Polyamory can come with many partners and many misconceptions. Newsy’s Cody LaGrow asks a polyamorous unit what it’s really all about.
Newsy
By Cody LaGrow
Caroline is married to Josie. Caroline is also in a committed relationship with Adam. They share one house and two kids, and they all call the shots under the same roof. This is a polyamorous relationship.
Polyamory, the philosophy or state of being emotionally and sexually involved with more than one person at the same time, comes with many misconceptions. Caroline, Josie and Adam cleared up questions many may have about polyamory.
Newsy’s Cody LaGrow: Do you think monogamy is unrealistic?
Caroline: “No. I hate the idea of polyamory and monogamy being pitted against each other. Obviously, one thing that makes polyamory different than monagamy is, in theory, you are having sex with multiple partners. But it’s not just about sex. You are loving multiple partners. And that’s really what polyamory is about. It’s about love. And that expression of love usually leads to sex.”
Cody: How often do you hear that you’re having your cake and eating it, too?
Josie: “You hear it … and that it’s just different. I think a lot of people view us as these weirdos on the fringes of society, but to us, it feels weird to not have a choice. And just sort of default to monogamy because that’s what everybody does.”
Adam: “I found that monogamy, sort of, constrained my ideas about love. Like, I needed to find the one person for me. That is a huge thing to go about doing.”
Caroline: “What do we in society call ‘the one’? The one romantic person in your life, the one sexual person in your life, your best friend, the one person who is going to give you financial security, the one person who is going to give you family security, who you’re going to have children with, who you’re going to build all of these things with. And I think in a lot of societies and a lot cultures, we rely on more than one person to do that.” …