This week, I am doing something on the podcast I don’t normally do—featuring a story of someone within my community. My guest, L, joins me for a conversation about how her ex-husband contested their custody agreement after he learned of L’s postings of adult content online. The case and the …
“But one of the most fulfilling parts of my polyamory ended up coming from an unexpected person: my metamour ― my partner’s girlfriend. For the first time in a long while, someone who wasn’t interested in having sex or falling in romantic love with me put time and effort into …
“Just because you’re experimenting with kinky sex, that doesn’t mean you need to jump right in at the deep end and passion in the heat of the moment doesn’t excuse rushing in and not giving or getting consent. It can be exciting trying something new, especially if the idea of …
Brett Chamberlin, the executive director of the Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy (OPEN) shared his thoughts on the finale that recently aired on the 2023 TV schedule with TMZ. He noted that it’s “tempting to celebrate every portrayal of non-monogamy in popular media.” However, when it came to Riverdale …
“I’m grateful I didn’t let my nerves get the best of me. The experience taught me that the “scary” and “intense” stereotypes of the BDSM world aren’t universal. Tying can be gentle and kind, something to create connection of all types — with yourself, friends, or sexual partners. I left …
“Shame and judgment do go hand in hand—and our culture, especially when it comes to sexuality, is a shame-based one. When combined with complicated feelings about dominance and submission, pain and pleasure, we are prone to negatively judge ourselves and by extension others, in a subconscious attempt to relieve the …
“Communication is lubrication, friends! Be sure that you and your partner(s) fully discuss and negotiate what the scene will look like and what kind of play is going to take place. Everyone within a scene must have their boundaries respected at all times. Have safe words in place to stop …
“Ideally if we’re saying non monogamy, it should be ethical and consensual, built into it,” said marriage and family therapist and host of the Sluts & Scholars podcast, Nicoletta Heidegger. “Otherwise it would be cheating.” https://mashable.com/article/what-is-consensual-non-monogamy
Regardless of the exact agreements at play, a “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” relationship structure allows people to receive only the information they actually want to receive, within a container that is safe, loving, and consensual. “It offers a clear and intentional way to create a filter valve on the flow …
“Studies find that about one in five persons has had an open relationship, the same proportion of the population that owns cats, according to Moors. Think about the number of people you know who have a feline for a pet. A similar number of those in your social circle have …
