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"Swingers flock to Gold Coast club in Fifty Shades of Grey frenzy"

on Thursday, 05 July 2012. Hits 778

A NEW swingers club on the Gold Coast is struggling to keep up with demand as erotic novel Fifty Shades of Grey sends couples into a fantasy frenzy.

The Herald Sun

Chateau Vino, the city's only legal swingers club, has 400 members and is growing by eight couples a week, the Gold Coast Bulletin reported.

The club owner, who asked to be known as Michael, said the bestseller - which has been dubbed "mummy porn" - was introducing a different demographic to the adult world.

"The books will definitely boost the industry across the board," he said.

"We have about eight new couples a week coming in. When new clients come we show them around and a lot of women are mentioning the book."

He said the club was not what most people would expect and attracted clients from all walks of life.

"Many people have their own assumptions on what a swingers club is but it is very discreet and classy," he said.

"It is almost like a boutique nightclub and we never reveal identities."

He added, "People would be shocked if they knew who frequented the club. There are men and women from all walks of life. It is a personal and private pastime." ...

"The debate: Is the submissive relationship seen in 50 Shades of Grey degrading to women?"

on Wednesday, 04 July 2012. Hits 1469

The Independent

Since the first in the erotic trilogy was published a year ago, 50 Shades of Grey has sold over 10 million copies. Coined as “mummy porn”, the novel and its sequels have made it to the top three spots in the bestseller charts in the UK and the US.

Not only is the racy novel the best selling e-book of all time, it is also responsible for boosting erotic purchases. Sales of erotic literature and porn magazines have risen by 130 per cent in the last month, while the number of women buying sex toys has more than doubled. VoucherCodesPro.co.uk revealed that the book title was their most searched term – wilth “Sex toy discounts” and “Ann Summers” a close second and third.

If you haven’t yet given in to the currently ubiquitous titillation surrounding the books, the fantasy novels centre on a handsome billionaire, Christian Grey, who seduces a virginal college graduate, Anastastia, into a submissive relationship.

When asked about researching for the book, author E L James responded: “Well, yes, they are my fantasies lived out and ­explored,” she said. “But I don’t know how much detail I want to go into. Um, well, let’s just say I had a very nice time ­researching the book. That’s all I’m going to say. I’m ­actually now blushing.”

Both its success and appeal are apparent, but discussions over what the subtext of the book has to say about modern feminism has come to fruition. It’s been argued that the submissive relationship seen in the book could undermine female equality and sets a negative example to readers.

But does the sadomasochism seen in 50 Shades of Grey degrading to women? Or is purely fantasy, with whichever form of sexual exploration a personal choice to pursue in the bedroom?

Dr Gina Barreca believes that the outdated erotica seen in the novel serves to promote unhealthy ideals of relationships in and out of the bedroom, but Meg Barker argues that the sadomasochism experienced between the two protagonists in the bedroom is far more common that many would like to think. ...

"Fifty Shades of Grey spawns adult toy frenzy"

on Wednesday, 04 July 2012. Hits 1203

Erotic novel Fifty Shades of Grey has prompted thousands of women to hit the sex shops and invest in BDSM toys, says Ann Summers' boss. Goodness gracious, jiggle balls of fire!

Management Today

Erotic novel ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’, written by E.L. James, began as Twilight fan fiction (for those who are neither Team Jacob, nor Team Edward, Twilight is a series of vampire novels, now Hollywood blockbusters). But while having a ready-made fan base of millions may have given the novel a good start, Shades has become a phenomenon in its own right.

This is because Fifty Shades of Grey is no ordinary erotica. Unlike the standard boy-meets-girl fare of the Mills & Boon genre, Shades has shoved its stake firmly into BDSM territory (bondage, domination, sadism and masochism, for the uninitiated). The book has been flying off the shelves since it was published in June last year, selling well over 10 million copies worldwide. And the novel hasn’t just affected ladies’ reading habits, but their purchasing habits too.

Since Fifty Shades of Grey was first published, lingerie and sex toy retailer Ann Summers has seen a massive spike in turnover. Moreover, many of the best sellers are items that feature prominently in the book. Sales of 'jiggle balls' (Google it, and spare MT’s blushes) are up 200%. The firm literally cannot keep up with demand: many stores are sold out the moment a new consignment arrives. All because Anastasia, the central character in Shades, er… uses them once.

And it’s not all about the jiggle balls. Revenue from blindfolds is up 60%, rope ties up 35%, restraints up 15%, leather and metal handcuffs up 30%, paddles up 30%, and finally, the Ann Summers unisex butt plug, which has seen sales surge by a massive 170%. Ann Summers is also having to ramp up its range of erotic novels to satisfy these eager readers, with a 130% uplift in turnover from the channel.

But this is not the first time that mainstream media has affected business at Ann Summers. As CEO Jacqueline Gold explains: ‘The last time I saw this happen was with Sex & The City. The show gave rise to cult product, the Rampant Rabbit, which is now the most famous sex toy in the world.’ ...

NCSF Steps Up for Detroit

on Tuesday, 03 July 2012. Hits 216

NCSF is there to help you when you need it. Just ask the Detroit
BDSM community, who recently came under fire from a local news
affiliate. The NBC Channel 4 Defenders were out to get a sensational
story on Robert Bashara, whose wife was murdered in January, 2012.
Since Bashara's BDSM activities had become public, the Defenders
took concealed cameras in to a local BDSM party to take photographs of
people while they were playing.

Dateline NBC was going to air a show later that week about Bashara
that included his BDSM activities, so there was no possibility of
killing the story. The situation was further acerbated by a member of
the local community who gave an interview to the news stating that she
had seen Bashara at one of the local BDSM parties at the VFW Hall in
Lincoln Park.

The morning of Tuesday, May 8th, NCSF started receiving phone calls
from people who were recognizable in the promotional clip. The story
was going to air at 11pm that night. NCSF Spokesperson Susan Wright
immediately contacted the news station to convince them to adequately
blur the images of the people they had photographed without
permission. She also coordinated a write-in campaign from those who
were recognizable, and communicated directly with several dozen local
community members and leaders.

The added pressure of outraged letters from the community convinced
the reporters to include positive sound bites about BDSM that Susan
provided. They also changed the title of the piece from "Dungeons of
Debauchery" to "Bob Bashara's Alternative Lifestyle." The
images that were recognizable were removed from the website and the
promotional clips that were released later in the day were much more
blurred. The news segment also contained images that were
unrecognizable.

The following week, on May 19th, NCSF hosted a full day's schedule
of events at the VFW in Lincoln Park. NCSF Chairperson Leigha Fleming
ran town hall style meeting for the local BDSM community leadership from 2pm-4pm.
The leadership of more than 20 groups was represented. Leigha gave NCSF's
workshop on how to protect your groups/events for local community leaders.

From 4-6 PM an open town hall for everyone in the community was held so
people could get their questions answered and discuss ways to
further protect the BDSM community and to promote education of those
outside our community. Leigha also gave the NCSF workshop on how an individual can
protect their privacy more effectively. A raffle and silent auction was held to raise
donations for NCSF. 2 organizations joined NCSF as Coalition Partners:
The Board of Education and Deviations. More than 20 individual
members joined NCSF as individual members.

A delicious dinner followed at the VFW Hall. Tim, the host of the
party that was filmed by the news channel, said, "Over the past
week, the VFW has been more supportive than we could have imagined.
The manager of the VFW told us this week 'I fought in a war so that
people could have the freedom to do what they enjoy, even if it's
not our own cup of tea.'"

In pride, the evening's dinner was followed by the regularly
scheduled BDSM party. "This past week has been trying and tense,"
says Tim. "Several have asked where was the silver lining? We have
high hopes that this can be the silver lining. Rarely do we have a
chance to come together for no other reason than it's the right thing
to do. Because we can support one another. If virtual strangers from
organizations and individuals from all across the globe have lent
their words and actions of support, we surely owe it to ourselves to
match it."

NCSF was proud to assist the Detroit BDSM community in their time
of need. It shows what when we work together, we can accomplish
anything.

Kick off the 4th of July and become a freedom fighter by joining NCSF!

on Monday, 02 July 2012. Hits 1566

From July 1st-July 31st, NCSF is having a membership drive!

NCSF is there when you need help, and now NCSF needs you. Join NCSF to keep our important programs alive:

Our Media Outreach program gives media interviews on alt sex, and produces the Media Updates, helps events work with press and media when asked, and responds to negative characterizations about BDSM, swing and poly in the media.

Consent Counts is working to change assault laws and decriminalize BDSM and educate our own communities about consent.

The Educational Outreach Program presents informative presentations around the country on everything from zoning issues for SM groups to child custody and divorce issues.

The Kink Aware Professionals list is free referral list for doctors, mental health professionals, and more.

Incident Reporting and Response program worked with more than 500 people and organizations in 2011 and helps protect events from attacks.


NCSF relies on you! For only $25 per year, you can support the rights of consenting adults.

Join or renew your individual membership at:

https://ncsfreedom.org/get-involved/join.html

Mark Frazier Joins NCSF Board of Directors

on Monday, 02 July 2012. Hits 1763

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is pleased to announce the addition of a new board member, Mark Frazier. Mark will fill an appointed board seat until the 2013 Coalition Partner meeting.

Mark Frazier is the owner and executive producer of the International LeatherSir/Leatherboy and community bootblack contests. He has been involved in the leather and kink lifestyle for over 25 years. He has taught over 1700 workshops on various topics through the years and is a sought after speaker and presenter. Mark has had the privilege of owning nightclubs, holding leather titles (ranging from local to international), holding numerous board positions and memberships on many prominent local and international organizations.


Mark currently resides in Dallas, Texas, where he co-owns the Dallas Eagle. Said Mark, "I have been a supporter of NCSF since its inception. Becoming part of NCSF and working for the organization has been a goal of mine for a long time. I'm excited to be part of NCSF and I intend to be extremely involved in our growing Consent Counts project."

 

NCSF is proud to welcome Mark Frazier to our board of directors!

"Why does Fifty Shades of Grey turn British women on?"

on Sunday, 01 July 2012. Hits 1121

Fifty Shades of Grey is now the fastest selling paperback in history. Its success has generated a debate about sex, fantasy and the nature of desire

The Guardian

When a book sells in the huge numbers that EL James's Fifty Shades of Grey is maintaining this summer, the world must surely be full of people who have enjoyed it and then told their friends.

Fans were certainly quick to defend Dan Brown's The Da Vinci Code as it broke publishing records back in 2003, and Harry Potter addicts, both young and old, have been proud to wave a wand on behalf of JK Rowling's bestsellers since 1997. But what makes the triumph of James's book surprising is that a story involving such a succession of overtly kinky sex scenes can conquer the mainstream publishing market. After all, the plot is so singlemindedly titillating that it makes the unconventional "modern" relationships that leaven Stieg Larsson's Millennium Trilogy read like Charlotte Brontë in comparison.

Last month the first novel in this series telling the story of Anastasia Steele and her obsessive love for a man with a predilection for bondage and domination became the fastest-selling paperback since records began and last week it also became the first ebook to sell more than one million copies. Yet its story pivots on the young heroine's sexual submission to Christian Grey, a millionaire she scarcely knows, who promptly introduces her to his favorite fetishes, as well as to the contents of his "Red Room of Pain".

Sadomasochism has always had its articulate evangelists, from the Marquis de Sade, the 18th-century French libertine and erotic novelist, to Kenneth Tynan, the Observer's illustrious theatre critic, who once argued that spanking was the path to emotional and intellectual freedom. Yet James has managed to get millions of average readers to consider the place of erotic pain in a relationship without even advancing an argument or pretending to any literary merit. The book is "my midlife crisis writ large", Erika Leonard, the middle-aged British woman behind the pseudonym EL James, has recently admitted, adding that she put "all my fantasies in there".

So has James created the latest commercial genre for our age – what the commentator India Knight has called "the porn version of cupcakes and Cath Kidston"? Or does her racy trilogy answer a deeper, unmet need among women readers?

The feminist writer and academic Marina Warner believes the unexpectedly wide appeal of this explicit fiction could be a sign of how difficult people now find it to feel aroused in an era when sex and nudity have become so commonplace. "There has been a general unveiling of the body in our culture and there is a connection between prohibition and arousal," she said. "It is in some way linked to our feelings about the sacred and the profane. I definitely don't want to go back to censorship, but I don't think the answer is to reach for extremes either."

Warner, like the late writer Angela Carter, has a strong interest in the power of myth and folklore. "Women should be allowed to read what they want, and to write what they want, but maybe they should not be so confident that they are not just playing a part in some larger commercial nexus."

The nature of a myth or a fantasy always has something to say about society, she argues. "It is an effect of sexual politics and I don't think it is neutral. In fact, I rather believe in the power of fantasy. We are driven by what we dream and by what we desire and hope for. I don't think fantasy is hermetically sealed from the rest of our lives."

Warner cites Carter's provocative 1979 essay, The Sadeian Woman, as a smart approach to the politics of abusive fantasy. In it the writer suggested provocatively that de Sade merely mirrored honestly the male-dominated hierarchy of his times.

"A book like Fifty Shades of Grey can collude with the status quo, where men are still largely in charge, even though it appears to be playful," says Warner. ...

"Hotels in Seattle and Portland to offer '50 Shades of Grey' getaway packages"

on Saturday, 30 June 2012. Hits 1180

NY Daily News

There appears to be an infinite number of shades of grey as the mega-popular trilogy has spawned a movie, merchandise, BDSM seminars, a worldwide celebration of a fictional character's birthday and, now, a hotel getaway experience. (Photo: Courtesy of The Edgewater Hotel)

The Edgewater Hotel in Seattle, Wa. is now offering a "50 Shades of Romance" package in honor of E.L. James' erotic trilogy.

Guests will stay in one of the hotel’s waterside rooms, and while the package doesn’t include Grey himself, it does pay homage to several elements in the books: Ana's favorite champagne (Bollinger Rose) available in-room, a romantic sailing excursion in Puget Sound, a demo drive in an Audi (Grey's ride of choice), a custom “50 Shades” landmarks map to tour the area in and hard copies of the books themselves on the nightstand to "inspire love."

Thankfully, the hotel does not seem to be providing ropes, whips or any of the other questionable accessories that make several appearances in the novels.

For more than three times the price of The Edgewater’s weekend getaway package, you could go spelunking in Portland, Ore., at The Heathman Hotel, the actual fictional site of Anastasia and Grey’s first romp. The excursion, dubbed the “Charlie Tango” package, includes a variety of appetizers, drinks, private dinner and a helicopter tour of Portland. For a slightly cheaper price of $40, you can get a bottle of wine, a grey tie and a rose in the hotel room. ...

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