You know you’re curious…
Women’s Health Magazine
BY ALLISON BERRY
Remember witnessing #thatawkwardmoment on Girls when Allison Williams’ butt was motor-boated? Or what about watching Christian Grey tease Ana Steele with a flogger for the first time? There’s no denying it: We’re seeing more adventurous sex acts in pop culture…and some of them may leave you wondering if you should give them a try.
If you’re looking for a little nudge of encouragement, know this: Getting your freak on might help rev up the passion between you and your partner, says Jane Greer, Ph.D., a New York-based marriage and sex therapist and author of What about me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship.
Find out whether these moves are for you—and how to give them a try:
Rimming
As seen on TV: This is oral stimulation of the anus, á la Marnie Michaels in Girls.
Should you try it? This wild move is good for women and men who already love receiving oral stimulation and don’t mind or are curious about booty action, says Jenni Skyler, Ph.D., of The Intimacy Institute in Boulder, Colorado. The anus has a high concentration of nerve endings, so it can be a huge erogenous zone for some, says Greer.
Give it a go: Have your partner gently rub your anus with his fingers while he’s going down on you, says Skyler. Then, when you give him the green light, he can start using his tongue around the anus or even in it—if you want, of course. Make sure you give him direction on how much pressure you like and how fast you want him to go, says Skyler. “Communication is key with all of these practices,” she says.
Flogging
As seen on screen: The first time Christian and Ana in Fifty Shades of Grey get busy with a flogger (those whip-like things with tassels hanging from them), it’s super sexy and gentle. But you know at some point it’s going to get really rough—exciting, right?
Should you try it? If watching Christian and Ana go at it in the Red Room turned you on—rather than frightened you—you might like to give flogging a shot, says Skyler. In order for you to really nail this, though, you need to make sure your partner’s completely on-board. “One thing that the movie does not do a good job of demonstrating is complete consent,” she says. If either one of you thinks you might not like this, back away from the flogger. …