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"Man Thrown Out of Event For Observing Other Swingers Are "Overweight and Unattractive"

on Friday, 07 September 2012. Hits 730

Riverfront Times

Sometimes life doesn't meet your expectations. That's the lesson one man learned following his first visit to a swingers event -- that's "swingers," not Swingers. The unnamed man was thrown out of a swingers event at the Stratford Inn in Fenton for the height of rudeness: he's accused of pointing out that the other participants were both overweight and unattractive.

Rookie move, bro; they all look the same once the lights are out.

The other swingers took umbrage, and threw the critic out. But then Mr. Too-Good-For-Fenton-Swingers-Club had to return to the Stratford to pick up his belongings, which didn't get tossed when he did (this would be such a good place for a "that's what she said" if you have one laying around).

His return prompted an argument with another swinger, which allegedly devolved into the critic throwing a bottle at the swinger in question. He's since been charged with third degree assault.

"Majority Of Sex Assault Charges Dropped Against San Francisco Employment Attorney"

on Thursday, 06 September 2012. Hits 1327

KCBS San Francisco

... The remaining charges stem from an encounter between Hoffman and the 36-year-old East Bay woman, who testified on Wednesday that she was sexually assaulted in Hoffman’s apartment on March 1 after responding to an ad on Craigslist.

The victim in her Wednesday testimony acknowledged sending sexually explicit pictures of herself—including one of her wearing her cat’s collar around her neck—to Hoffman prior to their encounter.

During her testimony, she said that Hoffman had choked and slapped her before engaging in forced oral copulation on her until she broke free and fled his apartment.

The victim said that Hoffman had told her he liked being dominant during sex and said she liked that, but said she became scared during their encounter because she “thought it would be more playful.”

The woman called police a day later and reported the incident.

“The line is unclear, and the jury is going to have to figure out

what it is,” Chan said after dismissing two-thirds of the charges and reducing Hoffman’s bail. ...

"GOP, hands off my porn!"

on Tuesday, 04 September 2012. Hits 1246

The Republican Party has committed to "vigorously" enforcing obscenity laws. A look at what that could mean

Salon.com

It’s official: A Romney presidency would mean a renewed war on porn. This week, the Republican Party added the following line to its party platform: “Current laws on all forms of pornography and obscenity need to be vigorously enforced.”

Vigorously enforced. Just what does that mean? Which genres would be safe, and which taboos would be targeted? Would they go after wildly popular tube sites like PornHub or industry bigwigs like Hustler? I decided to talk to some experts to find out.

Before we go any further, it’s worth reviewing the legal definition of obscenity. The 1973 Miller decision established a three-pronged test: It must appeal “to the prurient interest,” based on “community standards”; depict sexual behavior “in a patently offensive way”; and lack “serious literary, artistic, political, or scientific value.” But, clearly, “community standards” not only vary but are ever-changing — there is no master list of approved pornographic acts. This makes obscenity prosecutions at once more difficult and more accessible.

Clay Calvert, director of the Marion B. Brechner First Amendment Project, says, “They would lose prosecutions if they went after vanilla sex, like Wicked Pictures and Vivid.” Instead, federal prosecutors are likelier to go after edgier fetish films where “it appears like there is violence happening.” We certainly saw that with some Bush-era obscenity prosecutions. Take the indictment in 2003 of Extreme Associates for films involving simulated kidnapping, murder and rape (as well as, um, vomit-ingestion). Then there’s the conviction of Paul F. Little, aka Max Hardcore in 2008: His work featured intense slapping and choking — indeed, scenes where “it appears like there is violence happening” — as well as vomiting and urination. (As journalist Susannah Breslin wrote, “Watching Little’s work is less like watching a porn movie than it is akin to witnessing a vivisection.”) ...

"Real Life 'Fifty Shades Of Grey' Ends In 'Slavery' Lawsuit"

on Tuesday, 04 September 2012. Hits 1097

Huffington Post

"Fifty Shades of Grey," the best-selling BDSM erotica novel written by E.L. James, might have housewives blushing, but the real-life version of the story can be more of a nightmare than a fantasy.

An unnamed Italian woman, who signed a contract swearing complete sexual and mental submission to her husband, is now suing him for divorce and physical abuse after seven years of "slavery," the Telegraph reports. She signed the agreement, which stipulated that she would be his "slave," in 2004 when they were dating. They married in 2006 and separated last year.

The Telegraph published some excerpts from the contract:

  • "The slave agrees to obey and to offer herself for the satisfaction of the desires of her master," the contract read.
  • "The slave agrees to place her body at her master's disposition, to be used at his pleasure."
  • Any "infraction" would be punished, the contract stipulated, with the woman expected to accept the penalty with "humility".
  • As part of the unusual accord, the husband agreed that he would not subject his wife to "coprophilia, bestiality, asphyxia/restriction of breathing, branding by fire, any activities involving weapons and any acts in general which could permanently mark her physically".

The contract between dominant Christian Grey and submissive Anastasia Steele, published in the first "Fifty Shades of Grey" book in 2011, includes similar agreements. ...

"BDSM Goes Glossy: There Is Now A Fifty Shades Magazine"

on Tuesday, 04 September 2012. Hits 1138

Gothamist

This week a new magazine hit newsstands, called: Fifty Shades Of American Women Who Love The Book And Live The Life. That is a terribly lengthy name for a magazine, but if you slap the words "Fifty Shades" on anything these days you're sure to move some product. The publisher of the glossy reportedly got the blessing from EL James's reps, which is sort of hard to believe considering she could have cashed in on this herself... but who cares about the ins and outs of the deal when we could be talking about important things like how to release our inner goddesses? This magazine features 80 pages on that topic alone! When did porn get so wordy?

You'll also get a poll that shows 93% of women want to spice up their relationship with role play, and a list of twenty books "even steamier than Fifty Shades" (traitors!). The official description reads:

"For those 'Who Love the Book and Live the Life,' Fifty Shades comprises the true recipe for magazine success: part tabloid (with predictions for the actors that will play the novel’s characters in the eventual film), part Cosmopolitan (with tips on how to write a flirty email, a spread featuring 20 of the best-loved sex toys, and a feature from a woman who’s been both a domme and a sub, but prefers now to just 'cuddle and makeout'), and part Shape (with tips on how to get Ana’s butt and how to 'eat like a sex goddess')."

The magazine will be available at places like Barnes & Noble and Walgreens for $6.99. But if you're just in this for the hardcore BDSM, stick to YouPorn—you know what they say: "Reading about porn is like dancing about architecture."

"California woman strangled after refusing to take part in rough sex, detectives say"

on Tuesday, 04 September 2012. Hits 1122

NY Daily News

The young wife of a Marine stationed in Afghanistan was killed after refusing to participate in “sadomasochistic sexual activity,” investigators said in a new batch of unsealed court documents.

Brittany Killgore, 22, was apparently unaware that she had been targeted by her new friend, Staff Sgt. Louis Perez, to participate in a bondage session, the court documents released Wednesday said. Investigators called her an “unwilling participant” in Perez's sexual habits that included bondage, cutting and restraint, the San Diego Union-Tribune reported.

Perez, along with two of his companions, Dorothy Marie Maraglino, 37, and Jessica Lopez, 25, have been charged with murder, torture and conspiracy in connection with Killgore’s death. All have pleaded not guilty.

Killgore's body was found April 17 near a Southern California lake. She was nude and had been strangled, possibly days earlier, police said.

Killgore had just filed for divorce from her Marine husband when she disappeared. He was in Afghanistan at the time of her murder and was not a suspect.

She was last seen April 13, after agreeing to go on a dinner cruise with Perez in exchange for his help moving her belongings from her apartment.

Perez had “boasted” to his bondage community that he planned to hold a sadomasochism session on the weekend of April 14, according to police warrants.

Investigators believe he killed Killgore after she refused to participate in his plans.

Perez then called Maraglino and Lopez to “join him.”

The three suspects had previously held an unknown woman hostage in the house until she cooperated with their sex play, earlier court documents said.

"New Yorkers search more for BDSM porn compared to rest of the world"

on Tuesday, 04 September 2012. Hits 1106

Metro

New Yorkers are getting their freak on — behind closed doors.

While BDSM enthusiasts tell Metro they have definitely seen more newcomers to the underground sex scene, newly released statistics by adult entertainment site YouPorn show New Yorkers are most exploring their kinky curiosities in the privacy of their own homes.

According to the numbers, searches for BDSM-related porn on the site are up worldwide, likely due to the explosion of popularity for the erotic novel "Fifty Shades of Grey."

But here in New York, we're searching that kind of porn with the largest spike, at an 89.7 percent increase from April to June of 2012, compared to a worldwide increase of 67 percent, according to YouPorn.

"New Yorkers spanked the competition," YouPorn said of the statistics.

A spokesman for the site said they were able to compile the data using analytic software that could tell which geographic area searches came from.

The news doesn't come as a surprise to people who are embedded in New York's kinky community.

"There has been an uptick on the scene, but you are seeing way more people doing it from home," Bo Blaze, who has been active in New York's BDSM scene for more than 20 years, told Metro. "I would attribute it mostly to New York being an awesome, kinky town, and people here are curious."

New Yorkers are searching for the terms "sex slave" and "master" more than ever, with a 109.2 percent increase and 113.82 percent increase, respectively. The rest of the world is searching for that type of porn, but only at a 78.96 percent and 71.91 percent increase.

The master-slave relationship takes a front seat in the wildly popular "Fifty Shades," which could explain the recent interest.

"No book sells 32 million copies without a cultural shift happening, and New York leads that," Blaze said.

Guy Sanders, a spokesman for the Eulenspiegel Society — New York's oldest BDSM group, which promotes sexual liberation for adults — agreed, adding that the city has historically served as a pioneer when it comes to sexuality.

"The gay pride movement really took force in New York," Sanders said. "New Yorkers are progressive sexually and open sexually and have a tendency to lead the way."

Other terms that porn viewers in New York are searching for at a higher increase compared to the rest of the world include "domination" and "sadism." ...

"Pro-sex publisher Bill Brent dies"

on Thursday, 30 August 2012. Hits 269

SF Bay Reporter

Bill Brent, a prolific author of sex-positive literature and a member of San Francisco's alternative sexuality communities, died during the weekend of August 18-19. He ended his life by jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge after a long struggle with depression and chronic pain. He was 52.

Mr. Brent was involved in the Bay Area bisexual, BDSM, Black Leather Wings radical faerie, and pro-sex literary communities in the 1990s. He published The Black Book – one of the first queer and alternative sexuality directories – and edited or contributed to more than 30 erotic anthologies.

"Bill was a leader in the fin de siecle San Francisco erotic and sex radical renaissance in countless ways," said author Susie Bright, former editor of On Our Backs. "He published so many great people, he was endlessly generous, and a devoted literature person in every way."

Mr. Brent was born July 17, 1960, and grew up mainly in the East Bay. Recalling his less than happy childhood he once wrote, "[San Francisco] was my home away from home, that suburban hell where I'd spent most of the 1970s in a deep depression knowing that I was a freak, a rebel, an outcast every time I boarded the bus for the lunatic asylum called high school."

Mr. Brent attended San Francisco State University in the late 1970s, where he studied theater arts. He got involved in the punk rock scene and began to frequent gay sex venues in the city. After college he performed with Bay Area drama groups, tap danced, and helped start a theater company.

In the late 1980s Mr. Brent began volunteering with San Francisco Sex Information. Noting the lack of a comprehensive compilation of sex-positive resources, he produced the first of six editions of The Black Book in 1992, which he described as "a resource for everyone sexual in the 'other' category – everyone who wasn't married and having children, basically."

"Bill lived his whole life never apologizing for two important things: who he was and what he was into," said longtime friend and colleague Thomas Roche. "He didn't hide his bisexuality from the gay community. Now many people prefer the less restrictive, more inclusive, and for many more descriptive term 'queer.' But Bill is one of the people who helped invent that queer identity, well before it was fashionable. He helped show a bunch of people just how much their own rights to their own identities could matter." ...

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