For someone who doesn’t play by society’s sexual rules, the secret to happiness is living in the present.
Advocate
BY SPENCER JONES
“Why can’t bisexuals choose a side? You’re so greedy!”
“If you’re polyamorous, does that mean you sleep with everybody?”
“Is every sexual experience like an Eyes Wide Shut orgy?”
There isn’t a bisexual and/or polyamorous person on the planet who hasn’t heard these questions verbatim or a variation of them. I take it in stride these days, but I also recognize that the exalting of heterosexuality and monogamy is problematic for those of us who don’t fit neatly into these boxes. As it is Bisexual Visibility Week, I hope that sharing my experiences as a polyamorous bisexual can dispel some of the misinformation and crank open closed minds.