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"More on Sex Blogger Kendra Holliday's Custody Challenge"

on Thursday, 23 December 2010. Hits 391

Riverfront Times

As we reported last week, Kendra Holliday, the woman behind one of St. Louis' raciest blogs, The Beautiful Kind, is facing what she calls "the worst thing imaginable" since revealing her true identity in a Riverfront Times profile.

Holliday's ex-husband is suing to modify the custody agreement they settled on for their ten-year-old child. They'd been splitting custody half-and-half since their 2003 divorce. ..

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is a Baltimore-based group that advocates on behalf of alternative sexuality. The NCSF's Susan Wright says that the group advises people with alternative preferences when they run across legal challenges based on their identities. They've been aware of Holliday's case for some time now.
The group tracks instances of people seeking their help and advocacy. Over the past few years, Wright says, NCSF logs about 500 such incidents each year, about a third of those concerning divorce and custody issues.

In about half of those, she says, the kinky parent is able to retain custody. "As of about five years ago, it was 80/20," in favor of the non-kinky parent, Wright says. She touts the coalition's outreach, better research and efforts to take kinky sexual behaviors out of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the psychiatric bible that codifies what behaviors should be considered pathological -- and which shouldn't.

"Once you've had child custody challenged, the best way to respond is to gather materials to educate the family court about what the lifestyle is -- that it doesn't involve children, but involves consenting adults and negotiation," says Wright. "We try to take out the element of a person's sexual behavior."

The group also maintains a database of "kink-aware professionals:" lawyers, doctors, psychiatrists and others who are already familiar with BDSM practices and as such won't need to be educated on exactly what their clients are up to, or why. They can provide attorneys with findings in peer-reviewed journals that make clear that consenting adults being rough with one another in the bedroom make just as capable parents as adults who do it missionary-style with the lights off. 

 

"Kendra Holliday, Mom Behind Racy Blog, Sued For Custody"

on Wednesday, 15 December 2010. Hits 1482

Riverfront Times

After revealing her identity in an RFT feature and on her blog, Kendra Holliday expected fallout. After all, the blog she'd maintained anonymously for years, www.thebeautifulkind.com, features an explicit peek into her sex-positive world filled with lovers, sex toys and BDSM.

Right away she found a great deal of support and criticism, both online and in real life -- commenters on our story called her everything from a hero to a whore. Some parents of her child's classmates shunned her. ...

"Tied up in knots"

on Monday, 06 December 2010. Hits 331

Xtra West

What to make of the Human Rights Tribunal's dismissal of a BDSM lifestyler's complaint that the police denied him a chauffeur's permit because of his sexual...

Holiday Handjobs fundraiser for NCSF

on Monday, 06 December 2010. Hits 388

Friday, December 10

7-11pm

Dilboy VFW - Somerville, MA

Holiday Handjobs is more than just a vendor market - it’s a social event, an occasion to meet, booze it up, listen to some cool music, see some neat stuff, and do a little shopping. Our goal is to showcase queer crafters & artists, as well as other underrepresented creative types, cheeky-freaks, freaky-geeks and and create a space where they can show their work and make a few bucks off it. Our 2009 event saw over 450 shoppers and yielded record sales for our more than 20 verndors.

Come join us for a drink at the full bar, and have some fun picking out a little something for both the naughty and the nice on your gift list. You’ll be supporting artists who need support, and you’ll be scoring awesome stuff that you really can’t find anywhere else. And who knows? You may hit the jackpot with our raffle!

A portion of the proceeds from your $2 door donation and raffle ticket sales benefits the National Coalition of Sexual Freedom. Holiday Handjobs has donated over $400 to nonprofits (Spread, 2008 & NELA, 2009).

http://holidayhandjobs.nicearmenianboy.com/about.html

"Swingers: the need for secrecy"

on Monday, 22 November 2010. Hits 311

Creative Loafing Tampa (blog)

Swingers practice a sexual lifestyle that many will never comprehend. Although those who likely damn our lifestyle are the same ones sexting their ...

"Swapping Stories"

on Thursday, 18 November 2010. Hits 314

Pacific Northwest Inlander

An anonymous source exposed a married couple as swingers. Was the Civic Theatre right to fire them? It had been a coup for Yvonne AK Johnson, 

"Fetish Fair Fleamarket"

on Tuesday, 16 November 2010. Hits 343

Houston Press

Members of the leather, fetish and BDSM community from across the country visited Houston this weekend to share their wares and offer workshops on the fetish and BDSM lifestyle in a convention at the Sheraton Brookhollow Hotel. We sent a photographer to check out the booths and the most interesting items for sale. Text in some images may be semi-NSFW. PHOTOS BY GROOVEHOUSE

"Former Dells-area swingers club reopens, then quickly shut down"

on Tuesday, 16 November 2010. Hits 259

Sauk Prairie Eagle

TOWN OF NEW HAVEN - A former swingers club here resurfaced recently as a night club, but was closed down almost as quickly as it opened. ...

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