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Susan Wright on the Battle Ahead

on Thursday, 08 October 2009. Hits 957

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"Susan Wright, founder of the NCSF"

Klawdya: What affect do you think Marriage Equality will have on issues that face NCSF’s constituents?

Susan: As more states embrace the right for all adults to marry the partner of their choice, the gay rights movement is accomplishing the goal of eliminating discrimination based on sexual orientation. The next milestone is the right to openly be in the military. This is important for the sexual freedom movement-- we have always taken cues from the gay rights movement, we learn from their strategies and rely on their help when attacked- their progress ensures our own.

Sadly, traditional gay rights groups don't defend sexual freedom. Many decided to leave the issue of sex behind as they fought for equal rights. So we have our own un-trodden path to walk. If you have sex differently than the mainstream you are at risk – whether hetero, gay, bi or other. We are the next battlefield, we are already fighting the fight, whether we like it or not, NCSF will be largely on our own because no other organization is dedicated to protecting BDSM, swing and poly practitioners.

KR: Who do you think opposes us the most? Religious or Political groups?

SW: The sexual freedom movement continues to be attacked by religious political extremists and political conservatives. Politicians on both sides of the aisle make hay when a sexual scandal arises. Things that should be private – like extra-marital affairs – are actively used to discredit individual politicians, even parties. Find a politician who will stand up for sexual freedom, and I'll work on their next campaign. As far as I know, there isn't anyone out there.

But our real enemies are the religious political extremists. These people rely on stirring the pot to raise money and gain prestige for their groups. They seek out our events, sneak in to take photos, and compare us to pedophiles and predators – when in reality it is our constituents who are the victim of their tactics. They run boycotts on businesses that support our events, inciting sensationalized media against private events. Its a fight, but NCSF is discrediting these individuals and tiny organizations run by the handful of people who claim to represent the majority of America. As long as they continue to slander, we have to be vigilant.

KR: You recently stated that some of our biggest threats may be within our community, the “Dangerous Insiders”. Can you elaborate?

SW: Yes, one of our biggest threats is the dangerous insider. Sadly, our own don't realize the damage they do to our community as a whole when they publicly attack each other and our groups. I know some may have a legitimate gripe with an individual or group, and feel their problems haven’t been dealt with as they should. But when one of our own complains to the media or the authorities, they don’t address the real issue, instead they attack our entire community. The negative publicity outweighs any good they may feel would be accomplished.

One example was a member of a BDSM group who wasn't allowed to send a message to the entire group complaining about board practices. He filed in court for a membership list. It didn't matter whether or not he had a legitimate complaint – the members freaked because they would be outed if their information were released to this person. This would have meant lost jobs, child custody, and worse. One angry self-righteous person threatened an entire group until the court settled the issue and denied the list to this dangerous insider.

Another case, in NYC, was a woman who went to the District Attorney to video tapes her former master made of their scenes after he refused to give them to her. The DA raided his apartment and found her tapes and also tapes of other scenes, some which were extreme, and the DA decided to arrest and try him for assault even though it was clearly consensual. NCSF with local gay groups and an agreeable politician coordinated a huge effort to force the DA to back down. It would have been disaster if that big public trial determined, for example, that caning to blood was illegal! Good thing we had the organizational resources or else this incident (which few have heard about) would have been front page news for months and affected all BDSM activity in NY for decades. The sub was very upset by the chaos she carelessly created, so much so that she submitted a letter to the DA asking them to NOT pursue the case further.

KR: What can the community do to strengthen and arm ourselves?

SW: We are already defending ourselves successfully. We have to assess each incident, and seek ways to stop religious extremists in their tracks. We have to do the leg work to make sure that hotels and authorities understand our sexual practices, so we can have social spaces and educate our community. We have to be vigilant, on-call every moment, as NCSF is. The NCSF is "kinky insurance" – if the community doesn't help, we may not be there when you need us.

KR: What are the landmarks of hope we can claim and expect?

SW: The success of the gay rights movement indicates we are winning. Privacy rights are more respected than the old "moral majority" which tries to dictate what people can and can't do in their own homes. Americans seem to agree that adults should be able to do what they want as long as it doesn't harm anyone and is consensual. It's a fight every step but we are winning.

Please help NCSF continue our hard work by becoming a member and donating to support our efforts.

NCSF Condemns the Atlanta Police Department

on Wednesday, 16 September 2009. Hits 1134

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

NCSF Condemns the Atlanta Police Department's Raid on the Eagle

September 15, 2009 - On September 10th, the Atlanta Eagle was raided by local police who used excessive force and voiced anti-gay slurs while handcuffing 62 patrons and 8 employees, forcing them to lie face-down on the floor for over an hour. The strong use of force included the presence of the "Red Dog unit" which typically deals with crimes such as gang violence.

Atlanta Police Chief Richard Pennington held a press conference yesterday afternoon stating that the gay leather bar was raided because of anonymous complaints that came through the mayor's office. One undercover officer stated in a September 11th report following the raid that it was the "conclusion of a several week investigation involving indecency and the club was providing adult entertainment without the proper permits to do so."

"It's a clear violation of the civil rights of those who were detained without cause," says Susan Wright, NCSF Spokesperson. "Instead of making an arrest at the time of the alleged offense, the Atlanta vice squad spent many hundreds of thousands of dollars in taxpayer's money to raid the gay leather bar and persecute Atlanta citizens."

NCSF demands a full probe into the alleged misconduct and the allocation of resources by the Atlanta police department. NCSF also joins state and local representatives in urging anyone present the night of the arrests to step forward and file a formal complaint. Please contact NCSF for additional assistance to ensure that this matter is investigated in an open process.

A rally on Sunday at the Eagle drew a large presence in support of the victims by the LGBT community. Another rally is tentatively scheduled for Saturday, September 19, 2009.

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF)

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is committed to creating a political, legal, and social environment in the United States that advances the equal rights of consenting adults who practice forms of alternative sexual and relationship expression. NCSF advances the rights and advocates for consenting adults in the SM-Leather-Fetish, swing, and polyamory communities. We pursue our vision through direct services, education, advocacy, and outreach in conjunction with our partner organizations to directly benefit these communities.

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

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Consent Counts- Serving You, Moving Ahead

on Tuesday, 11 August 2009. Hits 1611

NCSF is pleased to announce the addition of the “Consent Counts” project to our major programs. Consent Counts is a community-wide project that was launched in 2007 at a Leather Leadership Roundtable hosted by NCSF at the Creating Change conference.

Consent Counts is focused on the decriminalization of BDSM. This was determined to be the number one priority for the BDSM/Leather communities at this meeting and the subsequent town hall meeting held at the Leather Leadership Conference.

It was decided that a steering committee should be formed that included representatives of national advocacy groups as well as other key individuals. An extensive survey was conducted to gain community input-- which also provided a basis for further planning.

It was recently determined that in order to serve this critical sexual freedom project that one of the national groups involved needed to take primary responsibility for it; because of the history of the origin of the project NCSF was the logical choice. The program will be directed by Judy Guerin, the former Executive Director of the NCSF, and long-time sexual freedom and gender expression activist.

“We are very excited to have this community-wide project as one of our major programs and a central area of focus,” stated Leigha Fleming, Chairperson of NCSF Board of Directors. “This is a major priority for the BDSM and Leather communities, and NCSF is pleased and proud to be able to take the leadership role.”Picture1

For more information on Consent Counts, or to volunteer, please visit:

http://www.consentcounts.org

To contact Judy Guerin, email her at” JUDY.

For resources like the workshop discussion guide: http://consentcounts.org/resource.html

To download  stickers/Banners like the one above click: http://consentcounts.org/PDFs/gotconsent_stickers.pdf

Incident Response- Policy and Clarifcation

on Tuesday, 21 July 2009. Hits 714

Incident Response was created to provide assistance to individuals and groups within the alternative sexual expression communities. If you engage in SM/fetish, swing or polyamory and are being persecuted or discriminated against the NCSF may be able to help you. If your group or business is being harassed or if you need help doing outreach to local law enforcement, the NCSF may also be able to assist you.

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF)’s Incident Response (IR) Program uses three primary criteria for taking a case:

1. The issue must openly, directly, and specifically relate to BDSM, swing or poly activities between consenting adults; in other words, the problems you face must relate to or be caused from your involvement in BDSM, swing or poly without question.

2. The issue must be one whose outcome or precedent could potentially affect a significant number of people with the same, or similar, problem.

3. The incident needs to have a reasonable chance of a successful resolution; usually indicating that the individual filing has not also been found guilty of a crime other than behaviors currently considered illegal relating to BDSM, swing or poly.

Unfortunately, due to limited resources the NCSF is only able to take a fraction of the cases that come to us.

Many of the complaints we receive do not meet one, or several, of the above criteria. Even under the best circumstances, NCSF can only help a small percentage of those who approach us. All of our work is done by volunteers and we accept no payment for our services, but we are happy to receive donations earmarked specifically for use in the IR Program-- make sure you note "Incident Response" in the comment box if you want to restrict your donation. We do provide basic information as resources allow and refer to professionals in our Kink Aware Professionals database.

The criteria for acceptance was developed to meet the primary concerns of our voting constituencies, our Coalition Partners. When the NCSF agrees to take a case the impact can be realized by all of our constituents as a whole and therefore it is up to the policies set in motion by NCSF Coalition Partners to decide whether existing resources allow for a case to be handled effectively.

IR Page: http://tinyurl.com/IncidentResponse

IR overview: http://tinyurl.com/IROverview

Incident Response was created to provide assistance to individuals and groups within the alternative sexual expression communities. If you engage in SM/fetish, swing or polyamory and are being persecuted or discriminated against the NCSF may be able to help you. If your group or business is being harassed or if you need help doing outreach to local law enforcement, the NCSF may also be able to assist you.



The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF)’s Incident Response (IR) Program uses three primary criteria for taking a case:



1. The issue must openly, directly, and specifically relate to BDSM, swing or poly activities between consenting adults; in other words, the problems you face must relate to or be caused from your involvement in BDSM, swing or poly without question.


2. The issue must be one whose outcome or precedent could potentially affect a significant number of people with the same, or similar, problem.



3. The incident needs to have a reasonable chance of a successful resolution; usually indicating that the individual filing has not also been found guilty of a crime other than behaviors currently considered illegal relating to BDSM, swing or poly.



Unfortunately, due to limited resources the NCSF is only able to take a fraction of the cases that come to us.



Many of the complaints we receive do not meet one, or several, of the above criteria. Even under the best circumstances, NCSF can only help a small percentage of those who approach us. All of our work is done by volunteers and we accept no payment for our services, but we are happy to receive donations earmarked specifically for use in the IR Program-- make sure you note "Incident Response" in the comment box if you want to restrict your donation. We do provide basic information as resources allow and refer to professionals in our Kink Aware Professionals database.



The criteria for acceptance was developed to meet the primary concerns of our voting constituencies, our Coalition Partners. When the NCSF agrees to take a case the impact can be realized by all of our constituents as a whole and therefore it is up to the policies set in motion by NCSF Coalition Partners to decide whether existing resources allow for a case to be handled effectively.



IR Page: http://tinyurl.com/IncidentResponse



IR overview: http://tinyurl.com/IROverview




Bylaws Revision and Budget!

on Monday, 20 July 2009. Hits 2553

(info taken from the BIG BIG Summer Newsletter.  For full Newsletter CLICK HERE)

In an interest for more transparency and to include the public and our constituency in our process, we are publishing out budget and bylaws revision on our blog and newsletter.  We hope to engage you, our community in our work, both to encourage you to become involved in the fight for sexual freedom, but also to let you knwo that the fight is being fought, and that we are here backing you all every step of the way.

Bylaws Revised SUMMARY:

Article VI

Sec. 3: Voting Partners are now called “Coalition Partners”, and are required to have dues current.

Sec 6. Members must be current on dues to be a Coalition Partner.

Article VII

Sec 3. The new joint board has 13 Directors on the Board. 9 of these are elected by CPs, and 4 are appointed by the elected Board.

Sec. 4.  Appointed Board members are elected annually, by majority vote of the Board of Directors, with a term lasting one year-- successive terms is allowed.

Sec. 5.  Elected seats on the board will always be elected at the next annual meeting, and appointed seats on the board will always stay appointed.

Sec. 6.  A person on the Board of     Directors can be removed at any Board Meeting, where there is quorum, and an affirmative vote of at least 60%.

Sec. 8.  The Chairman of the Board must be an elected member of the board.

Article IX

Sec. 1.  Voting Members is again changed to Coalition Partners.

Budget:



budget As you can see, every dollar counts!  We've made some significant cuts, and shifted around how we spend the little money that we have.  Please help the NCSF-- with your support we can better the serve the community THAT MEANS YOU!  No donation too small.  Every donation is another person we can help when it matters most.

YOUR RIGHTS-- YOUR PRIVACY-- YOUR FREDOM

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom




Article VI


Sec. 3: Voting Partners are now called “Coalition Partners”, and are required to have dues current.



Sec 6. Members must be current on dues to be a Coalition Partner.



Article VII


Sec 3. The new joint board has 13


Directors on the Board. 9 of these are elected by CPs, and 4 are appointed by the elected Board.



Sec. 4. Appointed Board members are elected annually, by majority vote of the Board of Directors, with a term lasting one year-- successive terms is allowed.



Sec. 5. Elected seats on the board will always be elected at the next annual meeting, and appointed seats on the board will always stay appointed.



Sec. 6. A person on the Board of Directors can be removed at any Board Meeting, where there is quorum, and an affirmative vote of at least 60%.



Sec. 8. The Chairman of the Board must be an elected member of the board.



Article IX


Sec. 1. Voting Members is again changed to Coalition Partners.




May Tickler:Annual Meeting and more!

on Tuesday, 02 June 2009. Hits 1550

Hello All!

It looks like some of the information about the annual meeting got truncated! Here's ALL of the information you need about the annual meeting:

Our annual meeting is just around the corner, June 6 and 7th in Dallas, TX.

Lots of information is packed in this email. Please read all of it! Please email Leigha at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it if you have any questions. Alternatively, you can call her cell phone at 443-280-0457.

Here is what you will find in this update:

1- hotel info

2- tentative annual meeting agenda

The annual report and committee reports will be available after the meeting.

HOTEL INFORMATION:

We will have the annual meeting in Dallas, TX at the Marriott Residence Inn at the DFW Airport. The address is:

Marriott Residence Inn

8600 Esters Blvd

Irving, TX 75063

Ph: 972.871.1331

Ph: 972 574 8888 for airport shuttle pick up

The hotel url is:

http://www.marriott.com/hotels/travel/dfwra-residence-inn-dallas-dfw-airport-north-irving/

We’ve gotten a terrific deal - $89 a night plus tax for either a one bedroom or a studio suite.

Studio Suites: use code: NCSNCSB

One Bedroom Suites: use code: NCSNCSA

The hotel serves a complimentary hot buffet breakfast 7 days per week. There is shuttle service between the hotel and the DFW airport.

Dallas/Fort Worth - DFW

1- Hotel direction: 3 miles N

2- Driving Directions from DFW: Take the North airport exit. Look for exit Hwy 114 East. Proceed on Hwy 114 East Exit Esters Blvd. Turn left. Hotel is on your right about 1 mile. Complimentary Shuttle hours are 8AM-10PM Monday through Friday; Weekend courtesy shuttle is limited; call hotel for more information on weekend shuttle services.

3- Airport shuttle service, on request, complimentary (call Phone: 1 972 574 8888)

If anyone experiences a message that they can not book online, have them contact the hotel directly and we will identify the problem on this end. If you plan to stay Thursday and/or Sunday nights as well, please contact the hotel directly to book as they will not be able to book it online.

TENTATIVE AGENDA:

Friday June 5th –

BBQ Cookout poolside at 8pm at the hotel!

Saturday June 6th

9:30am-9:45am – Welcome

9:45am-10:30am – Ice Breaker & Introductions

10:30am-12:30am – Year in Review Reports

- Message from the Chair

- KAP Report

- Media Report

- Communications Report

- Marketing (CP Stewardship is here)

- Membership

- Outreach

12:30pm-1:30pm – We will provide a working lunch.

We will have speakers in from various Dallas metro area groups and the new IML will stop by!

1:30pm-1:45pm – Break

1:45pm-3:00pm– Year in Review Reports (continued)

- IT Report (including Salesforce)

- Marketing & CP Stewardship

- Incident Response

- Development Report

- 2008 Financial Review and 2009 to date.

3:00-4:15pm - Break Out Groups – Where are we going??

4:15pm-5:00pm – Wrap up break out groups & adjourn

Saturday Evening-

$20.00

7pm -9pm

Munch invite by the DFW Power Exchange

Invite to Hardy Haberman’s demo

9pm

Invite to Sanctuary party

You and any guests MUST RSVP and wear your NCSF badges to attend these optional events.

The munch begins at 7pm and is off site. The party is also off site and begins at 9pm. If you are not attending the munch, should plan to arrive *no earlier than* 9pm. Doors close to the party at 10:00pm.

Sunday – June 7, 2009

9:15am-9:30am – Welcome

9:30am – 9:45am – NCSF’s Volunteer of the Year

9:45am - 10:15am – Elections

10:15am – 11:00am – The union of the two (c)3 and (c)4

11:00am-12:00pm – More Committee Reports

- Bylaws Amendments

- 2010 Budget

12:000pm – 12:15pm – Take aways

1:00pm – 3:00pm – NCSF & You Workshop by Susan Wright

Rebecca Standley
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
www.ncsfreedom.org

NCSF Spring Newsletter: Catalina, TNG, Retreat and Tabu!

on Monday, 04 May 2009. Hits 1370

In this issue:

Catalina Loves The NCSF

NCSF Board Retreat: Change, the Time Is Now

Darian Il Re on Baltimore's TNG

Tabu Social Club: Swing Fundraiser for thr NCSF

READ THE NEWSLETTER- CLICK HERE

This Quarter's Newsletter was the most fun to write.  It features several different community perspectives, inclduing an article by Catalina Loves, talking about how the NCSF helped her in a critical moment in her life; a youth group in Baltimore that serves to help newcomers find their second skin, Tabu Social Club a success story for the NCSF Incident Response Program and a lively swing community space, and the new changes the NCSF is facing to better serve you resultant from our first ever joint board retreat.  This issue is indicative of the new communications you should expect to see from the NCSF, highlighting not just the critical threats facing us, but the joy our community has and the beauty we aim to share with the world--and now with color pictures and more content!

I hope you enjoy, and don't forget that now your stories, your opinions and your writing can be featured in the NCSF blog and newsletter so submit yours to: This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

-Klawdya Rothschild

Catalina Loves on the NCSF!!!!

on Sunday, 12 April 2009. Hits 1532

Catalina Loves, maven of Best Sex Bloggers, Fetlife and her own blog Catalina Loves writes a personal story of her experiences with the injustices facing the alternative lifestylers and the support she received from the NCSF:

My relationship with the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) began like many others do. I was neck deep in a conflict that was based in my free expression of my sexuality through my writing. I was asked to leave my teaching position, an agreement was reached and I left quietly without creating a scene. I used to teach in a small, private school in North Carolina, where my daughter also attended school. When I left my teaching position I was assured that it would not affect her last and final year of middle school.

Months passed, and we were within days of her returning to the 8th grade when I received a call from the Head of School that he had decided to rescind his offer to allow her to go to school there. After heated debate, he agreed that she could attend school, but if and only if I could secure a $1,000.00 expense fee to cover her field trips and lunches in advance. It was a bullshit fee, to be honest. It's not required of any other parent. He knew that we would not be able to come up with $1,000 in a matter of days. This was his way of keeping her out without risking litigation.

So I wondered what led this man, elder in his church, who had given me his word that my child would be unaffected, to suddenly revoke something that we had agreed upon? He said that based on an email to my husband, he had changed his mind. I looked at Marky, while still on the phone, and asked, "Did you exchange any emails in the last month with the school?" Of course he had not. Well the school made a terrible error. They contacted my ex-husband, not my husband. They contacted someone who has no legal custody of our daughter, and based on that conversation had decided that I would no longer be welcome in the parent community.

This happened, I'm sure by no coincidence, at the same time that I received threatening emails from my ex-husband, who suggested that due to my deviant behavior she should come to live with him.

I reacted immediately. First, I raised the money in a raffle that was initially supported by Lochai and quickly built into a huge CommUNITY movement of kinksters who were outraged. Secondly, I contact NCSF and accessed professional advice and consultations through their Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) listing. With the help of the community and the NCSF I felt prepared for battle.

Now, coming full circle, I am honored that my PR firm, Quid Pro Quo, will be working with NCSF on the launching of a new blog. We are doing the work pro-bono to show NCSF our appreciation and to give back to an organization that protects all of us. It feels really great to be in a position to give back. So do us a favor and help us help them. We'll be asking people to repost and tweet links and I hope you'll consider it your way of giving back to such an amazing organization.

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