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Here’s How Solo Poly Compares to Other Kinds of Polyamory

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People don’t simply fall into being solo poly. “It’s not a matter of circumstance, like single poly, where someone may be looking for a primary partner but does not currently have one,” adds Gabrielle Smith, a writer and non-monogamy educator. It’s also different from “dating around” the way a non-poly person might. When someone is simply “dating around,” they typically have a string of connections until they find the “one,” and proceed to settle down with them. A solo poly person has no desire to settle down with one (or multiple people) anytime soon.