“Having my consent violated at the party reminded me of how I can be undervalued by whiteness in any space. Without confronting the cycle of oppression, we reproduce trauma, even in spaces that try to focus on consent. We cannot enjoy empowerment through BDSM and kinky play in shared spaces unless white folks recognize this fundamental part of the cycle of oppression. By centering BIPOC agency and desire through consent- and desire-focused spaces like QTBIPOC-focused BDSM, we can disrupt the cycle of abuse interpersonally and systematically.”
