Words like “explore” and “figure things out” can help you communicate, she says. “You’re doing this together. It’s not just a case of ticking off a ‘yes or no’ list of kinks.” https://mashable.com/article/mismatched-kinkiness-vanilla-bdsm?fbclid=IwAR028ETiNzHJqFhPFeS-AkFuvvjHVoEFvw92MkYtaMGR9an0pAcTM_SW_0o
