“We got into the four questions that made a prosecutor tell her she had just solved a case, why strangulation is a lethality indicator rather than a preference, what sexual sadism actually means and why consensual kink does not meet the diagnostic threshold, how coercion hides as ten extra minutes just under the line where anyone would name it, and how a therapist actually becomes a kink aware professional, including why the directory people list themselves in is a visibility tool and not a credential. She also walked me through original research she is early into on where serial homicide and intimate partner violence overlap, which she is careful to call preliminary every single time it comes up.”