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Action Alert - Dr. Phil

February 10, 2006 - NCSF releases an Action Alert regarding TV's "Dr. Phil" and his latest hour-long special, where polyfidelity issues are discussed - and "Dr. Phil" tells the couple, and the viewing audience, that polyfidelity is nothing but "cheating".

NCSF Action Alert

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom - Entertainment Media Update
February 10, 2006
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Show Title: Dr. Phi
Episode Title: "Twisted Love"
Original airdate: February 2, 2006
Network: Syndicated - Paramount Domestic Television & KingWorld Productions
Produced by: Paramount Domestic Television, in association with Harpo
Productions and KingWorld Productions

From the show's website: "Charles says he has exhausted his relationship with his  wife of 19 years, and he's ready to try an alternative lifestyle. Instead of getting a divorce, Charles wants to explore polyfidelity -- a relationship where he is shared between his wife and his mistress. The mistress says she'll give it a try, but his wife, Tracy, says the thought makes her sick. Can Charles convince his wife to share him for the sake of their marriage? And what does Dr. Phil think? Full description and more information at

NCSF Reviewer's note:
Since the show's usual premise is to introduce somebody with a "problem" and seemingly work towards solutions, it's no surprise that the example of polyfidelity presented by Dr. Phil was one fraught with conflicts - and most would agree that polyamory would not be an advisable relationship structure to be taken on by this particular couple. Polyamory is not for everybody and it is certainly not something to be brought in to prop up a failing relationship. Unfortunately, rather than presenting this as one specific instance where polyamory might not be appropriate, Dr. Phil chose to scoff at its validity altogether: "I didn't just come in on a load of turnips. I look up everything that's out there. When I read 'polyfidelity' in the Dr. Phil dictionary, it says 'cheating'." All in all, the show should be critiqued for its dismissive stance towards polyamory and encouraged to understand that many people are able to enjoy healthy and supportive polyamorous relationships.


Dr. Phil Show
5482 Wilshire Boulevard #1902
Los Angeles, CA 90036

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Hollywood, CA 90038





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