“A lot of the backlash against nonmonogamy is, in my opinion, reflective of anxieties about monogamy. And while there are absolutely couples in open relationships where one is very unhappy with the arrangement – as the tweet above suggests – what about the millions of married couples where one is crying themselves to sleep every night because they know the other is cheating, or because they want to leave but don’t have connections and support outside of their partner? Why is the idea of genuinely being able to love multiple partners so culturally unavailable? Is it because functioning polyamory might flash up some of the potential problems with monogamy: the scarcity mindset around affection or the possibilities for isolation and coercion? And might experienced poly people be able to teach us something about how to avoid unhappy, entrapping versions of monogamy, and how to cope better with common insecurities around relationships, even if you ultimately want an exclusive relationship?” https://www.dazeddigital.com/life-culture/article/58038/1/the-inside-story-of-the-nonmonogamy-boom-backlash-polyamory
