Mihalko elaborated: “Maybe your first time, you actually get together with everybody and leave your underwear on. Or maybe you just make out and take your tops off, or maybe you all shower together,” and save more involved sex acts for a future encounter. “It’s better to get together more times, and work your way up to a point when everything’s on the table, than to try to do it all at once and have it explode in everyone’s faces,” Mihalko said.