ALBANY — An office manager for the state Senate Democrats is moonlighting with her husband to run an erotic dance events business for swingers.
The couple, Janis and Carlos Gonzalez, are the son and daughter-in-law of convicted ex-Bronx state Sen. Efrain Gonzalez.
The two started a company called Capital District Couples Network several years ago to offer couples tired of strip and sex clubs another alternative, Carlos Gonzalez said.
“Why is it different? Because of the fact that there may or may not be people who are into some kind of swinging lifestyle who are coming to it,” he said. “Most people who come to our dance events like to see the girls get close to each other. It’s a little risqué. It’s a little hot. It’s erotic.”
The pair are advertising a red-hot Halloween party at a local Albany hotel a block from the state Capitol on Nov. 3 — just days before Election Day.
According to a website touting the event, it is geared for couples who are “fit, in shape.”
The online invite announces that “The ‘Gods and Goddesses’ of CDCN’s staff (wearing Greek and Roman costumes) invite private members to attend this venue with your sexiest and most naughty costume.”
It urges guests to: “Keep in mind, we’re not putting on a horror show, baby! We’re the sexy crowd, the HOT crowd, the erotic.”
The function is geared toward couples. Single women are allowed — but not single men. ...
Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve heard of E. L. James’s erotic novel Fifty Shades of Grey (it’s sold over 40 million copies). What I’ve noticed is that the voices of a few “shades” of people have been missing from mainstream discourse about the books: namely, Black folks.
The book contains explicit scenes of acts associated with the BDSM lifestyle (bondage, discipline, Dominance/submission and sadomasochism). I’ve often heard brothers and sisters dismiss this…let’s say “alternative” way of life as “something White folks do,” but the fact is African-Americans participate too. Some people of color simply like to push the boundaries of standard or “vanilla” sexual behavior (as it is called in the lifestyle).
In fact, there is a growing community of those of us actively engaging in BDSM. We, too, have proudly chosen to incorporate certain sexually alternative behaviors into our lives that allow us to freely express ourselves and indulge in kinkier pleasurable acts. Black BDSMers see ourselves as different, yes, but different ain’t bad.
WHAT IS BDSM, REALLY?
To go deeper (pardon the pun), BDSM is the broad term for a sexual lifestyle wherein informed adults discuss, negotiate and consent to their roles and participation in activities generally based on hierarchical relationships. Generally, two people come together and establish a dynamic where one person is the dominant partner (or the “top”) and the other is the submissive partner (the “bottom”) in anything from a one-time-only enactment of kinky “scenes” to lifelong partnerships. ...
Police raided home of man who revealed Mountie's naked bondage photos
The RCMP are using extraordinary measures to silence a critic who outed an officer posting naked bondage photos of himself online, according to the B.C. Civil Liberties Association.
Grant Wakefield says he and his wife were terrorized by police during a raid on their home this past August. The raid was executed after Wakefield provided police with evidence RCMP Cpl. Jim Brown had posted several bondage-type photos of himself on social media websites for people with sexual fetishes.
In some of the photos Brown was wearing RCMP riding boots while posed in sex acts with women in submissive positions. That eventually triggered a code of conduct investigation of Brown.
Using the warrant they raided Wakefield's home and seized his computers and cellphones.
Extraordinary powers misused
Now the B.C. Civil Liberties Association is accusing the RCMP of misusing their powers to silence critics.
BCCLA executive director David Eby points out any private citizen who has been defamed must sue in civil court, but only police can use the rare criminal charge of defamatory libel.
"They're using this very rare provision, they're using such extraordinary measures that we don't see in other situations and he's a critic of the RCMP, and we say it's a fair question to ask," said Eby.
Last month the RCMP did release a version of the information filed to obtain the search warrant, but significant parts of the information were blacked out on 55 of the 71 pages released.
Now Eby is asking the court to release an uncensored version of the document.
"The RCMP should be extra transparent in a situation like that and instead they're being extra secretive," said Eby.
Both the CBC and the Vancouver Sun newspaper were also in court this week seeking the release of the full document, arguing the case begs for public scrutiny as to whether the RCMP acted appropriately.
Censored warrant reveals some details
What the censored version of the information used to obtain the search warrant does reveal is that Wakefield was working with the RCMP to provide photos and information to police about Brown's online activities and photos posted on sexual fetish websites.
But then after Brown's activities were revealed in the media, the investigators turned their attention to Wakefield, accusing him of defamatory libel after he posted comments and tweets critical of Brown and the RCMP on a Twitter account that had only 13 followers.
The document says many of the online comments and tweets alleging criminal and other inappropriate behaviour by Brown are false....
A man who claims he was an RCMP agent says he collected information and sexually explicit photographs that Coquitlam Mountie Cpl. Jim Brown posted of himself on the Internet.
In an affidavit filed in court describing himself as “not a mere informant” but “an agent” directed by the force, Grant Wakefield says he provided the RCMP with that material and accused Cpl. Brown of engaging in sex while on duty and being involved in bondage- and domination-themed websites.
The RCMP found no evidence of criminal wrongdoing, but concluded “allegations of professional misconduct appear to be supported.”
The RCMP said Cpl. Brown has been suspended since July.
On Aug. 18, the Mounties raided Wakefield’s home and seized his computers.
Along with the B.C. Civil Liberties Association and media outlets, the New Westminster man is asking the court to unseal the information police used to obtain the controversial warrant to invade his apartment.
He portrays himself in his affidavit as a police agent whose message the RCMP has gone to great lengths to suppress.
A vetted version of a 71-page document sworn by Surrey RCMP Const. Phia Huffman to obtain the search warrant was released Sept. 21.
The vetting was done in part to conceal the identity of a confidential informant labelled in the document as “Informant A.”
But Wakefield wants to see an unedited version because, among other things, he believes he is the person referred to as “Informant A” in that material who is used to buttress the request for the search warrant.
Wakefield’s affidavit and the full day of arguments before Judge Peder Gulbransen laid out an extraordinary sequence of events focused on Cpl. Brown and the response of the national police agency.
Wakefield said in his affidavit that he believes he was “erroneously characterized” as a confidential informant though “I was acting at the direction of the RCMP at all times relevant to this proceeding and was not a mere informer.”
Liliane Bantourakis, a lawyer representing the RCMP, maintained that the RCMP does not consider Wakefield an agent.
In January or February, Wakefield said, “a distant family friend” contacted him after meeting a man who called himself the “Kilted Knight” on a dating site, Plenty of Fish.
She asked Wakefield to make inquiries.
Trolling Internet sites such as Twitvid, Twitpic and Fetlife.com, Wakefield said he found a number of disturbing images depicting a man called the Kilted Knight wearing the high brown boots of the traditional RCMP uniform and little else. ...
Emily and Griff, as they are known within the swinging community, tell us that swingers are the everyday folk you see around town. From teachers to Home Depot clerks, you never know who's got a "secret sex life." Plus, what do Emily and Griff think constitutes cheating?
Adventures in Sexuality raised over $4,000 for NCSF at their COPE conference in Columbus, Ohio (Sept 14-16). Along with a Special Drawing and table donations, the "COPE Grand Prize Auction" received 2 separate donations of $1,800 each from the auction winners! All of the funds went to NCSF, with AIS donating over $2,300 in prizes: 3 Winter Wickedness tickets, 2 nights hotel rooms, 6 meals and 1 piece of AIS Kink Labs furniture to each of the 2 winners.
NCSF gives a big thanks Barak, Sheba and everyone at AIS for putting together a fabulous event. WE also thank them for hosting NCSF Board Members Mercury and Julian Wolf so they could spread the word about NCSF projects and programs that help kinky people. It really shows that size doesn’t matter when it comes to passionate support for NCSF! You can find out more about AIS at: http://www.adventuresinsexuality.org/
A Pennsylvania appeals court has overturned a trial court order giving custody of two children to their maternal grandparents rather than their father. The trial court penalized the father for his past polyamorous relationship. The case, V.C. and C.B. v. J.E.B. and C.C., is the first one I can remember using the phrase "polyamory" or discussing the practice without prejudgment.
The father, C.C., and the mother, J.E.B., never married. The two resided with the mother's husband, and the three had a polyamorous relationship. In June 2007, when the children, A.B. and Z.B., were approximately two and three years old, the older child sustained a spiral fracture to her leg, prompting an abuse investigation by the New Jersey Department of Youth and Family Services. While the investigation was pending, the children were placed with the mother's parents. Although the agency determined there was no abuse in about six months, the children remained with their grandparents another nine months, until September 2008.
Sometime in 2007, another woman joined the polyamorous relationship. The father married that woman and had a daughter with her. When A.B. and Z.B. returned to their parents, they lived with all four adults until the four-way polyamorous relationship ended and the father and his wife moved to an adjoining apartment in the same building and, in April 2010, to a new home, still walking distance from the mother's home. The mother and father shared legal custody, rotated physical custody, and gave the grandparents partial custody (otherwise known as visitation) on alternating weekends.
In February 2011, the grandparents filed a petition that either they or the mother receive primary custody. This prompted the father to file for shared legal custody with the mother and primary physical custody with him, and for the mother to request primary physical custody with her. After a December 2011 trial, the judge awarded primary physical custody and sole legal custody to the grandparents, with two non-consecutive days of visitation to the mother and the father monthly.
The father appealed. (The mother did not file an appeal but she did file a brief asking that the trial court order be overturned.) The appeals court emphasized the high burden of proof on the grandparents. In fact, this case reminded me of several cases in the 1970 and 80s in which lesbian mothers lost custody to their own parents, the children's paternal grandparents, or other relatives. (The most publicized such case actually happened in the early 1990s, when Sharon Bottoms lost custody of her son Tyler to her mother....More on another similarity to that case later). The court said the grandparents needed overcome by clear and convincing evidence the presumption in favor of the father, and that the trial court was wrong to find they had sustained that burden.
The appeals court said the judge interjected "artificial morality concerns" into its determination, something not permitted by the list of factors in the custody statute. Although the trial judge claimed otherwise, the appeals court found that the judge's "general disfavor of polyamory" played a role in the decision. At the time of the trial the father was no longer in a polyamorous relationship. They appeals court noted that "while ultimately unsuccessful, his former experimentation with that lifestyle did not harm the children and does not currently affect the children negatively." The appeals court called polyamory "a nontraditional sexual practice," but considered it analogous to other cases in which a parent's previous sexual conduct was found irrelevant absent evidence of harm to the child.
Sex figured into this case in another way. The trial court considered the father's wife's friendship with a professional dominatrix and her blog post in which she described herself as a "closet poly." The appeals court found that "the trial court's preoccupation with these morality issues is improper, particularly where, as here, there is a dearth of evidence to suggest that the sexual practices affected the children at all." ...
KANSAS CITY, Mo. (AP) — The details of consensual sex that occurred between a man and his wife should not be used as evidence that the man sexually abuses women, a defense attorney in a southwest Missouri sex slave case said in court documents filed this week.
"Because the government will allege these are bad acts committed against Marilyn, it will cast Edward Bagley as a bad actor and Marilyn Bagley incorrectly as a victim," Dill wrote.
Ed Bagley, 45, and Marilyn Bagley, 47, are scheduled to stand trial in February on several charges, including sex trafficking, forced labor trafficking, document servitude and use of an interstate facility to facilitate unlawful activity. The charges involve a woman who prosecutors say was 16 years old when she moved into the couple's trailer near Lebanon, Mo., in 2002 and was forced to be Ed Bagley's sex slave.
He is accused of giving her drugs, sexually abusing her while she was a minor and torturing her after she turned 18.
The Bagleys claim the woman came to them and asked to be part of their kinky lifestyle, while the government says Ed Bagley started grooming the woman to be his sex slave while she was still a minor, which would be illegal.
In August, prosecutors filed a motion indicating they plan to introduce evidence of "sadistic sexual assaults" committed by Bagley against his wife. While acknowledging those sex acts were consensual, prosecutors cited Missouri law that says consent is not a defense against abuse when serious bodily injury is involved.
The Bagleys were involved in bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism, or BDSM, in which extreme or even bizarre sex acts are part of the lifestyle. Federal prosecutors contend many of the acts amount to torture, especially when performed on the girl.
The case is being closely watched by BDSM advocates, who argue that the government has no business telling people what they can do in their bedrooms, no matter how shocking some of the acts may be to non-practitioners. ...