Huffington Post
How do you celebrate Valentine’s Day when your husband has two girlfriends, one of whom lives with you? How about when you’ve got two boyfriends yourself?
For answers, The Huffington Post turned to Tamara Pincus, a local psychotherapist who specializes in sexuality. Pincus hosts a call-in radio show — “Sex Talk with Tamara Pincus” — and leads a discussion group for people in nonmonogamous relationships.
She also knows about Valentine’s Day for polyamorists from personal experience. Pincus lives in Northern Virginia with her two children, her husband and one of her husband’s girlfriends. Her husband also has one other girlfriend and Pincus has two boyfriends.
It sounds like a complicated group of people to share a box of chocolates and a candlelight dinner with every Feb. 14. Is it?
HuffPost DC: What does it mean to be in a polyamorous relationship?
Pincus: We are open and honest about having multiple relationships with multiple people. My poly family consists of me and my husband. We’ve been married for nine years. One of my husband’s girlfriends lives with us, so she also helps out with childcare and house work, and that kind of stuff. And we also have outside relationships on top of that.
We were non-monogamous for the last four years or so. But we didn’t start having real intense poly relationships until about a year ago. I’d experimented with being poly before. For my husband it was totally new. …