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Media Update – November 19, 2008

1. Etiquette, Bigotry, and Fetish Modeling

2. Duncanville police arrest third person in Cherry Pit case

3. Pick your pleasure

4. Seminar To Whip Out S&M Truths

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom — Media Update
November 18, 2008

NCSF Media Updates represent a sampling of recent stories printed in US
newspapers, magazines, and selected websites containing significant
mention of SM-leather-fetish, polyamory, or swing issues and topics.

These stories may be positive, negative, accurate, inaccurate – or
anywhere in between.

NCSF publishes the Updates to provide readers a comprehensive look at what
media outlets are writing about these topics. NCSF permits and encourages
readers to forward these Updates where appropriate.

Etiquette, Bigotry, and Fetish Modeling
by Dan Savage
syndicated column (via East Bay Express, CA)
November 19, 2008

[Q.] For the past year, I’ve been a submissive in a D/s relationship with
my boyfriend. I love him VERY much, and he is more respectful toward me
than any other man I’ve been with. Lately, we’ve been toying with the idea
of creating a fetish-modeling web site. I do not want to be shot nude or
have sex on camera, but I LOVE the idea of bondage photos and pursuing
this as a career, and so does he. From the photos I’ve done so far, I’m
pretty sure this could pay off AND be more personally satisfying than a
job at a newspaper. But I’m nervous about what my family and friends will

[A.] Journalism or fetish modeling, journalism or fetish modeling ,gee,
which career is right for you? If you bothered to read newspapers you
would know that times are tough at daily newspapers. The Internet ate
their business model, and right now, it’s all layoffs and buyouts all the
time. If you care so little about journalism that you’re tempted to make a
career of posting bondage pictures to a web site instead, KC, then don’t
go into journalism. Leave the few jobs that remain at newspapers to people
who have some passion for the field.

So it’s fetish modeling for you, right? Not so fast, kinkster. Porn
companies, large and small, are experiencing similar financial
difficulties. Just as many people are willing to write for free online,
many millions of people are willing to post everything from “tasteful”
fetish shots to hardcore porn online for free. So while there may be a
handful of people out there who’ll pay to see you tied up, you’re probably
not going to make enough money as a fetish model to support yourself. So
you might want to think of some other line of work b perhaps banking or
real estate?


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Duncanville police arrest third person in Cherry Pit case
by Brian Allen
Best Southwest Citizen (via Pagasus News, Dallas/Ft. Worth TX)
November 4, 2008

Duncanville police have made a third arrest related to the Cherry Pit
swingers club. Deena Clingman, 37, has been arrested on suspicion of
engaging in organized crime. That could bring a sentence of anywhere from
5-99 years or life in prison and a fine of up to $10,000.

According to police reports Clingman was an employee of the Cherry Pit and
received bfun moneyb and tips from patrons. Fun money is reportedly used
to purchase sexual favors at the club. On Oct. 28, a jury found club owner
Jim Trulock guilty on all 10 counts brought against him. The battle is far
from over and there are additional charges pending against the club
ownership. Also, comments from Cherry Pit attorney Ed Klein seem to
indicate an appeal is likely.


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Pick your pleasure
by Kelly Miller (opinion column)
The Daily Wildcat (University of Arizona)
October 29, 2008

Many people like to spice up their sex lives every now and then.

It’s not uncommon for couples to experiment in the bedroom, from tying a
partner up with a fuzzy pair of handcuffs to wearing a costume for
role-play – especially in college.

Still, many don’t want to think that their bedroom antics may fall into
the category of bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism (BDSM), which is
not seen as common bedroom behavior.

Scott Marshall, a business management senior, doesn’t like to think using
handcuffs with his partner during sex is a form of bondage.

“I think of BDSM as black leather and handcuffs in like a small room,”
Marshall said. “Ball-in-mouth type of thing – violent.”

From using simple restraints like handcuffs and scarves to spanking, BDSM
consists of a wide range of activities usually involving one partner
giving up control and submitting to the requests of his or her partner.
The payoff is pleasure – whether comfortable or not.

Like any sexual activity, however, the satisfaction of participating in
BDSM activities is more than meets the eye.

Justine Pigott likes to be the submissive partner during sexual play and
often finds herself tied up.

“Being submissive means that you get treated like shit,” said Pigott, a
psychology senior. “The dominant partner tells you what to do and how to
do it. You theoretically have absolutely no control over what happens with
your own body.”

For many like Pigott who experiment with BDSM, the pain can be just as
pleasurable as sex.

“It’s like when you get a piecing or tattoo; there’s an adrenaline rush,”
Pigott said. “It’s the same thing. You feel alive.”

In the world of BDSM, Pigott said that she is a “switch,” which means that
she can take the dominant or submissive role. Still, she said the biggest
issue is not whether she is in control but whether she is comfortable with
her partner.

“It depends how much you trust your partner,” Pigott said. “If I don’t
trust someone very much then I’ll do light bondage – handcuffs, whatever –
but if it’s someone you really trust, then there really aren’t any

At Desert Dominion, a Tucson BDSM club, the mind is the only limitation
when it comes to pleasure, something that’s evident by the furniture
scattered around their clubhouse. From the variety of cages throughout the
room to the coffin resting against a wall, members participate in a wide
range of play to help each other fulfill their innermost fantasies.

For many members, BDSM means nothing more than using simple restraints
such as handcuffs or role-play. But to some Desert Dominion members, BDSM
allows them to engage in activities that are seldom discussed in public,
such as play that involves fear or pain. It is not unusual for members to
use props and tools such as whips and needles during BDSM activities to
give each other pleasure.

Jefferson James, a Tucson resident and Desert Dominion’s BDSM education
director, said the biggest challenge for people unfamiliar with BDSM is to
accept that pleasure can be derived from activities that are not sexual in

“A lot of people don’t understand how pain can give you pleasure,” James
said. “I resisted needles and hooks for the longest time because I didn’t
get it. Then I tried it. One of the analogies we use is like it’s trying
to describe sex to a virgin. You don’t know what it is and what it does to
you. That is the biggest obstacle to overcome. There are people out there
that the idea that pain can be pleasurable is such an oxymoron that they
can’t understand it. It’s a specific, erotized pain in an (intended) way.”

While some BDSM participants will seek out situations that cause some sort
of discomfort or pain in their quest for pleasure, many agree BDSM is
about much more than physical satisfaction.

For James and Pigott, the greatest pleasure often comes from helping their
partners – not themselves.


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Seminar To Whip Out S&M Truths
by Richard Lau
The Daily Nexus (University of California, Santa Barbara)
October 29, 2008

Students who have ever fantasized about being strapped down, forced into a
leather gimp mask and flogged by someone in ass-less chaps will find
themselves in leather-bound heaven tonight.

Starting at 7:30 p.m. in the Student Resource Building, the campus
organization Kink University: a Fetish Fellowship will host a free seminar
on safe BDSM practices. Free pizza and sex toys will also be on hand at
the seminar.

BDSM b short for Bondage, Discipline, Dominance-Submission and
Sado-Masochism b is an overarching category that describes a variety of
activities, which may or may not be sexual in nature. What these
activities do have in common is a universal goal of deriving pleasure from
pain and/or the taking or relinquishing of power.

KUFF President Shaun Ballou, a fourth-year chemical engineering major,
said the seminar and the group aim to convince students BDSM is a normal
leisure pursuit that can be practiced in a healthy manner.

bItbs our goal to teach people that [if they] think getting spanked in the
bedroom is fun then that is okay,b Ballou said. bAnd [we also want to
teach] how to go about that in a safe, sane and consensual manner.b

Ballou said he hopes the seminar will clear up myths and misconceptions
surrounding BDSM and show the practice is not confined to bfreaks.b

Ryan Yoshinaga, a UCSB alumni and vice president of KUFF, said science can
be used to explain why BDSM feels good to some people.

bEnduring pain provides endorphins to be released into the body,b
Yoshinaga said. bJust like when an athlete has an intense practice session
or a body building has a rigorous workout session, they will receive this

Corrine Tritz, a graduate student in the Theater Dept., said KUFFbs
programs are beneficial to college students just beginning to explore
their sexualities.

bPersonally, I find a lot of the stuff that goes on at parties in [Isla
Vista] much more dangerous and disturbing than the BDSM activities I
practice,b Tritz said.

The seminar will also focus on what is referred to in the BDSM community
as bimpact play,b an activity that involves various techniques for
striking the body.


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