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My Dating Life Does Not Determine My Blackness

“I date folks who align with my values. I date folks who make me smile. I date folks who love me hard and long, and show up every day, and make fun of me when I drop everything all the time. There is no race requirement for that. In fact, I’ve seen many women date other Black folks and still experience bigotry within their relationships. Anti-Blackness is universal. We all must unlearn it. Racism is not the only landmine we face when choosing partners. When I meet prospective partners, I must be prepared to combat homophobia, transphobia, misogyny, classism, and a thousand and one other sociopolitical factors.”