’t keep that up.”

“Jami,” a 31-year-old practitioner of ‘polyamory’ who asked the City Pages not to use her real name, blamed reality television for her interest in the lifestyle. “Back in college, I saw an MTV True Life special that was all about polyamory,” she said, “and I was like, ‘This is interesting,’” Later, fictional television would continue to shape her views.  “Then I watched the show Big Love that was all about polygamy,” she explained, “and that got me thinking a lot more about my own life, even though it’s a little different.”

The Twin Cities, according to the City Pages, has an active polyamory scene.  The paper described it in the intro to its coverage as “the metro community that believes love is too big for just two.”

Same-sex “marriage” advocates have been adamant in their denial that a redefinition of marriage to include homosexual couples could lead to a “slippery slope” of legalized polygamy or even bestiality.  Polyamorists, however, appear to disagree.  Those interviewed by the City Pages drew direct parallels between themselves and homosexuals, believing that their relationships are no less valid. ...

"State Senate employee's erotic swinger party 'disconcerting' and 'sends a bad message,' Albany lawmakers say"

on Saturday, 27 October 2012. Hits 1462

The Daily News

ALBANY — Senators on both sides of the aisle raised concerns on Friday about a state Senate employee who runs erotic swingers parties with her husband.

“I think we would rather have this not happen, that's clear — especially a week before the election,” said state Sen. Tony Avella (D-Queens), who called the situation “disconcerting.”

“I think that this definitely sends a bad message,” added Sen. Martin Golden (R-Brooklyn).

The Daily News reported Friday that Janis Gonzalez, a $45,000-a-year office manager for the Senate Democrats, runs an erotic dance event business that caters to swingers with husband Carlos Gonzalez, who is the son of convicted ex-Sen. Efrain Gonzalez.

The pair is planning a “Gods and Goddesses” Halloween party in Albany on Nov. 3, just steps from the Capitol building.

While the party could prove an embarrassment, lawmakers from both parties said it’s difficult to fire or discipline Gonzalez because the business has not affected her government job.

Hotel Albany General Manager Art Thompson said he was surprised to read The News’ account of the party planned for his hotel. He said the group booked only a block of rooms and no party space. “There is no function planned,” Thompson said.

Carlos Gonzalez refuted, saying, “There is an event.”

"Office manager for state Senate Democrats moonlighting with her husband to run erotic dance events business for swingers"

on Friday, 26 October 2012. Hits 1136

The Daily News

ALBANY — An office manager for the state Senate Democrats is moonlighting with her husband to run an erotic dance events business for swingers.

The couple, Janis and Carlos Gonzalez, are the son and daughter-in-law of convicted ex-Bronx state Sen. Efrain Gonzalez.

The two started a company called Capital District Couples Network several years ago to offer couples tired of strip and sex clubs another alternative, Carlos Gonzalez said.

“Why is it different? Because of the fact that there may or may not be people who are into some kind of swinging lifestyle who are coming to it,” he said. “Most people who come to our dance events like to see the girls get close to each other. It’s a little risqué. It’s a little hot. It’s erotic.”

The pair are advertising a red-hot Halloween party at a local Albany hotel a block from the state Capitol on Nov. 3 — just days before Election Day.

According to a website touting the event, it is geared for couples who are “fit, in shape.”

The online invite announces that “The ‘Gods and Goddesses’ of CDCN’s staff (wearing Greek and Roman costumes) invite private members to attend this venue with your sexiest and most naughty costume.”

It urges guests to: “Keep in mind, we’re not putting on a horror show, baby! We’re the sexy crowd, the HOT crowd, the erotic.”

The function is geared toward couples. Single women are allowed — but not single men. ...

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