Riverfront Times Kendra Holliday is a total slut. Go right ahead and say it — she does. She's not hiding from it anymore.
In some ways, she's always been honest about it. She's unflinchingly blogged every detail of her sex life for years — she's a bisexual, polyamorous, joyously partnered divorced mother, living and writing and fucking (and yeah, it's a lot of fucking) in St. Louis. Her blog, www.thebeautifulkind.com, details all of it. It has made her into a celebrity of sorts. It has cost her a job. She's called it her second partner.
But she's been hiding in plain sight, going to great pains to conceal her name, face and identity on the blog — even as she exhorts her readers to "be open and honest." The blog has become a safe space for sex-positive readers in St. Louis and all over the world to come together. It's created a virtual community, and Holliday and some of her kinky friends want to take that momentum and push the Midwest forward into greater sexual freedom and openness.
And it's hard to do that when you're hiding. So Holliday is coming out. ... The situation is definitely complicated. Susan Wright of the Baltimore-based National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, a nonprofit that helps protect the rights of people with alternative sexual interests, applauds Holliday's decision to out herself.
"When people knew people who were gay and were able to think of them as their friends and family, they could think of them outside the stereotype," she says. "We need to get the help of the bulk of Americans who really don't care about other peoples' sex lives, so we can fight against the people who want to legislate morality." But Wright, along with others, can see the point in staying hidden.
"I would use as a caveat: If you are a parent of a child under eighteen, don't come out," Wright says. "You could have a great relationship with your ex — once you go public, they could get blowback from people in their lives and try to get custody. I would discourage it, but I admire it and support her wholeheartedly."
The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is coming to San Francisco!
Please join us for an enlightening evening of discussion of NCSF’s Consent Counts project to decriminalize BDSM. You’ll find out about the state of the law regarding BDSM and consent and how you can help support this important national project.
Judy Guerin, NCSF Consent Count’s Director & Richard Cunningham, Esq., NCSF Consent Counts Advisor
Appetizers, wine & other beverages provided
Tuesday, October 19, 2010 at 7:30
The Law Offices of Alex Austin & Shannan Rapoport 799 Castro Street San Francisco, CA. 94114
Please RSVP to Judy Guerin at
Richard O. Cunningham, B.S., M.A., J.D., has advocated for over 30 years on issues of gender, race and sex. He has played a leading role in landmark legal cases, including being the supervising attorney on the Supreme Court Case regarding women in military academies and the initiating attorney for the lawsuit during the Vietnam War that resulted in equal media political coverage. He has served as chair of the boards of both the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom Foundation (NCSF) and the Woodhull Freedom Foundation. He is senior international trade partner at Steptoe & Johnson, LLP in Washington, D.C. Dick is currently advising on legal and policy aspects of the NCSF Consent Counts initiative.
Judy Guerin is a well-known activist, writer, speaker and educator on issues of sexual freedom and gender expression and has been dedicated to activism on these issues for over 30 years. She is a long-time member of the BDSM/leather/fetish community and currently directs the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom’s Consent Counts Project to decriminalize BDSM. She is the former Executive Director of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom and a former board member of the Woodhull Freedom Foundation and GenderPAC. She is a former steering committee member of the National Policy Roundtable of GLBT & HIV/AIDS groups and an advisor to the European Union on issues of sexual freedom, gender expression and GLBT issues.
In an indictment rendered by a Grand Jury in the Western District of Missouri on September 9, 2010, five Missouri men allegedly participated in torturing a mentally disabled woman online or in person over a multi-year period when the victim was between the ages of 16 and 24. Among the charges are: Sex Trafficking by Force, Fraud or Coercion, Forced Labor Trafficking, Transportation for Sexual Activity, and Conspiracy. The allegations involve sex with a minor, drug and firearms possession, forced prostitution, sexual abuse, and torture to the point that the victim suffered a heart attack.
These activities should not be confused with consensual BDSM. People who engage in BDSM and other similar activities do so as consenting adults and in a safe, sane, and consensual manner. BDSM activities are not violent specifically because all participants can stop any time they wish. Millions of people engage in BDSM: according to the Kinsey Institute's New Report on Sex, between 5-10% of the adult population engages in BDSM on at least an occasional basis.
NCSF strongly condemns criminals who commit violence and engage in non-consensual activities. We encourage the media to remember that the large community of consenting adults who engage in BDSM activities should not be conflated with these alleged crimes. Ordinary people do BDSM – parents, co-workers, friends, and neighbors. But because of the stigma against BDSM, most people are closeted and don't speak out about their interests because they fear condemnation and discrimination.
The NCSF is committed to creating a political, legal and social environment in the US that advances equal rights for consenting adults who engage in alternative sexual and relationship expressions. The NCSF aims to advance the rights of, and advocate for consenting adults in the BDSM-Leather-Fetish, Swing, and Polyamory Communities. We pursue our vision through direct services, education, advocacy, and outreach, in conjunction with our partners, to directly benefit these communities.
As part of NCSF's website re-design, we've put together a fairly comprehensive survey that is designed to get the most feedback we can from the various people who visit our website. We need to know if the information and resources that NCSF offers is readily available to everyone.
There is also a Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) survey that will determine how NCSF can improve this important free directory. Both surveys will last from September 6-13: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/NCSFWeb
...NCSF (National Coalition for Sexual Freedom) had the motto: “Your rights, your privacy, your freedom,” and “Kinky is not a diagnosis.” Judy Guerin explained NCSF (ncsfreedom.org) is a national advocacy and lobbying organization dedicated to advancing and protecting the sexual freedom rights of kinksters. “We are currently working to decriminalize BDSM, which is still routinely prosecuted throughout parts of the United States,” she said. They have dealt with 106 criminal prosecutions through their hotline last year. “We are also working to change the BDSM criteria of the American Psychiatric Association so we will no longer be categorized as mentally ill,” she said. They can provide references to kink-friendly doctors and lawyers as well.
Celebrate TABU's 4th Annual Fundraiser for the NCSF, an amazing event for a wonderful cause taking place in Catonsville, Maryland on July 23rd. All proceeds from this event including 100% of the visit fees are being directly donated to the National Coalition of Sexual Freedom.
Everyone will have tons of sexy fun and kinkiness in club TABU for a GREAT cause! British Paul will be setting up BDSM demos and we will of course have all the fun that TABU Social Club is so well known for! Come enjoy the infamous TABU live auction featuring:
Trips to Hedo II, 1 year access passes to TABU worth over of $4,500, Redskins tickets and other amazing prizes. TABU is still taking donations so if anyone is still interested PLEASE contact Vicki at
Remember TABU membership is not required for the NCSF Fundraiser, and the club is open to various different lifestyle groups from the Swingers Lifestyle, Kinky, GLBTQ and BDSM communities. You can prepay your tickets in advance by going to:
Vicki and Rick, owners of TABU commented, “We are so excited about this year’s NCSF Annual Fundraiser at TABU. We're not sure if we are more excited about all the fun, hot, sexy and kinky stuff or just working with British Paul this year. This year’s auction is just going to be the fantastic and we have already received some wonderful donations with 2 Trips to Hedo II and of course we are tossing in several Year Visit passes to TABU. “
Said Board President Leigha Fleming, “TABU has a long history of supporting NCSF and being involved in NCSF. We are extremely grateful for their support.”
Rick and Vicki continued, “We always enjoy helping those that help us. Hope to see everyone for another unforgettable event, where consenting adults in the BDSM, Leather, Fetish, Swing, Polyamory and GLBTQ communities join for one GREAT cause and all Give Back to the NCSF for the night."
TABU is located in Catonsville, Baltimore County, with easy access right off the Baltimore Beltway at 1115 N Rolling Road, Catonsville, MD 21228.
If you join NCSF as a new or renewing member at the TABU on 7/23, your membership monies will be matched by an anonymous donor!