1. Hearing tonight in Greenburgh dominatrix case
2. A Farewell to a Foot Slave
3. Weddings Or S&M? Weirton Mansion Offers Both
4. Beyond the Bedroom
5. Extravagasm Fantasy Ball draws sexually expressive eclectic crowd
1. Hearing tonight in Greenburgh dominatrix case
2. A Farewell to a Foot Slave
3. Weddings Or S&M? Weirton Mansion Offers Both
4. Beyond the Bedroom
5. Extravagasm Fantasy Ball draws sexually expressive eclectic crowd
Hearing tonight in Greenburgh dominatrix case
by staff writer
The Journal News (Lower Hudson area, NY)
November 10, 2006
GREENBURGH – A suspended police officer's meeting with a dominatrix will be the subject of an administrative hearing this evening.
The officer, Erik Ward, was charged in March with official misconduct as well as departmental disciplinary charges that could lead to his dismissal.
The woman, Gina Pane, accused him of having sexual contact with her in January – one night after she was arrested on charges of driving while ability impaired by drugs, and unlawful possession of marijuana.
Pane accused Ward and fellow officers of sexually harassing her at headquarters.
Pane also accused Ward of meeting with her the next day, when she claimed he discussed her arrest and the possibility of her becoming an informant.
She also claimed she performed certain sex acts for him.
Ward's lawyer confirmed the meeting but denied sexual contact took place.
Ward was suspended in March after a seven-week investigation by police and the Westchester County District Attorney.
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A Farewell to a Foot Slave
by Liz Armstrong (from opinion column "Chicago Antisocial")
The Chicago Reader
November 10, 2006
"THERE'S NO ONE quite like you", he said with a wistful sigh, caressing my instep, half a dozen vanilla-scented candles twinkling behind him on a grotesquely oversize entertainment center, the soft R & B strains of Kem floating from a boom box. I had just told my foot slave I'm leaving Chicago and moving to Las Vegas at the end of the month. This would be our last rendezvous, after seven years of semiregular meetings.
In July 1999 I answered an adult classified ad in New City headlined "Your yuks, my bucks", which went on to elaborate that a stud named Danny (not his real name, but for the sake of his privacy I'm running with it) would pay $50 an hour to tickle some lucky lady's cute feet. Thanks to two uncles who liked to hold me down as a child and wiggle their fingers in my armpits until I peed my pants, I hate being tickled, but at the time I needed the money, so I called. Over the phone Danny assured me this would involve no sex, no nudity even, and promised he'd behave like a gentleman.
After a month or so of weekly visits there was very little tickling. With gales of fake laughter I gradually directed him toward the parts of my feet that were more thick skinned. Another month later I told him he was no longer allowed to hold my ankles down like that, nor was he allowed to suck on, lick, or kiss my feet for more than a few minutes total, nor even touch my person above the lower shin. When I told him how taxing it was for me to be tickled, he felt terrible. To make up for it he started rubbing my feet – a for-real relaxing massage that sometimes put me to sleep – for almost the entire hour.
Danny was into guilt trips and feeling unworthy. Often our meetings started with him lying facedown on the dirty carpet and I'd just rest my feet on his back like he was a piece of furniture. We always met on Saturday because he liked going to church the next day to repent. All I'd have to do was act like it was a big deal for me to take an hour out of my day to come over for the foot rub and he'd pay me double, sometimes with a tip.
During our meetings, I was the princess and he was the drooling Igor who was lucky I had graced him with my presence. No, it was more than that: he was lucky I would even consider taking his money for gracing him with my presence. It's basically how your typical dominatrix operates, minus the corny fetish gear and code words.
A while back I was commissioned to write about Danny for Nerve.com, and the story was killed after three rewrites because the editor kept asking me to describe how I felt and I couldn't do it. I couldn't bring myself to document and measure the nature of our relationship, how my feelings about him went from fear to disgust to gratitude, then to pity, and finally to total apathy. I tried hard not to think about it too much, because that would mean admitting to myself that some parts of me are dark, manipulative, ugly – especially when it comes to men.
I wanted to think of our interactions as a job, not a relationship. I didn't want him permeating my life, though I had permeated his. But in a weird way, he's the most loyal friend I have. He bailed me out of some sticky situations when no one else would. He's been with me through seven apartments, three major boyfriends, and the death of two pets. At the end of our last meeting, I kissed him on the cheek for the first time. I knew it would mean the world to him.
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Weddings Or S&M? Weirton Mansion Offers Both
by Renee Cardelli and Natalie Pasquarella
WTOV TV (Steubenville OH/Wheeling, WV)
November 9, 2006
One day it's a place for weddings, the next it can transform into a nudist retreat.
And most Weirton residents aren't even aware of what's going on behind closed doors in a mansion on Marland Heights.
The mansion, formerly occupied by E.W. Weir, is just feet away from Williams Country Club and in walking distance of a neighborhood park.
On its website, Rosemont Manor offers to cater to wedding receptions and parties. But another website advertises the same building for swingers, nudists and S&M.
Owner Rose Susko said she welcomes alternative lifestyles.
"That particular (website) talks about fetish, swingers, nudists. Yes, those are topics that are prevalent in our society today and if people would like to come here and discuss things of that nature, they are more than welcome to," Susko said.
A Marland Heights resident enjoying the fall weather with his family said he was upset to hear what is offered just up the road.
"I think it's totally antagonistic to a family wanting to raise children here. (There's) definitely no need for anything of that nature to be in this area," said Brent Beatty.
But Susko contends she isn't harming anyone.
"There's not anything out of the ordinary going on here – maybe a little more not quite mainstream topics, but there's nothing illegal going on. It's not a sex club – certainly not," Susko said.
Councilman George Kondik said he's received numerous phone calls from people angry about the website and the building.
"Not only are they worried about it, I'm worried about it too. But, like I said, morally yes, it's probably not the right thing to do, but they're not doing anything illegal that we know of," Kondik said.
Kondik said because there is no illegal activity going on at the mansion, the city can not take any action with regard to the matter.
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Beyond the Bedroom
by Kelly Walsh and Stevie Hottman (opinion/advice column)
The Oracle (Hamline University, Minnesota)
November 7, 2006
[Q.] Dear Kelly and Stevie,
My boyfriend fantasized about me being a dominatrix in the bedroom, but I'm rather shy; you might even call me conservative. Is the whip really what he wants? Is this common? -Rough Rider
[A.] SH: There are many ways you can go about solving this dilemma. This doesn't have to be something for you to stress out about.
KW: First, it's good to try to step out of your comfort zone. Take small risks. If he wants you to be a dominatrix, try being a little more assertive and aggressive with him, and work your way up. See if he likes it, but remember to have fun.
SH: If you feel pressured to do things that you're not comfortable with, be sure that he knows. Don't do something purely for his sake; there are two of you in this relationship, after all. If you're having trouble stepping out of your comfort zone, try doing something without your boyfriend. For example, you and a close friend could browse a local adult sex shop just to see what is available. Seeing that other people are trying these things might help you to realize how common it really is.
KW: For starters, you are going to need an outfit. A good place to go is Venus on Lake Street. They have some awesome get-ups that are nice and risque for fulfilling any fantasy. They have everything you could possibly need from whips and chains to sexy hooker shoes. Also, try watching some adult films with similar characters to get some ideas to step out of the box. And please do not get free porn online (it is pretty raunchy and there are much more classy videos available for rent or to buy). Don't be afraid to ask for some help (the employees at these stores are usually very helpful).
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Extravagasm Fantasy Ball draws sexually expressive eclectic crowd
by Jennifer Cooke
The Daily Texan (University of Texas at Austin)
November 6, 2006
A jar filled with brightly colored panties sat on a desk at Redrum Club Saturday night. A sign in front of it read "Panties for Peace." Charles Xavier took a big whiff from the jar and said he loves wearing pantyhose and panties.
"They feel like candy wrappers on candy," he said.
Forbidden Fruit, a fetish boutique and toy store, sponsored the fifth annual Extravagasm Fantasy Ball in an effort to "Keep Austin Kinky." People dressed up as their fantasy and participated in a best-dressed contest, watched bondage and fetish shows performed, ate penis, nipple and vagina cupcakes, and donated their "panties for peace."
Women nearby fretted that they were unable to donate because they were not wearing any panties.
"People could just smell panties all day instead of dropping bombs," proposed Missy Missy, another partygoer in a costume in which her breasts were exposed but her nipples painted over.
A variety of acts entertained the crowd. A bondage performer tied a woman up in ropes on stage. Woman dressed as "Satan's Cheerleaders" danced inside of cages.
"That's what America is all about, failing to express themselves sexually," [Xavier] said. "This is an opportunity to let go of the expression."
The real "whacks" are not the people who attend outings such as Extravagasm, but rather those person who do not have an outlet for their sexuality, said Xavier. He blamed America's conservative sexual views for its high rate of sex crimes.
Bill Johnson wore only a thong and a leash around his neck, which his friend Kali Rinpoche used to lead him around and ask young ladies if they would like to whip her slave. Spankers chose between a paddle, a riding crop and a clacker.
Rinpoche said it is best to begin by lightly tapping the fleshy part of the bottom, slowly going faster and harder and then once momentum is worked up, take one hard whack.
Johnson had welts across his backside and said that's the way he liked it. If he is not spanked hard enough to get welts, he does not enjoy it.
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