AutoStraddle
by Danielle
For Anna, another self-identified brat, this plethora of options allowed her to find her place in BDSM. “I started out identifying as a submissive, but I was always so frustrated in scenes!” she told me. “I started to think that maybe I was a dominant, but I eventually got bored with that, too. It wasn’t until later on that I realized submission doesn’t have to be one-size-fits-all.”
I’m not sure “open-minded” is the best term for the type of dominant that would work for a “submissive brat” — just someone who like to engage in that struggle. It isn’t a matter of being open-minded or not, just knowing what works for you as a dominant. And no, not all of us are cookie-cutter types either.