The Vermilion “You can try yourself,” Menard added, “but the time required to understand BDSM can be greatly lessened by getting involved with the community. “It’s like Ollivander’s, the wand shop in ‘Harry Potter:’ you gotta find the right one,” David said of the various leather and BDSM related items. “I hope that people who are interested in kinks take the time to find resources that will take that journey along,” Menard said.