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Survey: Decriminalization of Prostitution

on Tuesday, 24 April 2012. Hits 549

I am a student at the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists in Orlando, FL. I am doing my dissertation on the Identification of the Positive Social Influences of the Decriminalization of Prostitution in the U.S. I need your help. I need as many responses as possible to the opinion survey that can be accessed through this link https://www.research.net/s/PQ8W8ZK . The survey is brief and anonymous. Please pass the link to any groups who may be interested in this subject.

Thanks for taking the time to help me with this project.

Sincerely, Steven Davidson

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Strange Attractions

on Sunday, 22 April 2012. Hits 393

20/20

From '50 Shades of Grey' to open marriages, what's going on with sex these days?

Check out BDSM, Polyamory, Male Escorts and What is Your Favorite Position?

"Posters cause outrage at USM"

on Sunday, 22 April 2012. Hits 621

Hattiesburg American

A poster promoting a show at a Hub City bar drew the ire of some University of Southern Mississippi students and faculty members as being "degrading to women," prompting school officials to pull copies down around campus Friday.

"There is a pervasive hatred of women in our culture, and it is scary to see an expression of that in our midst," said outraged Southern Miss English Professor Nicolle Jordan, co-chair of the university's Committee on Services and Resources for Women.

The poster, taped to approximately 20 campus locations Thursday for a Cash Fountain concert today at The Tavern, featured a drawing of a naked woman with her head bowed and her hands tied behind her back.

Cash Fountain is a local group of DJs that performed at Eaglepalooza last year.

Members Greg Brooking and Drew Bardin said they were surprised by the reaction to the posters that they admitted to placing around campus. "We weren't trying to make people mad," said Brooking a 2010 Southern Miss alumnus, who explained that it was for a BDSM-themed costume party.

BDSM is an acronym suggesting bondage, domination and sado-masochism.

But what troubled doctoral creative writing student Christina Rothenbeck, one of several English graduate students to complain, was the posters' decontextualized image of a submissive woman.

That's why she defaced many of the them Thursday with graffiti reading: "This is what rape culture looks like," "She is not an object," "Degrading women degrades everyone," and "Rape is everyone's problem." ...

"Virgins, Bondage and A Shameful Media Fail"

on Saturday, 21 April 2012. Hits 448

Huffington Post

Thanks to its recent cover story, The Fantasy Life of Working Women: Why Sadomasochism is a Feminist Dream, millions of people can thank Newsweek for unfulfilling sex and a cynical undermining of feminism's attempts to change that. Instead of substantively considering the gendered nature of shame in our culture and how e-readers are being used by women to deal with its effects, the magazine perpetuated some pretty dubious and unsubstantiated theories about power, sexuality, gender and yes, feminism. The only trends that surface when considering the work cited in the article are women's use of technology, their openness to overtly sexual content and mainstream media's persistent misrepresentation of both women and the feminist movement.

The article in question relied largely on the success of the soft-core porn condage/dominance/sadomasochism (BDSM) series, 50 Shades of Grey, to explain why working women (mis-conflated with feminists) might be uncomfortable with free will. What drivel. Not only is women's consumption of BSDM (in the book or two other referenced media) not a trend, but there is also no connection between the theme of submission/dominance and women's "possible" discomfort with economic successes and power. The series' sales are unexceptional and their content ultimately traditional for the simple reason that the books are about romance in the context of VIRGINITY, SUBMISSION and the transformative power of what filmmaker and writer Therese Shechter calls "the magical penis" which awakens and transforms a woman in these narratives. The deep thread, not to be pulled by Newsweek's predictable trojan horse writer, connecting all of these things is gendered shame. Electronic readers are changing culture in lots of unexpected ways and this is one of them. Feminists aren't grappling with why women have submission fantasies. Women, liberated by feminist ideas about equality on many fronts including, but not limited to shame-free sex, are openly consuming sexual stories that interest them and talking about them to boot.

Sexuality is just one dimension of being human, and sex is probably best when pursued with consent between equals. It's just that misogynistic systems and the people that support them, both men and women, think of women as only here, ultimately, for men's sexual and reproductive use -- female desire, consent and equality being largely irrelevant. Feminists like me are more concerned with the pervasively destructive effects of living in a culture that says women's pleasure and reproduction are only legitimate when they serve the needs of men and shameful when they seek to define them on their own terms. It's subjugation, but not the kind Newsweek is irresponsibly touting. ...

"“Fifty Shades of Grey”: Dominatrixes take on Roiphe"

on Saturday, 21 April 2012. Hits 432

As usual, Katie Roiphe misses the point. Women aren't the only ones who find escape in submission

Salon

What about men? That was the first thought that came to mind after reading Katie Roiphe’s Newsweek cover story on the BDSM-themed “Fifty Shades of Grey” phenomenon, in which she controversially speculated that women’s current fascination with the book’s story line of female submission was the result of the “pressure of economic participation” and the “hard work” of striving for equality. The desire for submission is hardly something unique to women.

Who understands this better than professional dominatrixes? With so many speculating this week on Roiphe’s article, I decided to hand the microphone over to women with a unique perspective on the dynamics in power and play.

Several said that Roiphe is actually on to something when she talks about submission as an escape from life’s stresses — only, this reasonable point is overwritten by her wrongheaded focus on women and the impact of feminism. Roiphe wonders whether there is “something exhausting about the relentless responsibility of a contemporary woman’s life … all that strength and independence and desire and going out into the world,” and suggests “that, for some, the more theatrical fantasies of sexual surrender offer a release, a vacation, an escape from the dreariness and hard work of equality.” What about the exhausting, relentless responsibility of contemporary people’s lives? ...

In International News...

on Thursday, 19 April 2012. Hits 261

Bondage girl jailed for rape lies

The Sun

PRETTY sales assistant Kirsty Sowden was jailed today for crying rape in shame over her kinky sex session with an older stranger. Kirsty, 21, had met her “victim” online after advertising herself as a sexy “BDSM Princess” - standing for Bondage, Domination and Sadomasochism - on the internet.

The John Lewis store girl voluntarily enjoyed a bondage sex session the man; she agreed to wear a leather dog lead and collar and to be spanked.

But guilt-ridden Sowden - who was trying for a BABY with her boyfriend at the time - regretted the romp afterwards and tearfully claimed she had been raped.

Sowden contacted the police after leaving businessman Andrew Boarer’s flat, having had full sex.

She told officers she had been raped in a park area by a baldling stranger in his 40s who grabbed her as she left a gym at Cascades in Gravesend, Kent.

Police arrested a man based on her description but soon realised he was totally innocent.

Separately, officers traced DNA samples which led them to the actual man Sowden had had sex with.

A horrified Mr Boarer was arrested at work in front of his boss. The innocent man, who was going through a divorce at the time, was taken away in handcuffs and questioned then remanded in custody on the strength of the false claims.

It was only while he was behind bars that Sowden’s lies came to light, as police were able to uncover internet exchanges between the pair.

Sowden, of, Northfleet, Kent was jailed for 14 months at Maidstone Crown Court after admitting perverting the course of justice by trying to disguise her sex session as rape. ...

Atlanta Leather Pride raises $2000.00 for NCSF Foundation and names Mr. & Ms. Atlanta Eagle 2012.

on Wednesday, 18 April 2012. Hits 779

Contact: Alan Penrod

International LeatherSIR 2011

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April 13-15, 2012 marked the 25th anniversary of the Atlanta Eagle as well as the third annual Atlanta Leather Pride celebration. Alan Penrod, the Atlanta Leather Pride Coordinator, had the support of the brothers and sisters of Panther Leather Levi Club as a Presenting Sponsor again this year. Together they are very proud to announce that the fundraisers for the weekend resulted in a total of $2,000.00 being donated to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom Foundation. This money will be used by the foundation to support their education and outreach programs throughout the community.

The crowning jewel of the Atlanta Leather Pride weekend was the Mr. and Ms. Atlanta Eagle contest. We are very proud to announce this year’s winners:

Ms. Atlanta Eagle 2012 – Jackie Hubschman

Mr. Atlanta Eagle 2012 – Jeff Donaldson

First Runner Up – Brian Acker

To schedule an interview with our new Titleholders please contact Alan Penrod at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it For more information please visit http://www.atlantaleatherpride.com or email: This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

"Katie Roiphe's perversion of feminism"

on Wednesday, 18 April 2012. Hits 210

Roiphe casts feminists as moralising killjoys policing women's fantasies of sexual submission. I'll submit – that she's way wrong

The Guardian

Katie Roiphe has been exploring her fantasies again, and I wish she'd stop. I don't mean the one about being tied up and spanked – not a thing wrong with that one. I mean the one in which scary, scowling feminists tell her what a bad girl she is for wanting it.

A quick primer for those who missed it: in this week's Newsweek cover story (complete with faux-scandalous cover image of a bored and blindfolded gamine), Roiphe argues that the success of the Twilight-fanfic-turned-romance-novel 50 Shades of Grey, as well as the sexual escapades depicted in the pilot of the much-ballyhoo'ed HBO project Girls, indicate a re-emergence of women's perrenial compulsion to get bossed around in bed. She then goes on to claim that this "trend" exposes the supposed facts that feminists (who, in her delusion, only want you do to it gently side-by-side with the lights on and Enya playing) are against female submission, and that women are uncomfortable with having power.

Allow me to exercise my feminist power to say this: there's a reason she provides precious little evidence to back up either claim. They're both bunk.

I'll agree with Roiphe on two fronts. First, it's notable that the current craze centers around a story (the one in 50 Shades) that requires our heroine to submit primarily out of love, not out of any kinky desires of her own. Most actual feminists who concern themselves with the sexual realm are focused on creating a world in which all women have genuine agency. We want to create a world where women are free to explore our desires and bodies for our own pleasure, not just use them to bribe men into loving us....

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