KENS 5
by Jenny Suniga
Keeping the spice in a marriage can be difficult. Some turn to therapy or date nights, others have sex with other couples.
Tina and Fred, who wish to remain anonymous have been married for 30 years and are swingers.
They’ve been in the “lifestyle” as it’s called, for seven years.
“It’s fun. it’s different. It’s exciting.” said Fred.
“We learn things from other couples. We learn things we like and things we don’t like and try them out at home, said Fred’s wife Tina.
Tina, an accountant, and Fred who is retired from the military, are among the estimated 4 million swingers in the U.S.
It’s become a multi-billion dollar industry with conventions, destination resorts and cruises.
There’s also apps, websites and private clubs.
One of the top clubs in the country is right here in San Antonio, The Player’s Club.
“We are not out in the open because we don’t want everyone coming by here. We want people to seek us out. People that are looking for this in their relationship. It’s not for everybody.” said club owner Tom, who prefers to keep his identity hidden.
Tom and his wife of 34 years opened the club 15 years ago as a hobby and it grew quickly.
Tom says the club now has 4000 members which consists of people who work in law enforcement, the medical field and even school teachers.
“This is a safe way to meet people in the swinging lifestyle to meet friends and socialize and interact. A lot of people not in the lifestyle will think it’s just a wild orgy and it’s not.
It looks like any other nightclub with a dance floor and music but this club has private cabanas and a special room with toys etc.
Sex is not allowed on the main floor but anything goes in the cabanas and that special room.
You can pretty much do anything you want. You can live out your wildest fantasy just remember women call the shots.
“We want women to be comfortable.” said Tom.
There are rules to keep women feeling safe for example, couples are screened before they become members, single men have to be invited and you must ask before you touch.
“We don’t like pushy behavior. We don’t like groping.” said Tom.
Privacy is of the utmost importance and for that reason Tina and Fred have become regulars at the club. …