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NCSF welcomes our newest Coalition Partner: Adultcon

on Thursday, 28 July 2011. Hits 1546

NCSF welcomes our newest Coalition Partner: Adultcon, produced by Live Entertainment . The next Adultcon event takes place this weekend:

ADULTCON #21
www.adultcon.com
Los Angeles Convention Center - South Hall G

FRIDAY July 29th,  4pm-10pm
SATURDAY July 30th, 1pm-9pm
SUNDAY July 31st, 1pm-6pm

Since 2001, Adultcon has been America's erotic, naughty and provocative adult fan fair and sexual lifestyle expo and convention. Adultcon is where fans go to buy DVD's, products, autographs, photos & meet the porn stars of tomorrow as well as the mega stars of today.
They can also shop for new & exciting adult products and services.

Come see the new Adultcon dungeon featuring “Surrender, Submit & Liberate,” hosted by Femdom Warrior Goddess, Mistress C. and presented by Bordello of Decadence that is included in your Adultcon admission VIPs can enjoy the comfort of the VIP Ultra Boudoir Lounge.

In the dungeon you will enjoy:
Live performances
Classroom demonstrations
Workshops
Femdom Wrestling & Grappling performances
Art
Intricate displays of BDSM & fetish play

The Dungeon merchant stores will offer "show special discounts" on all purchases to those who participate in the Arena's promotion of a FREE trial premium membership. More details will be in the Dungeon's store.

The FWG performers will be available for meet & greet and photo opportunities after or before all performances. Whether you are a novice, newbie or more experienced kinkster, the Adultcon dungeon will offer something for everyone.

And look for the NCSF table at the Adultcon in November! Save the dates:

ADULTCON LAS VEGAS 2011
MIRAGE HOTEL - Ballroom

Thursday, November 3rd
3pm-10pm

Friday, November 4th
3pm-10pm

Saturday, November 5th
3pm-9pm

"Married, With Infidelities"

on Sunday, 17 July 2011. Hits 662

New York Times

... Savage has for 20 years been saying monogamy is harder than we admit and articulating a sexual ethic that he thinks honors the reality, rather than the romantic ideal, of marriage. In Savage Love, his weekly column, he inveighs against the American obsession with strict fidelity. In its place he proposes a sensibility that we might call American Gay Male, after that community’s tolerance for pornography, fetishes and a variety of partnered arrangements, from strict monogamy to wide openness.

Savage believes monogamy is right for many couples. But he believes that our discourse about it, and about sexuality more generally, is dishonest. Some people need more than one partner, he writes, just as some people need flirting, others need to be whipped, others need lovers of both sexes. We can’t help our urges, and we should not lie to our partners about them. In some marriages, talking honestly about our needs will forestall or obviate affairs; in other marriages, the conversation may lead to an affair, but with permission. In both cases, honesty is the best policy.

“I acknowledge the advantages of monogamy,” Savage told me, “when it comes to sexual safety, infections, emotional safety, paternity assurances. But people in monogamous relationships have to be willing to meet me a quarter of the way and acknowledge the drawbacks of monogamy around boredom, despair, lack of variety, sexual death and being taken for granted.”

“Flavor of the Week: Kiss My Ass!”

on Sunday, 17 July 2011. Hits 1608

New York Press

What better way to celebrate and enjoy a beautiful, sunny Father's Day than to trek over to the Folsom Street East festival? The 15th annual event was held this past Sunday in the urban valley of West 28th Street, between 10th and 11th avenues, under the watchful eye of the newly opened section of the High Line park. After all, hanging out during daylight with lots of sexy guys wearing nothing but skimpy scraps of leather, a healthy sprinkling of freaks, a little BDSM in the open air and some beer on tap was lots better than buying Daddy a tie and taking New Jersey transit out for a tedious day with dysfunctional family members. Instead, this celebration of sexual freedom offers what daddies really want: some rubber puppy paws, a plastic tail plug and a rubber dog hood for puppy play sessions.

Although you might think the event caters only to a fringe group, I bumped into a lot of my friends there. "I love leather, and I think this event is one of the sexiest of the year," photographer Rob Ordonez told me. He and his friend, fashion designer Geary Marcello, are regulars and were dressed in typical Folsom Street attire, with matching spiked dog collars, leather straps, face piercings and tattoos.

When I arrived around 3 p.m., the block was crammed with mostly men, a few women (some in leather) and drag queens. And one living blow-up doll: A person encased in a latex mask covering his entire face, who was also wearing black latex—with balloons for tits. I pushed my way through the crowd looking for the press table on the other side of the block and thought about getting a beer ticket for $5 because it was starting to get hot (in more ways than one).

As I expected from photos I'd seen from previous Folsoms, some men were semi-nude and consisted of all different body types, ages and colors. Some wore leather chaps with ample ass hanging out, some wore other bondagetype fashion (harnesses being the most common) and some were just wearing average, everyday clothing. What made the day fun was the sense of adventure and friendliness of the crowd.

The stage shows were emceed by porn star personalities Mike Dreyden (who later participated in the most unique pie-eating contest ever conceived) and Will Clark. Sassy drag queen Peppermint performed and—although there were some wellplaced taunts from the average-looking gawkers on the High Line—it was a feelgood day.

My friend, nightlife photographer Teague Clements, seemed to have a great time. "It was a veritable cornucopia of sexual freedom: leather daddies with their lovers, lesbian doms with their boi slaves, muscular bears walking hand-in-hand," he said. "And every now and then, people just... kissing. And yes, there were straight folks, too."

But of course, kink was the theme. …

"When my wife asked me to hit her"

on Wednesday, 13 July 2011. Hits 1246

Salon

I was scared when she first suggested it. But as we found out what we could handle, I saw how much trust we shared

I got up around seven on my wife's birthday and made her breakfast, as usual. I do all of the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry, buy groceries and run all errands, even for those embarrassing feminine hygiene products. My wife never asked me to shoulder all household chores; I insisted. The arrangement suited both of us perfectly. I always wanted someone to take care of, just as she always wanted someone to take care of her.

While we eat breakfast, it's tradition that we watch "Law & Order: SVU" on Netflix. "Do you want to watch cop-who-rapes-his-wife or little-girl-in-a-coma?" I asked.

My wife chose "cop-who-rapes-his-wife," while I, the sentimental one, opted for "little-girl-in-a-coma." We broke this impasse the same way we make other minor decisions: With a wrestling match.

I know many couples enjoy a bedroom tussle, but when my wife and I grapple, we're out for blood. We bite, scratch, punch and twist each other's limbs into painful pretzels. I am proud to say I am married to a woman who can kick my ass. This is how we are in the bedroom, too, where it's a constant shifting of dominance, rough and wild, neither of us on top for long.

My wife won, finishing me off with a move that would be illegal even in a street fight. I let her get her licks in while she could. Later that day, we were headed to the dungeon. There, I would show her no mercy.

 

"Female accuser in B'klyn 'sex slave' case may not return to testify"

on Thursday, 16 June 2011. Hits 595

NY Post

A Wisconsin woman who was allegedly held as a sex slave in Brooklyn, was suffering "severe" alcohol poisoning when she alleged she was raped — and may not come back to testify, it was revealed today.

John Hopkins was arrested in February after the woman, who had previously had a consensual S&M relationship with him, was found curled in the fetal position and chained to a radiator in his Williamsburg apartment.

But defense lawyer Andrew Stoll said that the woman’s blood alcohol content was two and a half times the legal limit to drive, more than four hours after she went to the hospital, where records noted she was suffering from a "severe degree of [alcohol] poisoning."

The woman has been treated for alcohol dependency and withdrawal and has failed to show up for several court dates, delaying the start of the trial, Stoll said.

Prosecutor Christina Fay said the alleged victim had left town.

"Is she coming back?" asked Brooklyn Supreme Court Justice Patricia DiMango.

There was no answer.

"You don’t know?" DiMango said.

Both sides agree on many of the facts of the case, including a consensual relationship that included a "huge array of what some would consider deviant sexual practices," said DiMango, who is famous for cracking the whip at sullen or disrespectful defendants.

But, the jurist added, "I’m not expert in this area."

Stoll asked DiMango to reduce Hopkins’ $350,000 bail based on the unreliability of the alleged victim.

She initially offered to drop the bail to $200,000 cash or a $350,000 bond, but left the higher bail in effect after Stoll called it "punitive."

DiMango ordered the case back for trial in two weeks and asked Fay whether she would have the alleged victim in court to testify.

Fay, sounding less than confident that she could conjure up the complaint, said, "I will almost make every effort to try."

"Woman who accused man of making her a sex slave is an unreliable alcoholic, prosecutors say"

on Thursday, 16 June 2011. Hits 455

NY Daily News

A woman who accused a Brooklyn man of  making her a sex slave is an alcoholic who went AWOL and isn't ready to testify, lawyers said Wednesday.

For the second time in as many weeks, prosecutors postponed the sensational rape trial of John Hopkins, 45, because his accuser is in rehab and can't be reached.

"This case is profoundly weak," defense lawyer Andrew Stoll said in Brooklyn Supreme Court. "The complainant has now demonstrated her unreliability."

Four hours after lodging the complaint against Hopkins, her blood alcohol level was still two and a half times the legal driving limit, according to medical record that described her condition as a "severe degree of poison."
The 27-year-old Wisconsin woman had admitted to a consensual S&M encounter with Hopkins and an online correspondence until she moved into his Williamsburg apartment in February. She stayed there a week, subjected to a litany of punishment and abuse, before claiming she was raped.

Justice Patricia DiMango - who noted, "I'm not an expert in this area" - said all sides concede the kinky relationship was consensual. The question at trial, she added, was whether the woman ever said "No."

The judge rebuffed Stoll's efforts to reduce Hopkins's $350,000 bail, meaning he remains in jail. She ordered the prosecutor to be ready, witness and all, in two weeks.

"I will most certainly do every effort to try," said assistant district attorney Christina Fay.

"Sex, knitting and Ayn Rand: our favorite offbeat social networks"

on Wednesday, 15 June 2011. Hits 575

Memeburn

There is a mind-boggling array of social networks out there, from Facebook, the king of them all, and the ailing Myspace, all the way through to the ones you don’t know about, which target niche interests such as a love for auteur cinema and an interest in cheese.

Memeburn roamed the world of social networks and picked out eight choice examples, selected for their surprising user numbers, intriguing content and quirky characters. Here they are, in no particular order

Fetlife

Users: 873 369

What is it? FetLife is a social network for people who are into bondage, domination and sadomasochism (BDSM). All kinksters are welcome.

There are a raft of adult-only social networking sites out there, most of which promise free and fast sex and nearly all which have misleading pictures (I’m guessing, honestly). What separates FetLife from other x-rated social-networking sites is that it encourages BDSM enthusiasts to, er, bond before they pull on the leathers and whip out the handcuffs. Even the trussed-up lady on the entry page looks like she’s getting genuine rather than masochistic joy out of being there. ...

"Reality Series About Swingers Headed To TV"

on Tuesday, 31 May 2011. Hits 1283

Deadline

After exploring pot-dealing in suburbia in its dark comedy Weeds, Lionsgate Television is taking on another suburban taboo in a new reality series. Certain to create controversy, Bedroom Community revolves around a group of swingers -- suburban couples who swap partners. Lionsgate shot a presentation for the project, which is now being shopped to cable networks. Bedroom Community is one of the first projects shepherded by reality producer Eli Frankel, who in March signed a two-year deal with Lionsgate. "The world of swingers is mythologized in American pop culture, but very few people outside of it have seen it," Frankel said. And many would be surprised looking in, he said. "What we have seen on shows about swingers are primarily older hippies, fringe people who are a little bit dirty. What we found are elite groups of people in upscale communities who are good-looking and have money and access. That glossy version is much more interesting to watch." ...

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