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Incident Reporting & Response – 1st Quarter 2021 Report

By Susan Wright, Director of IRR

NCSF’s Incident Reporting & Response received 68 reports & requests for assistance from individuals, groups and businesses in January, February, and March, 2021. That is nearly three times the 23 reports received in the 4th Quarter of 2020. Of these reports, a record 13 dealt with outing, either of groups or individuals.

NCSF maintains the confidentiality of those who come to us for help, however we balance that need with the need to report the services we are providing and to provide the community with a record of where the need is the greatest.

Here is a breakdown of the cases we dealt with in the 1st Quarter of 2021:


Resources were requested by 23 organizations and people who are dealing with groups, compared to 5 requests in the 4th Quarter of 2020. The reports include:

  • 8 groups asked for a consultation on consent policies & procedures and dealing with Diversity, Equity and Inclusion incidents
  • 5 people asked for assistance in dealing with their group’s handling of consent policies & procedures and dealing with DEI incidents
  • 4 groups were threatened with outing or were outed
  • 3 groups were asking about presenters/organizers or reporting they had banned someone
  • 2 groups needed information on incorporating as a nonprofit
  • 1 group needed resources on the legal issues involved in BDSM and swing parties


There were 18 requests for resources and information involving criminal legal matters, compared to 6 in the 4th Quarter of 2020:  The reports include:

  • 13 reports came from people who were assaulted, sexually assaulted, nonconsensually touched, stalked, harassed, or applying for a restraining order
  • 4 reports requested resources and referrals for attorneys and resources to assist in defending themselves against allegations of sexual assault, human trafficking, or a restraining order hearing
  • 1 report involved obscenity law and fiction


There were 17 reports compared to 4 in the 4th Quarter of 2020:

  • 9 people were outed to employers and online or were threatened with outing over BDSM or Consensual Non-monogamy
  • 3 people faced job discrimination due to BDSM or polyamory
  • 2 professionals reported that their Instagram or PayPal account had been suspended because they serve alt-sex communities
  • 1 person was denied housing due to polyamory
  • 1 media outlet received a cease & desist for trademark infringement
  • 1 person needed info on legalizing polyamory households


There were 6 requests regarding professionals compared to 4 in the 4th Quarter of 2020:

  • 2 people were looking for a kink aware or polyamory aware therapist or mediator
  • 1 professional needed information on kink-shaming
  • 1 professional needed information on reporting assault in a BDSM context to law enforcement 
  • 1 researcher needed information about a swing club in the 60s
  • 1 professional needed information on advertising to sex workers under FOSTA

Child Custody

There were 4 requests for resources and referrals for family court attorneys, compared to 4 in the 4th Quarter of 2020:

  • 2 involved kink and non-monogamy
  • 2 involved kink (1 with Fetlife photos)